I have been very annoyed recently. What should I do when I am worried alone? Please give me some advice.

People's life cannot be smooth sailing, there will always be these and that things. intertwined with each other. Produce various emotions. The mutual conversion creates what we call troubles. Troubles are a process we must go through. It is training our minds; if people left their worries, I believe people would have no ambition and no motivation to survive in this world. There are fewer things to think about, it can be said to be basically none. The brain is also funny. Enterprising spirit starts from worries. And troubles grow out of real life.

Trouble has the following characteristics

1. The content of trouble is real and realistic;

2. Troubles always contain a lot of imagination; Things in imagination are not real; but imagination in worries is one of the most real things in the world;

3. Worries always contain rational inferences, which people cannot help but believe; intelligence is The ability to worry, because *** there are no worries; 4. Worry makes people focus on one point. Once entangled in trouble, it is difficult to get rid of it. Even if you know you have entered a dead end, you have to keep moving forward and hit a wall. Never look back.

Schopenhauer said: "One of the strongest reasons that leads people to art and science is to escape from the disgusting vulgarity and despairing depression in daily life." In this regard, Einstein Stein and Russell said the same.

The formula of troubles

On the premise of affirming secular life, here is a formula about troubles: W=D/B

Here, W means troubles , D represents desire, and B represents effective behavior to realize desire. Taoism wants to reduce desires, and Buddhism wants to eliminate desires. These are not advisable for people in this world. In secular life, instead of fighting against desires in vain, it is better to try our best to satisfy desires. You might as well observe the people around you. Those who live a meaningful life are working tirelessly to get what they want. People who don't understand the world are looking for trouble.

Why do people worry?

1. Trouble comes from persistence: There are many good and bad situations in life. When ordinary people encounter difficulties, such as unemployment, lovelorn, and frustration, it is frustrating and annoying; when they are in good times, if they are persistent and afraid of losing, You will also be trapped by good times. This is just like how iron chains can lock people and gold chains can restrain people. Therefore, no matter whether you encounter good or bad situations in life, you must know how to change situations and not be attached. The greatest skill in practice lies in the word "turn". You must "turn to the Lotus" rather than "be turned by the Lotus", which means not to be attached. If you are not afraid of troubles and not attached to troubles, you will be at peace and at ease.

2. Trouble is due to ignorance: ignorance is ignorance. Our innate ignorance is greed, anger, ignorance, pride and doubt; with ignorance, there is greed, anger, Troubles such as pride and doubt arise from ignorance such as greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubt. There is a saying: "It is better to fight with smart people than talk to ignorant people." If a person is unreasonable, good words, kind words, and Dharma will be of no use at all, and he will have troubles; on the contrary, if he can be reasonable, Understanding the principles of cause and effect can eliminate worries.

3. Troubles are caused by inability to look away: There are many troubles in the world that are self-inflicted. They are so-called "unfounded worries" and even worries about "the end of the world". They worry for a long time, but nothing happens. There are also people who can't look away from trivial matters and get into trouble, and naturally "the troubles will last forever." Therefore, if you always look at the positive side of everything, if you can see clearly and clearly, and if you can have a detached and free attitude towards all good and bad luck, you will not seek trouble.

4. Trouble comes from being too selfish: The reason why people have trouble and pain is because of "I"; "I" is the source of trouble, "I love", "I want", "I" "Happy" and only thinking about "my" needs in everything, it is easy to oppose and conflict with others. Therefore, if you have more self, you will suffer more, and if you have less self, you will suffer less. Therefore, if a person can think more about how to benefit others, he will live a relaxed and secure life. In fact, there are many right and wrong troubles in the world, and ultimately, most of them are caused by improper pursuit of the "six dusts" of the "six sense organs" of the eyes, ears, nose, tongue, and body. For example, if you look inappropriately, you will be punished, causing death; if you listen inappropriately, you will hear many disputes and troubles; if you eat inappropriately, you will get sick from the mouth... etc. . Confucianism advocates "Don't look at anything that's not ritual, don't hear anything that's not ritual, don't say anything that's not ritual." This is also the so-called "six roots of all" in Buddhism. If a person can use Buddhism to manage his six sense organs, this is the greatest practice; and those who practice will naturally know how to deal with and resolve troubles, so "if you want to get rid of troubles and diseases, you should read Buddhist scriptures." From the perspective of brain information cybernetics, worry prevents the brain's energy from being overused on incomprehensible information, and the instinct produces a slight feeling of pain. Super trouble is because it is unknown information, so there is no solution to solve the pain caused by this information, so it is even more annoying. Therefore, people often think about some unknown information, especially some unknown information that often causes direct harm (physical) pain, that is, we often say that depression is a higher-order evolution of boredom. So to solve the problem, we need to analyze the unknown information.

This reduces the energy to think about unknown information, thereby reducing the mentality that is affected by bad information, and the inability to deal with normal things rationally, which reduces the happiness index that people can get from successfully handling things! Therefore, annoyance takes up people's limited energy, and annoyance causes pain. Therefore, the instinct is to solve the annoyance, so I really want to spend energy to solve the annoyance, so I often retrieve information to think about the cause of the annoyance, which is to analyze how the information changes. The purpose is to prevent the body from being harmed again. Due to the continuous acquisition of the same information, the information is strengthened, and the mentality is affected by the information, and cannot deal with things rationally. As a result, things are less successful, become more annoying, and become instinctive when encountering something. Pain. Therefore, it is extremely uncomfortable to live with pain for a long time. So to solve the problem, everyone just needs to help him analyze the information he thinks he doesn't understand. What should you do when you are worried?

