I went out to eat with my boyfriend at the weekend, and I was surrounded by two girls selling flowers just after I got out of the subway station. They asked us if we wanted to buy flowers, and we said no, but they kept following us, forcing us to buy flowers in my hand and finally putting them directly in my pocket.

When we got to the restaurant downstairs, a little boy with flowers ran directly to us. I've been chasing my boyfriend and saying that my brother should buy a flower for my sister. Finally, I forced the flowers into my boyfriend's hand.

Of course, we didn't buy either flower, because we both hate being forced to stuff things.

What is a "hard plug"? I don't want it. You shove it. This is a shove. Forcing means forcing me to accept what I don't want but what you want me to accept. However, no matter whether the victim finally accepts it or not, the emotional reaction brought by the "hard jam" incident is the same, only disgust.

-02-

Jiang Mumu updated a status in the circle of friends: If you think it is bad, I must like it. It's really hard not to bother again and again. I really hate it more and more.

I think I know what happened to her.

Mu Mu is several years older than me. When I just graduated, I found a job in Nanjing. Although I am usually a little tired and busy, my salary is considerable, and I have a good time in Mu Mu. However, Jiang Mumu's mother always thinks it is dangerous for girls to go out alone, especially after knowing that Jiang Mumu was knocked down on a bus and smashed her computer. So I call Jiang Mumu every day and tell her that it's good to go home and take an exam as a civil servant. Why are girls so tired outside and nobody takes care of them? I did it for your own good.

Mu Mu has always been an obedient girl, and she doesn't want her mother to worry. She just listened to her mother's words, resigned and went home to take the civil service exam. But I didn't expect Jiang Mumu to prepare for such a long time, and finally he was not accepted. Jiang Mumu's mother asked her to go to the bank again. During the preparation for the exam, Jiang Mumu began to do purchasing, and finally the bank failed the exam, but Jiang Mumu did a good job in purchasing, so Jiang Mumu began to do purchasing at home.

Jiang Mumu also does shopping at home, and her monthly income is not worse than that of girls of the same age. Because she is free, she often goes out to have a look, and life is also petty bourgeoisie. But at this time, Jiang Mumu's mother felt that it was time for her daughter to find a boyfriend and began to urge Jiang Mumu to fall in love again. But she thinks it seems nothing for Jiang Mumu to stay at home and sell things online. What should she do if she later finds a boyfriend and someone asks where her job is? So I want Jiang Mumu to go back to work in Nanjing, but she quit her job at first, and now she has the cheek to go back, wasting two years. Jiang Mumu is not a fresh graduate, and her job is not easy to find. She is not satisfied with the introductions of relatives and friends, so that she is still at home.

Every time I look at it, I can't help feeling a little embarrassed when I am asked if I have found a job or a partner. Originally, her life could be full of flavor, but now she has become an elderly unemployed woman in the mouth of her neighbors.

Life is your own. All "for your own good" may really be for your own good. They go for your good because of love, but this kind of "good for you" may not be suitable for you, so it can only be "good for you" in the end, but it can't really make you good. This kind of "goodness" imposed on you will make your life deviate from the original track. You may only see their love, but you can't see that it is actually forced in the name of love.

Jiang Mumu's mother forced her imaginary life on Jiang Mumu, but forgot that it was exactly what she wanted, not what Jiang Mumu wanted. This hard life made Mu Mu lose himself.

Sometimes we can refuse passers-by to sell for money, but we can't bear to refuse the compulsion of family love. But accepting what others impose on you will often bring you pain.

-03-

Xiao Lin was a girl with melancholy temperament since she was a child, and almost all her worries were kept in her heart. Since she got married, her circle of friends has been a place I don't want to see, because her lines are full of melancholy.

