1. Will appear when needed.
I found that many women, even if they are married and have two children, still have some unrealistic fantasies in their minds about their domineering boss.
I hope that my husband will be rich and leisurely, romantic and dedicated, and preferably he will be centered on himself and be loved as much as his daughter.
This is simply unrealistic, because after getting married, the focus of a man’s life will inevitably shift. When he doesn’t want to fall in love, he just needs to have a good relationship. After he has a family, his mind will have to think about it every day. It contains mortgage, tuition, work and parents’ health.
So a husband who can appear in time when you need him, and who can appear in time when the family needs him, is qualified enough.
I can also keenly capture your little emotions at ordinary times, keep any good things for you, and let you go a little bit when quarreling.
2. Good character
He should be a man worthy of trust and dependence.
Although you also have your own opinions and thoughts, a man’s character affects the future of his children and family to a great extent. Once the man you choose has a bad character, you will be tired of raising him. Have you foreseen all of the complexity of caring for young children, taking care of the elderly, and supporting both parents?
Many times, when young people are in love, they always choose their lover based on their own preferences. Once they get married impulsively, they realize that they need to be practical and reliable everywhere in life. I just don’t have the choice, wouldn’t you say it’s embarrassing? Is it painful?
A man with good character can still have understanding and respect in his heart even if his appearance fades away. Even if he is tired of your nagging and verboseness, he can listen patiently and accompany you seriously. His character determines that he will not let down or give up easily, and always stick to his original intention and choice.
Marriage is not like falling in love. If you don’t like it, break up. If you feel it’s inappropriate, then break up. The end of a marriage will involve many, many things. At least this point is the most indisputable: your file will become divorced. .
Just to avoid these two words "divorce", we should keep our eyes open and choose well.
3. Be self-motivated
When men make money, it is their responsibility, while when women make money, it is their dignity. The meanings of the two are different.
Women can be much stronger than men, but men cannot give up on themselves because of this, let alone learn to take a back seat. This will be even more undesirable.
Many times, this is the case. Some men feel that their wives are very capable and earn a lot, so they start to show signs of being a softie. In fact, his job was originally It was very good, but later he felt that his self-confidence was frustrated, so he simply gave up his career and quit.
When you meet a man with such potential, it is best to avoid it. Women have many identities in marriage and need to play many roles. If they want to play these roles well, women have to choose When it comes to people, once you choose the wrong person, no matter how good you are, no matter how much you give, or how good you are at doing things, it will be difficult to control the happiness of this life. As the old man said: save, save, and wait in the hole.
You are so good, you should find a good man who is evenly matched. You can’t give yourself up casually. This is not fair to you, and it is not fair to the parents who gave birth to you and raised you. They put You have grown up like a flower, not to be sad or to worry about anyone, but to be happy.
4. Emphasis on feelings
Be sure to remember that you value feelings, but not deep affection.
Many things, once you become attached to them, will cause a lot of trouble. Just like being affectionate, if a man is too affectionate, he will become sentimental, emotional, emotional, and even do some strange things for the sake of feelings. Once these behaviors appear in real life, it will basically not be good. .
Keep a certain degree of control in everything, don’t be overly affectionate, but don’t be indifferent either, just focus on feelings.
A man who attaches great importance to feelings will respect the rules of feelings in the lives of two people, ensure the integrity of the marriage, and can develop everything around life. This is better than being persistent and stubborn after being deeply in love. A lot.
Once you are deeply in love, you are very likely to become jealous and trapped in love. If you have a slight disturbance, he will have ups and downs, and he will even supervise and cross-examine, which will make getting along very difficult. tired.
In life, simplicity is real; plainness is normal. If it is too deep and affectionate, it is easy to tire each other and delay the pace of life.
When two people who are destined to get together, they will talk more about feelings at first, and later they will talk more about life and the future. If you meet a passionate person, then he will talk about you If you keep talking about love and affection, you will feel annoyed and he will feel tired. In short, it is difficult to maintain a balance.
Simple and plain, that’s good. Don’t mix in too much love and hatred. Life needs to be practical and stable, and does not require too many storms and adventures.