During the Spring and Autumn Period, a famous wise man passed by a paddy field. He saw a farmer plowing the field with two cows, so he casually asked, which cow of yours is better to use? The old farmer didn't answer. When he came to the field, he tied up two cows and fed them. Then he came to the wise man, turned his back on the cow and whispered to the wise man, The guy wagging his tail is working hard. The wise man was puzzled: I just asked you, why didn't you say something? Why are you whispering to me now? Are you afraid that someone will hear you? The old farmer said with a straight face, yes, I'm afraid the cow next to me will hear me praise others and treat it coldly. It can detect it in your eyes, and then this guy will be in a bad mood and work badly. In fact, animals, like people, are willing to be praised by others and by everyone.
As teachers and parents, can we also consider the children's feelings like old farmers? Imagine a sentence: "classmates, Li Moumou, the worst in our class, got more than 70 points in this exam." It seems that our class has really improved. " Can it really inspire them? "The speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart". Who is hurt now? May we sincerely appreciate and inspire more children's confidence and courage, instead of inadvertently creating an unnecessary pain and suffering.
The second educational story: Education begins with respect.
A woman who came back from Germany told a personal experience, which is quite enlightening for us to educate our children. One Sunday, she took her five-year-old son to the park to play. My son traded a "paper plane" for an electric "car" for a German child, which surprised his mother. Because that paper plane is only worth 5 cents at best, and this car is worth at least 20 dollars. At first, she thought her son was lying. When she found the owner and the mother of a German child, the German mother said, "The car belongs to the child, and it is up to the child to decide." She also said: "If your son likes it, he can have this car. In the future, I will take my child to the toy store and let him know how much this car is worth and how many paper planes can be bought, so that he will not do such stupid things again. "
Respect children's choices, don't interfere, don't stop, and don't simply criticize children's practices, but take effective measures to educate children in time. Our education lacks respect for children. Respecting children's right to choose does not guarantee that every choice of children is correct, but they are still young! In this process, the child will certainly fall several times and take detours, but the child's choice ability is improved through repeated attempts. Let's be less blind and rude in education, more rational and scientific, and make love deeper and more artistic.
The third story of education: let education have more choices and wisdom
Hao Yuan, a famous special-grade teacher, adopted the following methods when dealing with four "scamps" who like to catch shrimps after school: Mr. Yuan knew in advance where they caught shrimps and found that "shallow streams" were not dangerous. So when the four "scamps" stood in the office with their heads down waiting for criticism, Mr. Yuan just smiled and said to them, "You like shrimp, that's good! Aren't the great scientists Darwin and Fables fans of insects since childhood? Can any of you tell me where shrimp likes to rest? How did you get it? What is the best way to catch shrimp? What does this shrimp look like, what color, and what's on its head? How many feet are there? Tail. . . . . 。” The rogues are blindsided and only focus on grasping. Who will pay attention to what it looks like? Seeing that the children were all blindsided, Mr. Yuan patted them on the shoulder and said, "I wanted you to introduce them to the whole class tomorrow, but you ... well, when you catch them again, look carefully and think carefully, and then come back and tell me, okay?" The children looked at each other and ran away.
The children are busy catching shrimps when they come home from school. If it falls into our hands, it may spread to their parents! On the left, "not obeying discipline" and on the right, "not paying attention to safety" usually make children cry! Because what we care about and think about is the essence of "not going home to catch shrimp after school", as for the danger of children catching shrimp, we seldom care about and pay attention to whether bad things can be turned into good things. At this point, Mr. Yuan has done it for a willing heart. He guided children to observe, think and explore through their special "complex" with prawns, and taught them how to play more meaningfully. Education is like this. Sometimes, as long as we know more and think more, we may have more choices and wisdom.
The fourth educational story: the collision of two kinds of thinking
One day, a rich father took his son on a trip from the city to the countryside to show him how the poor live. They stayed in the poorest family on the farm for a day and a night. After the trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "Great!" "You should know what the poor are like this time?" The son replied, "Yes, I know". "Can you describe the difference between the rich and the poor? "The son thought about it and said," We only have one dog at home, but they have four dogs at home. Our family only has a pool leading to the center of the flower bed, but they have an endless river; We can only see a few lights in our garden at night, but there are thousands of stars in their garden; In addition, our yard can only park a few cars, but their yard can accommodate hundreds of cows. " After the son finished speaking, the father was speechless. Then the son said, "when I grow up, I want to be as rich as them." "The wealth in children's hearts is different from that in adults' hearts, just as the happiness in children's hearts is different from that in adults' hearts.