When Xiaolin was at school, her parents wouldn't let her fall in love. After she works, urge her to find someone. It happened that Xiaolin's parents were very picky about good face and were not satisfied with several introductions. Kobayashi himself talked about two boyfriends. One is that her parents don't agree because of the distance. The other is a salesman, but the family condition is really bad. Xiaolin's parents sentenced her to death. After that, Xiaolin seems to have no expectation for love. Let her go on a blind date and let her stay at home. Later, Xiaolin's father's friend introduced a boy to Xiaolin. Xiaolin's parents liked it very much, but Xiaolin didn't say anything. Finally Xiaolin married this boy.

I have only seen Xiao Lin once since she got married. Now my cheekbones are so thin that I dare not touch her when sitting next to her. That day, she just said a few words and left early. When I got home, I looked through Kobayashi's circle of friends, full of words such as being in a bad mood, unable to eat, and losing weight.

We say that emotion is the most elusive thing, but it happened that someone forced this most uncontrollable and unbearable emotion on you, and you need to accompany it all your life. You can imagine how painful it will be if you are forced to feel this way, because you don't want it, so you don't want to accept it; Because you don't like it, you are not happy to get along.

A happily married centenarian said that the happiest and most loving couple in the world had at least 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangling each other in their lives. And they can grow old, and they can bear the consumption of daily necessities and vinegar tea in their lives, because they love each other deeply. Because of my deep love, even if I have the idea of divorce for 200 times and strangle each other for 50 times, I have no impulse to leave each other 1 time.

But now, you don't love him, you didn't love him from the beginning, he was imposed on you by others, and this relationship was imposed on you by others, so what reason should you use to keep yourself away from trivial life?

-04-

When I was a sophomore, I was inexplicably pushed to the position of a community cadre. At that time, the association was established by the school-level association, so the association system and members were not perfect. At that time, there was really a feeling of being forced to swallow a mouthful of steamed bread.

In this way, without the leadership of the chairman, the reference of cases and the help of the Ministry, I persisted for a year. From writing planning to venue layout, from recruiting small actors to editing micro-movies, from taking photos of activities to sorting out the summary of copywriting activities, I have to do it myself. Although the activity was rated as excellent by the school, I was exhausted.

At the end of my sophomore year, the club was going to be replaced. My senior advised me to continue to be the chairman, but I refused. The counselor talked to me and asked me to continue as chairman, but I also refused. It's not that I don't know that I will have more opportunities and even benefits after becoming the chairman, but I know that this is not what I want to do.

The counselor said, "You have worked hard for a year, and you have done well in all kinds of activities. Senior students and sisters are very optimistic about you. If you continue to stay, isn't it a great sense of accomplishment to run the club well? "

I don't know if I will have what they call a sense of accomplishment. I only know that my experience in middle school that year made me very tired. Because I don't want to do it voluntarily, I have no enthusiasm and motivation when writing documents, but I am tired and bored. After each activity, I have no so-called satisfaction, but I am very happy because it is finally over. All I know is that I don't want to be forced to do anything again.

I don't want anything to be forced on me in any form, whether it's the life you want me to live, the person you think is suitable for marriage or the job position you think I can do.

I want to live my own life, maybe it will be a little bitter and a little tired, but I have no regrets, and I am always happy to live the life I want; I want to spend the rest of my life with someone I love from my heart. Maybe I will quarrel with him, maybe he will make me sad, but we have love, and love can make trivial life more lovely. I want to do what I want to do, which may be difficult, but I will study hard and rack my brains to finish it successfully, so that I will have a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.

I don't want what others impose on me, because I still want to be myself and I want to be happier. From what style of clothes I wear today and what color lipstick I wear to what kind of house I want to live in and spend the rest of my life together. I want to do all this according to my heart, and what others impose on me is a burden. Maybe I need to struggle to achieve all this, I may be black and blue, but I still don't want to compromise or will.

Life is really torturous sometimes, and the world is not as fair as when I was a child. Everyone who walks in the world is a monster, but I also hope that I am a monster I can like. What I already have is exciting, and what I don't have gives me the motivation to pursue. We all know that life is short and time waits for no one. I just want to live what I like.

I don't want what you impose on me.