You can do this 1. Talking Talking can achieve a balance between inner feelings and external emotions, and avoid disasters and illnesses. When you encounter misfortunes, troubles and unpleasant things, do not be depressed and bury your worries deep in your heart. Instead, trust these troubles to you. Talk to a calm, empathetic person, talk to yourself, or talk to the animals around you. 2. Travel When a person is mentally unbalanced and distressed, he should go to nature. The air in mountainous areas or around seashores contains more anions. Anions are essential substances for the survival of humans and animals. The more anions in the air, the more oxygen the organs and tissues of the human body will receive, the metabolic function will be enhanced, and the regulating function of neurohumoral fluids will be enhanced, which is conducive to promoting the health of the body. The healthier you are, the easier it is to calm down mentally. 3. Reading: Read books that interest you, read books that make you relaxed and happy, and read casually, flipping through them casually. But if you grab a good book and you won't be able to put it down, all the troubles in the world will be left behind. 4. Listen to music Music is a beautiful language for human beings. Listening to good songs and relaxing and joyful music can make people relaxed and happy, immersing themselves in happiness and joy and forgetting their worries. Singing loudly is also a kind of magnanimity, a kind of unrestrainedness, a kind of relief, and a kind of call for longevity. 5. Seek elegant interests. Elegant interests include playing chess, playing cards, painting, fishing, etc. When you engage in activities you enjoy, your unbalanced mind will naturally be balanced. "No matter what present worries and future threats we face, once the picture begins to unfold, they have no place on the brain's screen. They recede into the shadows and darkness, and all attention is directed to the work. Above. "Elizabeth cured her depression by painting. 6． Do good things, get happiness and balance your mind. When you do good deeds, you feel comforted and at ease; when others respond, you get encouragement and feel happy. Start with yourself and be kind to others, only then will you have friends. When others need help, extend your hand and show concern for others. Kindness is the best quality. You can't love everyone, but you can get along with everyone as much as possible. 7． Forgetting Forgetting is also a good way to maintain psychological balance. Forget troubles, forget sadness, forget bitterness, forget frustration, forget yesterday, forget yourself, forget the harm done to you by others, forget the betrayal of friends to you, forget fragile feelings. Forget the regrets and shame you have had...so that you can be optimistic and open-minded. The road of life is full of twists and turns. If you laugh at social attachments such as honor, disgrace, wealth, poverty, slander, jealousy, sorrow, etc., then you will be freed and mentally balanced. Forget about harmful and unhelpful people and things, and maintain a psychological balance. Life is short, you should think openly about everything, maintain mental balance anytime and anywhere, keep a normal mind, don't be surprised by changes, smile often, walk in a carefree way, and you will live a happy life

Please adopt my latest message What is the best thing to do when you are worried?

Do something happy. Life is like a relay race. There is no smooth sailing road, and it is not flat. The road ahead of you is very bumpy. You have to be kind to yourself. Believe that everything will pass. Come on, let’s work together. In fact, I just want to tell everyone that life is our most basic thing and the source of life is ourselves. If you don’t pay attention to this issue, maybe your life will be very bad. Yes, so if you want life, love, career, and friendship, you have to maintain a good attitude, live a colorful and exciting life, and live your perfect life. Do you understand? The source of life is yourself. Take good control of your current life. I think you will. I am very happy. I wish good people a safe life. You can do some things you like to enrich your life. Also, keep a good attitude every day. A happy mood is better than anything else. I think you can't think about it. It’s hard on my heart. For example, listening to music, watching TV series, eating my favorite food, watching comics, watching movies, running around, playing games, playing mahjong, reading novels, going shopping, chatting with friends, sleeping, traveling, and doing housework. I think it’s all good. Anyway, I can do whatever I want, just do whatever makes me happy. OK, hehe. I wish you a happy life. I want to buy a Bu mobile phone recently. Please give me some advice.

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What should you do when you are very annoyed? Please, everyone 3Q

You can tell your friends: The second is my method below! It can help you relax your mood! You can choose a quiet time at night! Standing on the balcony of your home, looking into the distance and looking at the sky! In a quiet atmosphere, calm your mood! Think about happy things, or think about nothing at all! `Just look outside quietly! `If ??you are in a bad mood or mood, it is important to adjust your mentality! This can control and relieve your emotions and mood a little!

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Can you give me some advice on what the expectant father should do?

Just take good care of the expectant mother, and then cooperate with the expectant mother to prepare the child. What do you most want to do when you are worried about the things you need for birth?

Make something. When I'm in a bad mood, I cook and cook dishes that I didn't dare to try before. Haha, what is the most effective thing to do when you are worried

Listen to music, turn up the volume,

Go to a big mountain, shout loudly towards the mountain, Let off some steam,

or go outside and run as hard as you can until you are so exhausted that you even have no strength at all, and then lie down and close your eyes to have a good sleep.

In short, when you are troubled, try to do what you want to do and what you like. Allow yourself to indulge. . . I want to lose weight and I have plenty of time. Can you guys give me some advice on what to do and what to eat?

Even though I am short on time

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