0 1 Don't make yourself an accessory in marriage.

In the relationship between husband and wife, it is good for two people to attract each other and worship each other. If not, it is ok not to despise each other. The biggest torture in the world is to love and despise each other. He depends on you, but he looks down on you. If two people torture each other, the marriage will not last long and the children will not be happy.

If we want a stable marriage, we can't let the triviality of life wear away the original attractive charm, but let the other party invest in themselves and have irreplaceable dependence on themselves.

We spend most of our lives at home. In the intimate relationship of the family, the husband and children are the most, and they are also a kind of interpersonal relationship that accompanies us for the longest time. But besides children and husbands, there is a more important role, and that is yourself.

Love yourself before you love others.

Love yourself before you love others. People who don't love themselves don't love others. If you compare a person to a cup, a normal person is an intact cup. When others pour love into him, love will fill up slowly and eventually overflow to love others.

However, people who are insecure and don't know how to love themselves have holes under their cups. Even if others pour a lot of love, the cups will never be filled with dissatisfaction. If you are not good enough, how can you love others?

A really smart woman is "selfish" and will never pay for others at the expense of herself. You try your best to be nice to someone because you are afraid that they will not like you if you do something wrong. This is not love, but pleasing.

Love seven points is enough, love yourself three points.

03 guide each other to pay

If you want someone to be inseparable from you, you should know how to guide them to pay for you. After having children, many women become housewives at the expense of their families. They feel distressed that their husbands have to take care of a large family alone, so they don't want to spend a penny more. You won't spend money to invest in yourself, others will use your husband's money to invest in yourself.

Everyone has the psychology of a gambler. The more time, energy and money he spends on you, the more reluctant he is to leave you, because the cost of pulling away is too high. Just like the stock you bought at a high price, even if it starts to fall, you don't want to sell it immediately, always thinking that it will rise.

If you want to maintain a long-term marriage, you should also guide your partner to pay for you while investing in yourself.

Don't give up your social circle

Married to someone else's house, you have children. After becoming a housewife, your circle of friends is getting narrower and narrower. I used to go shopping and eat hot pot with my girlfriend after work. Now I just want to go home and take care of my children.

Some women are suspicious, mainly because they don't have their own social circle. They live with their husbands and children, lost again, lost themselves and lost their value.

If you want to change the status quo, you should try to jump out of this strange circle, re-enter the society and establish your own circle of friends. When you find that life is not only your husband's smelly socks and your children's exercise books, but also shopping, taking photos and eating delicious food, life becomes colorful.

The world is very big, so don't confine yourself to those few square meters.

There is no absolutely perfect relationship. Even an 80-year-old wife will still quarrel, but they will quarrel and quarrel. After the quarrel, they will still love each other, and they will stand the test of time and grow old together.

We all know that marriage is not easy, so couples who love each other for a long time are admired. To maintain this long-term intimate relationship, you need to be prepared, always maintain the attitude of learning and the ability to love, so as to retain the right to love!