The growth story of the female writer Twelve: Greedy women have the best life, 01. Use words to heal lovelorn, Twelve writes, starting from healing himself. , More than ten years ago, when I was broken up in love, there were no mobile phones, no Internet, no WeChat, and no live video broadcast. , On the winter street, I ran out of the evening self-study classroom in full view of everyone, unlocked my bicycle with trembling hands, and my whole body shivered in the night wind. Ride to the nearest public phone booth, use the money you save to buy a phone card, and make long-distance calls to him. , But when the call was connected, there was silence for a while, and she just asked why. Not long after, the phone card exploded and just beeped. , Like a dream. , In 2005, Twelve started a blog, starting from falling in love, and writing his own story. , After that it got out of hand. , She is uncontrollably and obsessed with writing stories about the past, her powerful parents, her isolated school days, and the tough and shy girl who doesn't know how to love or refuse love. , When Twelve was writing, he was used to analyzing his truest self, which was true and warm. , Don’t hide it, write your true pain. Someone in the crowd will definitely understand the path you have taken, and you will see your life more clearly because you reveal your pain. Everyone can heal themselves. , During the interview, I asked Twelve, do you like yourself now? Twelve said that in the past, he was not very able to accept himself, but he was more able to accept others. Because I didn’t have the cognitive ability at that time and was used to being denied, I thought that no one really recognized you from the bottom of my heart. , But as she grew up, she forced herself to wake up from this nightmare, and then saw the real herself, the real world, and believed in kindness. , 02. What heals oneself will also heal others , In the era when QQ was popular, Twelve established a group where many girls gathered. They did not discuss shopping and makeup, but mostly talked about work, love and problems encountered in getting along with relatives. , At that time, I discovered that the girls around me were not burdened with a lot of secret love, confusion, and troubles, and they had to work hard to live and want to know the way to obtain happiness. , Many girls confided in her their concerns: love, marriage, work, and confusion about the future. , She watched them "rush to fall in love, rush to get married, rush to seize something. They are in panic all day long, and in the end, they forget who they are", just like herself. , Many girls have really become close friends in private. They will meet and go to a gay wedding together. , In 2013, Twelve's second book - a collection of essays "Don't be afraid of the future, don't dwell on the past" was published. , Her publisher Cui Jia said, "I thought about it being a best-seller, but it's a surprise that it's so popular." She is optimistic about Twelve. Twelve's words are stable, accurate, ruthless, plain but sincere, they always hit you to the point, but they can bring unexpected healing effects. , Women are cute because they believe in dreams, but they also lose too much real happiness because they believe in dreams. , Happiness can never be about having someone help you do everything, and you just need to sit back and enjoy the results. , If a man really likes a woman, how can he let her learn how to sell herself for profit? It’s too late to protect her, so how can he hope that she will be dyed as black as possible by the society’s dye vat?, This may be related to the rationality of the twelve personalities. related. , I studied journalism in Wuhan for four years, and studied everything from philosophy, literature, history, and law. Later, I worked as a news editor for three years. Although I was not a reporter on the scene, it had a profound impact on my thinking and logic. , "This is probably why many readers say that I am actually very sharp at heart." , "She is like an annoying friend. At the most suitable time, you say the words you least like to hear, and you throw her aside out of anger, but when you are hurt or confused, she will be the first thing you think of. , The book turned out to be a hit, with sales exceeding 2 million. , "Writing should be a mirror, reflecting the reader's own heart." As long as you write what you are thinking, people who are passionate will heal themselves through words. , Twelve likes Yishu, and Shitai, who has also been troubled by being famous and being popular, said, "Since you want to sell well, don't think about being famous. If you don't want it, then you might as well be happy and self-sufficient." Twelve deeply thought Of course. , 03. Do happy things with lovers , In the past ten years, Twelve moved from Wuhan to Shenzhen to work, and then from Shenzhen to Hangzhou to settle. , She got married and became a happy and busy mother. , She gradually became what people call the twelfth sister, the emotional writer with the most upright views, and a woman with a strong heart. , She misses the bustling world of Wuhan and likes the hard-working spirit of Shenzhen, but she also knows that Hangzhou is a more suitable city for her. It has both a hard-working spirit and human touch, and she can also live a life of poetry, wine and tea in her free time. , Twelve is now over 30 years old and has multiple identities - wife, mother, daughter, friend, writer, partner. Time is slowly divided by these roles. Very busy. , Sometimes I don’t sleep at two o’clock in the middle of the night. I joke that I am a public dog. , When you feel tired, just lie in bed and chat with yourself for a while, and ask yourself what's wrong, where you are tired, and why it is like this. "I used to complete this process while writing articles, but now it's good to talk to myself." Most of the time, Twelve lives a very energetic life, which can almost be said to be greedy. I love beautiful clothes, delicious food, watching dramas, Guqin and traveling. “There are so many interesting things in life.

", I really like what Twelve said, "The happiest thing in life is to do happy things with a lover. ", She has many best friends. Best friend No. 1, "Ai Mingya, the head of the chicken soup industry", originally just wanted to get married and have children and live a small life, but the twelfth sister said sincerely, "You write so well, it would be a waste if you don't write." . , Best friend No. 2, not in the same city, try to meet up once a month to talk about recent work and relationships, or not say anything, just do nails together, go shopping, make soup and cook together, in the evening. I was shopping for vegetables at the market and bargaining with the fruit vendors on the street. They were each admiring the wardrobe. One said, "Ah, your wardrobe has changed its style again", and the other said, "Your size is one size smaller, no." Have we agreed to be fat together until we grow old together?”, Once I was chatting with my friends, and they were talking about what they would like to do if they had an afterlife. Some friends said that they would like to be a plant in the next life. Maybe they both love the silent ritual sense of plants. But Twelve said, “I will still choose to be a human being. ", Of course, being a human seems to be much more tiring than being a plant. You have roles and responsibilities, and even speaking is a profound knowledge. Twelve feels that there are so many beautiful people and things in life, and it is also for more life experiences. , are all worthy of hard work, , Even the lack of confidence that once troubled her has been sorted out little by little through hard work and time. Readers often ask me: Twelve, what should I do if I am not confident? I want to tell everyone. People who are not confident: There is nothing to do. Being unconfident is never a mistake. You can still live well without self-confidence, just like plants, like running water, like ears of wheat. Stay humble and silent in your heart, and you will never be satisfied with yourself. What's wrong with that? Okay. What hurts you is not your lack of confidence, it’s just that you don’t like your own lack of confidence. And I have been able to get along with my lack of confidence. This is me. No matter who I am, I still have a certain lack of confidence. The beauty. , After reading Twelve’s books, looking through her Moments and Douban, I saw her changes and inner strength. A woman has such a strong heart and clear wisdom. Even if she stops writing one day, she will be the best. I will live a good life, as one of her WeChat posts said: "I think I have lived to a time where I know who I am and what I can do in this life, so I am not in a hurry to become someone. Yes, this is the kind of happiness you can have at this stage.

"Growing Greedy