A newborn child is like a sapling. What kind of person and personality the child will become in the future are inextricably linked with family education.

Some parents will help their children correct their mistakes through correct guidance when their children have wrong behaviors. And some parents, in the case of children's misconduct, just use "he is still a child, it will be fine when he grows up" to repeatedly excuse their children. Some parents, when their children show signs of misconduct, will seize the opportunity to carry out effective education and punishment, so that their children's budding bad thoughts will be stifled in the cradle; And some parents, even if their children put their fists on their heads, still choose to bear the beating of their children silently.

Recently, the official account of Shanxi Radio and Television News published a video titled "My son punched his mother in the head, but her mother only Nuo Nuo didn't dare to resist, but netizens called him deserved it", which caused a lot of repercussions throughout the network-

In the video, his mother stopped in the same place riding a battery car, and a little boy in blue looked just seven or eight years old. He clenched his fist and repeatedly pointed at his mother's head. And mother didn't make a spark of resistance, passive Nuo Nuo just communicate with children.

To be honest, after watching this video, Xixi Ma really felt incredible. How can a child so young be so crazy as to hit his mother on the head? It's unheard of for a mother who looks five big and three thick to show no resistance to being beaten by her son.

netizens began to get angry after watching this video. Some said, "If it were my son, it is estimated that he would never see the sun tomorrow." Some said, "I really deserve it. I was born, raised, taught and used to it!" " Some said, "Isn't this an enemy for yourself?" Some said, "I have no sympathy for such a mother."

Look at this little boy, and think about the little boy who said two days ago, "My parents don't steal or rob, what's there to dislike?" It's a world of difference! In this regard, Xixi Ma has to remind parents that if you don't want to raise an enemy for yourself, you must remember the following three points-< P > (1) Grasp the scale of love and always remember whether doting is harmful or not.

After the child has just entered the first grade, the first round of cleaning is entirely done by the parents of the students. When entering the second round, the teacher suggested that parents should teach their children how to do cleaning and hygiene. Of course, at this stage of lunch break, teachers often take time out to teach their children to do cleaning and hygiene. In the third round, almost all parents just wait for their children at the school gate.

But there is a parent in the class who always clamors to come into the classroom to help her son clean, and at the same time solemnly says, "My son is stupid, he can't learn to clean." In this way, all the children in the class except his son have learned to do cleaning and hygiene at present.

now it has become a very serious family education problem. After school, the children didn't ask their parents to help them carry their schoolbags, but parents naturally took down their schoolbags and put them on their shoulders. The child didn't ask the parents to buy snacks, but the parents greeted him politely: "Are you hungry? Let's go and I'll buy you some potato chips." The child could have walked home by himself, but the parents were worried about the child and were afraid that the child would be tired. When the child just stepped out of the school gate, he hugged the child to his chest ... < P > Every spoiled child was not achieved overnight, but was disabled by the parents' long-term doting. As parents, we must have our own measure of which behaviors are beneficial to children's growth and which practices are harmful to children's growth.

(2) Children can be willful and naughty, but the bottom line can't be touched.

Accompanying children to grow up is a very long process. In this process, some parents simply understand education as control.

They think that children should obey their parents' arrangements in everything, even without a word of resistance. They think that children should act according to their parents' ideas, otherwise it is the greatest disrespect to their parents; They think that the child is my own, and I can do whatever I want with the child, and it is a matter of course that I want the child to do whatever I want ...

Xixi Ma reminds parents once again that accompanying the child to grow up is not slavery to the child, nor is it necessary to raise the child without temper to be a good boy in the true sense. A good old man without temper not only leads a miserable life, but also lacks a little personality.

As parents, we must understand that children's willfulness and some naughty behaviors deserve to be understood and tolerated. As long as the child has no mistakes in the general direction, parents don't need to do everything. Instead, they should give their children some free space and let them enjoy the fun of growing up.

But at the same time, we should also have our own bottom line and principles that we must adhere to. Whenever a child touches the red line in our hearts, we should show the dignity of our parents and let the children know that such things cannot be repeated. Only in this way can children become a positive person under the guidance of their parents.

(3) Learn to reflect on your own education methods, and don't wait for your child to be disabled before you regret it.

after the opening of the second child policy, some older children have entered a rebellious period, so some parents have an idea of "practicing the waste of the large size and practicing the small size". In fact, if these parents do not change their education methods, even if a second child is born, I am afraid they will be abandoned by their own stubbornness.

Confucius once said, "I think twice before I think." As parents, too, we must reflect on our educational methods and adopt reasonable methods, and we will continue to carry forward them. Unreasonable practices, we actively correct. Only by constantly adjusting their own educational methods can we explore a set of educational methods that really suit our children.

In my life, my parents always tell me, "Oh, my child is not obedient! Every time he makes me angry, I can't help hitting people, but after hitting the child, I look at his extremely pitiful appearance and fall into a long-term self-blame. Every time I want to change my bad habit of impulsiveness and impatience, I can't control myself when I am angry. In this way, I am caught in a relentless endless loop, always struggling to beat my child, regret, beat my child and regret. "

To err is human, and many parents become parents for the first time after having children, so mistakes are inevitable. Faced with such a situation, we can't say that we don't understand education, but indulge or mess with our children. The best solution is to constantly improve ourselves and constantly reflect on ourselves. Only in this way can we become truly responsible parents.

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Are there any children around you who beat their parents? Who do you think is the root of the problem? Welcome to tell us what you have seen and heard, and let us all open our eyes!