? I used to say a lot of comfort or persuasion every time, or something else that would make her feel better for the time being, but this time, I know I'd better not say anything.
After going through similar stories too many times, I have understood that it is common for two people's feelings, quarrels, on-off and on-off, and in these things, the intervention of a third person for any purpose is meaningless.
? My friend and her boyfriend met and fell in love in the sophomore year. Although I am very close to her, since we broke up with our ex-boyfriend in college, we have tacitly formed the same habit: don't mention it, don't talk about it.
? So when I heard that they were together, and the boy's professional feeling was far away from her, it was difficult for me to understand the outside world at home all day, and I also had great curiosity about how they met each other.
? But after all, I didn't go into it.
? Later, with the passage of time, the relationship between them became better and better. It seems that my friend has determined that he will go with him for the rest of his life, so he began to occasionally talk about their affairs in front of me.
? She said that his grades were particularly good, and he won prizes in many competitions at school. In a few days, he will go to Beijing to participate in some scientific and technological innovation competitions on behalf of the school.
? At that time, I saw the pride and dazzling light in her eyes. Although I have never seen a boy, I am still happy for her from the bottom of my heart. I firmly believe that only such an excellent person as described in her mouth deserves her joy.
? She said that when they were together on weekends, they never talked about movies and food. They were all discussing current affairs and politics, analyzing the international situation, talking about ecological protection, and even tracing back to history ...
? It was hard for me to understand when I heard these words, but I saw the admiration and approval in her eyes and knew that she enjoyed it, so I was also happy for her.
? Then one day, she still came to me for dinner with great interest. On the way, she said: X, he will continue to study in graduate school, so I am also preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination.
? I wasn't surprised at that time, because I seemed to have guessed this day.
? What I didn't expect, however, was that from that day on, she really began to prepare for the exam. She got up at dawn every day and began to study. After class, she went to the study room, and sometimes even struggled all night.
? The firm self-discipline persisted for a long time, and when I invited her to dinner again, the great change of the girl really shocked me.
? She said that she lost more than ten kilograms. She said that she seems to be flustered if she doesn't study and do problems for a day. She said that the time for the exam is getting closer and closer, but she still doesn't have much confidence ...
? I said don't worry too much, just relax and play normally.
? Then joked that it was really impossible. Isn't he still raising her? Not afraid.
? Although I said comforting words, I was more nervous than her. She smiled: In fact, it doesn't matter if I don't pass the exam. I have gained a lot during the preparation period. Besides, it is easy for me to support myself, right? ?
? Sure enough, she is still a girl who will shine whenever and wherever.
? It's graduation season in a blink of an eye. Everyone is busy signing jobs and going their separate ways soon, so I asked my friend where she is going after graduation.
she suddenly said to me earnestly, let's stay in a city. However, X, you have to find a boyfriend as soon as possible. Theoretically, I can stay with you for a few more years, but you are alone, and I still don't feel at ease.
? She doesn't seem to have affected a little bit of emotion because of her failure in the postgraduate entrance examination, but perhaps she didn't show it. After all, I was the only one who wrote all the emotions on her face.
? It's like: when I finally graduated and didn't wait until he came back after eight years of liking, all my losses were engraved on my face.
? Although I really want her to stay with me, I want her to go to the city where boys go to graduate school, because I probably know better than anyone: how destructive distance is to the feelings of two people.
? Fortunately, as I hoped, she finally gave up a very important job despite twists and turns, and left her familiar city for a distant place, but at least she went to his side. From then on, both of us can discuss everything together and encourage persistence together.
? This seems to be the happiest, warmest and most romantic thing that a girl with little pursuit like me can think of.
? It's been more than a year since I graduated soon, and it's common for my family to urge me to find someone to get married. At this time, my friends have saved me a lot of trouble.
? After all, they have been talking for so many years, and it is natural to get married.
? But everything is not as simple as I thought.
? At the sight of their parents, it seems that both parents are not satisfied with the two young people. Perhaps both parents are proud and have to sell a lock to show that they are more important and imposing than each other.
? However, what they may have overlooked is that the combination of two people links two families for happiness, not for winning or losing.
? So, slowly, there was a misunderstanding, and then there were contradictions and conflicts.
? "The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always the most difficult puzzle in the world." This is the first time my friend called me to complain that my boyfriend and mother were difficult to get along with, and the idea came to my heart.
? The first time I visited my boyfriend's house, she was only going to come back after a year, but the epidemic broke out suddenly and she was trapped and couldn't come back.
Because of many customs and habits, and probably because she stayed at home for a long time for the first time, it seems that she and her mother didn't deal with it at all, from adding insult to injury to fighting each other.
? Finally, after complaining to me many times, she couldn't help but collapse: X, she quarreled with his mother again today, but he didn't persuade me, and said that I was not sensible. He ... this place was unsealed, so I left alone and bought a plane ticket for tomorrow morning.
? It was a little sudden, but I didn't seem so surprised. Everything seemed to be what I expected.
? The next day, I went to the airport to meet her after work, just like when she was with me at the beginning: it doesn't matter anyway. If you are sad and can't persist, you will come back and relax. At least you still have my friend.
? In fact, after I changed my new job and had a company dormitory to live in, I still insisted on renting a two-bedroom and one-bedroom house with other friends, hoping that one day when other friends need to rely on or comfort, there will be a "home" that can be lived at any time.
? I haven't stayed together for a long time, perhaps because I have experienced a lot of growth since I left school. I feel that she has changed a lot. Her mood, ideals, attitude towards life, and even her three views make me somewhat difficult to understand.
? "Stay for a period of time! I rarely come back during working hours, and the house is empty, so you can live with peace of mind and relax. " Playing with her until late at night, remembering that I had to go to work the next day, I told her a few words and hurried back to the company by taxi.
However, before I got off work the next day, I heard from my roommate that my friend wouldn't listen. I heard that the boy went back to school and went back to find him alone.
? Maybe at that moment, I understood that feelings are two people's business. If they are still willing to entangle each other, it is meaningless to say anything from others.
For example, my roommate and I persuaded my friends for a whole day, and almost all the words accumulated in my stomach in the past 2 years that felt a little meaningful to each other, but my friends didn't listen to a word after all.
? Perhaps, for love, she is ready to continue to face contradictions and conflicts.
? But what we expect is: if she is going to marry someone far away after all, I hope she can reconcile with the other's parents before getting married. After all, if it is too far away, if no one is pampered after being wronged, not only her own parents, but also the comfort of her friends may be an extravagant hope.
? ? I wish her happiness every day, but I also know that it is up to her to decide whether she is happy or not in her feelings.
? Now, after meeting Senge, I understand more: in the relationship between two people, there is really no need to intervene for any purpose.
? Quarrel or disappointment, the only people who can finally coax each other and then heal each other are the two sides who have this relationship.
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