My friends and I both think that under the current custom background, engagement gifts are a tradition.

In fact, isn't marriage a bride price? Sanjin hardware, banquet, wedding dress, wedding ring and house, which one doesn't need money? We'll never save the money we should spend. We should know that marriage is a lifelong matter, and any bride would like to see her husband hold on to such a lifelong event.

If you don't want to spend money on the woman you love after marriage, I'm afraid men won't spend money on their wives after marriage.

Nevertheless, my friends and I still have differences.

He said: "In marriage, of course, the more engagement gifts, the better. The more women you want, the more expensive it is. "

I told him directly: "In marriage, money must be spent on the cutting edge." What should be spent should not be less, and what should not be spent should not be spent. This is respectable. More importantly, there are so many lawless elements in the world. I will give you as much as you want. "

I told him a story about a reader. At the wedding, readers asked their husbands for 300,000 engagement gifts and their mothers-in-law for 80,000 change. The reason for asking is very strange, saying that "if you want to send it, you can't leave 8".

I asked him, do you think this woman is valuable?

To be fair, Li Chen is not a material woman.

Nowadays, many girls want to be a vain person after they have money in their jobs. My friend changed more than 5,000 mobile phones today and will buy more than 10,000 luxury bags tomorrow.

Chen Li is not.

In the eyes of her daughter, Li Chen is very clever and sensible. She has been paid since she started working. In addition to the necessary expenses, she will pay the rest of her salary to her parents. She is not only filial to her parents, but also subsidizes her younger brother.

I remember when I was in high school, my brother didn't study well, and I didn't even pass the college entrance examination. Jackie Chan's father wanted his younger brother to repeat, but his popular mother stopped him and said, "At our son's level, you can repeat it again. Better leave the money to her daughter. Maybe she will use it when she goes to college. "

Not surprisingly, when Chen Li was admitted to college, her score was a little lower than that of Grade Two. Luckily, she invited volunteers. Li Chen's mother spent money to help her go to college.

So Li Chen's mother told Li Chen, "Daughter, our family is very poor. So your money for college is for your brother. Now that you are going to college, you are taking away your brother's future. From now on, when you make money, you must remember that your brother will take care of him all his life, you know? "

Maybe Li Chen was brainwashed by this sentence.

Later, she really loved her parents and brother, but it was this love that made her lose her original pure and kind heart and eventually lost her happiness.

It is said that what kind of woman deserves what kind of husband, but maybe Li Chen is too lucky in other things, so she is very lucky in love.

After graduating from college, Li Chen began to work. Instead of entering a big company, she entered a small studio run by her friend Lin Jin.

Of course, her friend later became her boyfriend.

At the time of first love, Li Chen didn't know that her boyfriend's family was rich, because the conditions in the live broadcast room were really poor. Plus Chen Li and Lin Jin, there are only three employees.

Later, Li Chen realized that he was still too young. If she has no capital, who dares to start a business as soon as she graduates? Although the conditions of Lin Jin's studio are average, it is only because he is low-key and powerful, and he doesn't want to ask his family for too many resources.

Later, Lin Jin's studio grew and their relationship developed smoothly. They began to talk about marriage. Chen Li realized that Lin Jin was worth millions, even worse than his parents.

Li Chen's family conditions are not very good, but Lin Jin is not annoying at all. He said that he loved Li Chen, which had nothing to do with his family background.

Li Chen thinks she loves the right person.

But Lin Jin doesn't think Chen Li's family is in trouble, which doesn't mean his parents think so. After learning about Li Chen's family background, the man's mother said to her son, "I like Li Chen very much, but her family will definitely drag you down."

How can a person who is devoted to love listen to the advice of the old man? Lin Jin said to his mother, "Mom, Lily is not with me because she likes my money. In the first two years, it was difficult for us to start a business. She doesn't know that our family has money. Don't worry, she's not what you think.

Lin Jin's mother sighed: Just because she isn't doesn't mean her family isn't!

She didn't say anything. My son hit the south wall, and he understood.

Soon, Li Chen and Lin Jin began to discuss their marriage.

