Everyone will fall in love, and children who are not in love will never grow up.

Every romance movie involves love breakup, and love without breakup is not interesting.

? Li Xingwen "My Movie Reviews Don't Lie" received a submission a few days ago. The girl said that it had been a week since they broke up, and she had been acting very humble. She wanted to keep him and begged hard.

To this day, he says he wants nothing more.

He doesn't want to hear himself share his daily life anymore, and he doesn't want the shoes he bought now. Forget about the promises he made before, he will try not to contact or meet again in the future.

The girl suddenly realized that it seemed that he really didn't want this relationship anymore, and she was the only one who was still reluctant to let go, unable to let go, and unable to leave: "I hope he changes his mind, and I am willing to forgive him for all the hurt he has caused me; but

I also know this is impossible.

I hope I can leave in style, become better, and make him regret everything he has done.

But? I understand the principle, but how to do it?

I keep thinking about him every day now. I can’t help myself. After searching on Baidu, the meaning that came up is: Generally speaking, it refers to an infatuated person who is abandoned by his love partner.

?Abandon? It feels a bit ugly, but there is another way of saying it: lovelorn refers to the huge setback caused by the love partner's behavior of denying or interrupting the love relationship.

We can find that the behavior of "falling out of love" is a person's rejection and interruption of this relationship.

What is very interesting is that to establish a love relationship, two people need to agree to agree and maintain the relationship together; and to break up, only one person's denial is enough, which also causes the other person's denial.

The damage done was huge.

Emotional people are very emotional. They put love and lovers in a vital position, and even believe in the principle of supremacy of love.

"Life is precious, but love is more valuable." Love is their life's mission.

Once they break up, people tend to get stuck in their own emotions and find it difficult to extricate themselves. They may even be unable to get out of the "cage" they have set for a long time.

Since love cannot be replaced by other feelings, the pain caused by losing the other person's love is deep and intense.

It is not only a kind of psychological frustration. The resulting feelings of isolation, loneliness, emptiness, despair for love, and even self-denial will have a negative impact on life, study, and work. In severe cases, it can cause depression and anxiety.

and other symptoms.

When you are drowning in the vortex of your lovelorn and unable to extricate yourself, and feel that tomorrow will be very difficult, little do you know that breaking up may actually be the best ending.

Qingqing, a girl who has been out of love for a year, told me: Breaking up is not the worst outcome, it may be the best start.

?Qingqing had just broken up with her boyfriend of 4 years, and she learned that he had seamlessly connected with a girl. She immediately understood what was going on.

During that time, she was in a state of confusion, and her entire body had lost all vitality. It was as if she had lost the whole world, and she could no longer see hope or tomorrow.

My friend couldn't stand it and went to argue with the girl, but was slandered instead.

Qingqing seemed to suddenly figure out that the girl took away other people's things so confidently, and she would never be able to do this. Therefore, Qingqing no longer argued about right or wrong, nor was she obsessed with the past.

Girls are definitely not as good as me.

She gave herself a week to miss and grieve. After that, she shifted the focus of her life to herself, and used all the efforts she had made in the past to please her boyfriend to please herself. Now she has got rid of the breakup.

shadow, and once again lived a happy life of his own.

Qingqing talked about some tips on how to get out of the shadow of broken love. I summarized them and shared them with everyone.

1. Correct understanding? Lovelorn? Love and marriage are indeed very important things, but this does not mean that love is everything in life. Love and marriage are not necessities of life. What is more important than this is the pursuit of ideals and career.

Affirmation of self-worth in life.

At the same time, you must understand that falling out of love does not mean the failure of life, nor does it mean the destruction of happiness.

There is no need to increase your misfortune. Falling out of love is an inevitable process. As long as you choose to fall in love, it is impossible not to fall out of love. On the other hand, falling out of love is also the nutrient of life. We can learn to love and get along with each other in falling out of love.

Learn to find yourself through loss.

2. Don’t question yourself. Many people are hit after falling out of love, and may start to question themselves: Am I really not good enough, so I was abandoned?

Am I so bad that he doesn't want me?

?In turn, they will deny themselves, and gradually become inferior, cowardly, and cautious.

No matter what the reason is for two people to separate, and no matter what the other party says, you must remember not to blame yourself for any mistakes, don't question yourself, don't deny yourself, you must firmly believe that you are really good.

Breaking up is not a big deal. The other person is too good to meet again. Believe in yourself and live towards the sun. The best is yet to come.