From a traditional perspective, a stay-at-home wife may not be considered an independent woman because she is dependent on her family. She has no job and no income. What she has to do every day is to take care of the children and the family.

Perhaps in the eyes of many people, especially men, this is nothing and a very easy thing. After all, you don’t have to go to work every day and can just stay home and take care of your children. How relaxing is that?

But in reality, being a stay-at-home mom is not easy at all.

Most of the full-time wives I know are very talented. They not only know the art of flower arrangement, but also know how to cook various delicacies. They like to decorate the home and know how to match clothes. Even if their children have learning problems, they can

Help me.

Faced with such full-time wives, do you think they are not independent enough?

I feel so independent!

According to data, more than 200 million people in China are single, and the adult population living alone exceeds 77 million.

This means that fewer and fewer women are choosing to enter marriage, and this number will only increase in the future.

It is conceivable that women are really no longer enthusiastic about marriage, and at the same time, they do not feel that only marriage can bring them such traditional thinking.

Whether a woman is happy or not is determined by herself, and no longer depends solely on men or marriage.

After the mystery of the "Hangzhou Wife Murder Case" was revealed, some female friends around me said: Marriage is too terrible, and they would rather not get married for the rest of their lives.

Frankly speaking, marriage does have its bad sides, such as lack of freedom, frequent quarrels, etc., but such extreme murderous practices are rare, so if you meet the right person, you can still get married.

It's just that on the road to marriage, if you haven't met the right person, or you don't know the other person well enough, you can still spend more time to contact and communicate. Only when you are sure that the other person's character is not a problem, then

Talk about next steps.

The 36-year-old Huahua used to be a mother. She gave up her career for the sake of her children. Now that her children are in kindergarten, she thought that she could work again, but she was opposed by her husband's family.

The mother-in-law's reason is very simple. At her age, there is nothing to worry about. An An can just stay at home, not to mention that she can't support her.

Huahua's family is well off. Her husband is the general manager of a company with an annual salary of at least 2 million. Her mother-in-law was also a high school teacher before she retired. Her father-in-law is a doctor. After retirement, he was hired back by his employer as a consultant, and he can earn a salary in one year.

A lot of money.

It stands to reason that with Huahua's conditions, there is really no need to worry too much, but she doesn't think so. Before leaving her job, she was also an excellent working woman. She led a team of more than 20 people and worked tirelessly on cases. She felt

That was the most unforgettable experience in her life.

Huahua majored in marketing. She used to work in an advertising company. The work was very intensive and the salary was good. She personally liked the company and had a good relationship with the leader. Although she had left her job many years ago, the old leader also said that if she wanted

You are always welcome to come back.

After staying at home for a long time, Huahua wanted to come back. She missed the outside world and the days of fighting in the workplace, so after thinking about it for a few nights, she decided to return to the workplace.

But at this time, her husband, who had always been submissive to her, said: You can go to work if you want, but get a divorce first.

Her husband threatened her with divorce because he did not want her to go to work.

Huahua feels that in her husband's eyes, she should live dependent on him, and there is no need or need to reflect her own value.

Huahua's husband is a bit of a chauvinist. He has always felt that women don't need to work too hard, as long as they take care of the family. Besides, he has the ability to support the family, so there is no need for women to go out and show off.

Huahua's character is the kind of person who takes soft things rather than hard ones. Since her husband asked her to choose one of the two, she chose the latter without much hesitation, divorced, and then started her life again.

Full-time housewives look glamorous on the surface, but in fact only they know the pain behind them.

Some like Huahua are relatively good, and there are some families whose conditions are average. There are no elderly people to help take care of the children, and the wife has no choice but to leave her job. Life is really miserable.

But no matter what, since a man can propose a divorce or leave the company, she feels that she is worthless in this man's heart, and she has to leave even to prove herself.

When Huahua got divorced, many people didn't understand, especially her parents, who called her stupid and asked what was wrong with living a good life at her age. Her mother-in-law even said that she was selfish and only thought about herself.

Divorcing for the sake of her career, Huahua was ridiculed by her relatives and friends for a while. Everyone thought that she must have lost her mind to do such a thing.

But it turns out that Huahua made the right choice.

After the divorce, she returned to the workplace and put almost all her energy into her work. In just two years, she achieved high profits for the company. It is never too late to prove herself.

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So, is it right or wrong for women to pursue self-worth?

I personally think that there is no right or wrong in it. As long as you think it can make you happy and meaningful, then you can do it boldly. Even if you fail in the end or you are reviled, it’s okay. At worst, you have to start over.

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The most important thing in this life is to do what we want to do and what we think is right.

Nothing is necessary, and it doesn't matter if you should or should not. Only by following your heart and respecting yourself will others truly respect you.