Li Chen asked for 300,000 engagement gifts.

This figure was put forward by Li Chen's mother. Li Chen was scared to death and said, "Mom, the market price here is only 654.38+500,000. Will you double it? "

Li Chen's mother smiled and said, "Daughter, you are so stupid. The future son-in-law is very rich. Do you care? Besides, you don't need more money now. What about your brother's future? Besides, it's too expensive to book a wedding, and the money will be paid back on the spot. I have it all figured out. If they think it is too much, we will reduce it by 20 thousand, which shows that we are sincere. 280 thousand is a good number. "

"Mom, I'm not a man who wants money. But your brother is hopeless now. He doesn't even have a formal job. Don't forget that in those years, your brother used his money to pay for your college education. Can you not consider his future? "

In this way, Li Chen, whose mother drank the ecstasy soup, put forward 300,000 yuan without thinking. As a result, Lin was quickly promised. When Lin Jin wants to come, sensible Li Chen will ask her for an engagement present for her family. Since I love her, what does it matter to help her?

This, Li Chen's mother can be distressed to death.

She kept whispering in Li Chen's ear: "If you want to be less, if you want to be less, you should know that he is so straightforward. If you want more than180,000 food, "

Once people are greedy, they will try their best to eat. Li Chen's mother has a plan: when she has a daughter, waiting for a cup of tea to change her mouth, you say that we have a custom here, and you have to pay 80,000 yuan for her mouth change.

Li Chen was afraid again: "Mom, are you finished?" "Don't make me marry for money."

Li Chen's mother smiled and said, "Mom, I'm not a money man, but your brother is poor. He has grown up, with no wife and no job. He is very difficult! "

When Li Chen was complained by her mother, she couldn't bear it and agreed. But she still couldn't help saying, "Why wait for Jing to change tea? If you don't say it in advance, others will think that you are making money on purpose. "

Li Chen's mother was very happy: "That is to say, that day, silly daughter. All his relatives and friends came that day. Is he just trying to save face? "

Sure enough, at tea that day, she said, "Aunt, you can change your surname to Ma, but according to our custom, you have to pay 80,000 yuan for the name change. I am very happy. "

The words sound just fell and Lin Jin opened his eyes wide and kept blinking at Li Chen.

It's not just Lin Jin winking at Chen Li? Li Chen's mother often makes gestures, which makes her look up.

After all, my husband is not as old as my mother. Besides, my mother has a younger brother. Chen Li is cruel. She ignored Lin Jin and looked straight at her mother-in-law.

At that time, the scene was so embarrassing that even the experienced wedding host was forced to look up at the sky and dare not come out. Or Lin Jin's mother is an insightful woman. She was calm and agreed. On the spot, he asked people to take a thick stack of money, put it in a red envelope and give it to Li Chen.

Li Chen sighed. When she was going to change her name to Ma, her mother smiled and said, "Ah! But Lily, you'd better not call me mom from now on. It's too expensive. I am not worthy. "

In the eyes of the guests, this eased the embarrassment. But in Li Chen's ears, it really made her blush. Li Chen was ashamed, but her mother smiled. She only earned some money for herself and laughed with everyone. . . Later, Li Chen and Lin Jin got along very awkwardly. Because Lin Jin changed her words at first and was cold to Li Chen, her mother-in-law didn't like her very much. Although Lin Jin's family didn't speak ill of her, Li Chen knew that her life in her husband's family would not be easy.

This is what I shared with my friends.

My point of view is clear. In my opinion, although an engagement gift is necessary, it doesn't mean that a man should demand freedom.

Feelings have always been your love and willingness. Since it is your love, how much am I willing to pay? Why should I count?

This is very unreasonable, isn't it?

That's Chen. Why didn't she think it was Lin Jin who spent her life with her, not her brother and mother? For the sake of her mother's greed, she exhausted her kindness in her husband's family. Is it worth it?

Besides, since two people decide to spend their lives together, isn't the other's mother their own? If you have to call your mother for 80 thousand, then this feeling is too tepid.

This kind of marriage, without feelings, can't stand each other's position, can you live well?