But in your heart, have you ever secretly envied those "torturing" goblins?
Man is a very strange creature. "Bai Gujing" wins men's respect, and "goblin" wins men's love.
Xiao Qiao I know is a very abrasive girl. For example, she likes watching Korean dramas, and then she begins to "torture" her Ouba: Why is the Internet speed not fast enough? Obama quickly debugged the network for her. Why hasn't the play been updated? Oba went to the forum to find BT seeds for her. She often watches Korean dramas with her Oba. Her Oba looks innocent. "I don't like watching it." "no! ! ! "
I once went to her house and saw her watching Korean dramas. She played with her mobile phone next to Oba's house and stuffed fruit into her mouth. She shed tears when she saw this touching story. He handed her a tissue while playing games. I really envy and hate the harmony of that picture.
Xiao Qiao said, stop playing with your mobile phone. He retorted, I'm playing with your idol brand mobile phone. It turns out that although he doesn't watch plays, he knows her preferences like the back of his hand.
It was not until the company was disconnected that Xiao Qiao quickly jumped up to repair the router. I'm surprised to say that you can mess with this thing. She smiled naughtily and let him stay at home. Do you need me to do it?
The wife and sister of the company have always been the goddess in our hearts. She not only has a successful career, but also has a husband who cares about her very much. Once we were on a business trip together, we heard her call her husband at night, changed her usual irrefutable tone and said irrefutably, "Are you at home?" It's so late, go home early. "
I asked curiously, "Sister Li, aren't you at home on business?" Do you want to ask him if he is at home? " Sister Li smiled and replied, "Isn't this the same as working in a company? Only when the customer makes a request can you have a clear sense of responsibility. "
"Do you still need to make a request? You have been married for so long that he sends you flowers every birthday holiday. I am so envious. "
"Do you think he will be so awake? He sent flowers when he was in love, but he stopped sending them when he got married. I was very unhappy. He knows I care, so he cares. "
Only then did I know sister Li's secret. It turns out that Bai at work may also be a grinding demon in her life.
In the Korean drama "You from the Stars", although Jane Shengyi is a popular star, Do Min Joon, a neighbor, was "tortured" miserably. Money was blocked by reporters at home, and she was hungry and thirsty when she couldn't get out, so she had to bring her food. Qian was sick and couldn't drive by herself, which forced her to take her to the doctor, and then she fell in love. In the movie "33 Days of Lovelorn Love", Huang Xiaoxian was lovelorn, and Wang Xiaojian helped her out to scold her boyfriend, pack up and move. After a while, they finally got together.
Psychologically speaking, people will be willing to help the person they like solve the trouble. The more times they help her solve the trouble, the more they may like it.
This is called "cognitive dissonance" in psychology. Aronson wrote in "Social Animals" that this is a typical cognitive disorder "defending for efforts": any effort of a person will change his cognition and attitude in action, and the greater the effort, the greater the change in attitude until it is beyond redemption.
The popular explanation is that when he was troubled by you, he actually experienced an imbalance, and there was a contradiction between his behavior and his attitude towards you. He will subconsciously convince himself that you are worth his effort and pain.