Story 1: Xiao Min is my friend, and I fell in love with a man 12 years older than her in college. That man has a successful career and speaks politely, giving people a sense of being practical and steady. So as soon as he graduated, Xiao Min married him.
After marriage, Xiao Min became the envy of us. There is no need to rush to find a job, let alone worry about not being able to pay the rent for next month. Although far from being a rich woman, Xiao Min is more handsome than any of us, and his circle of friends is either traveling or eating.
But the only drawback is that Xiao Min never succeeded in getting pregnant because of her weak constitution. At first, Xiao Min didn't feel anything. He is so young, it is always good to recuperate his lower body slowly. But at this time, Xiao Min's husband was impatient and would lose his temper with Xiaomin from time to time.
Xiao Min never dreamed that her husband filed for divorce on the grounds of infertility. During the divorce, Xiao Min also learned that her husband's last marriage was also due to fertility problems.
Although my friend advised Xiao Min not to marry a second-married man easily before marriage, her husband's various behaviors told Xiao Min that he was different from other second-married men.
Now Xiao Min knows that there is no simple love between divorced men. They look stable and mature on the surface, but the price behind this is that once they fail to meet his standards, they will be decisively abandoned.
Story 2: Before my wife and I got married, a friend advised me to think about it. I didn't care at that time, either. Isn't it because she got married? I am also married for the second time, but I subconsciously feel mutual appreciation for her and don't think there is anything wrong with her.
After getting married, I was very gentle with her, and I was also very polite in speaking and doing things, for fear of accidentally touching her sore spot and making her unhappy. Usually at home, as long as I have time, I will take the initiative to help her with housework. She also has the final say in the economic power of the family, and I never ask about some small things, so I let her handle it with full authority. However, she has always been wary of me. Although she can't see it on the surface, I know that she has never trusted me and always left me alone.
Now that we have been married for two years, it seems that there is still a film between me and her, and it is always difficult to really get together. I want to tell all my friends here that it is really difficult to have a heart-to-heart relationship with a second-married woman. She has always been wary of you, afraid that you will hurt her and don't want to believe you.
These two stories may not be representative enough, but what Bian Xiao wants to say is: whether divorced or unmarried, by comparison, they may have their own advantages and disadvantages, but don't generalize.
Who has no flaws? Before getting married, first understand each other's personality, and then consider whether it is suitable for marriage. There is no need to be too entangled in divorce. Besides, which divorced person didn't come from the stage of never being married? You have never been married before, so you can have a history of marriage.
Of course, divorced people, because they have had marriage experience, will be different from those who have no marriage experience. Because of being hurt, love may remain and will not be invested; Because I have been married, I know more about what I want and what I want, and I have a stronger purpose. Because of their marriage experience, their family relationship may be more complicated and complicated.
But at the same time, people who have experienced marriage also have many advantages: for example, they will be much more mature when dealing with family relations, because they will cherish marriage and family more than those who have experienced marriage failure; Because of the experience, I will know each other better, know how to be considerate and know how to measure; Because of their marriage experience, they know how to run a marriage better and will not leave easily.
Therefore, having a marriage experience is not necessarily a bad thing, and marrying a second-married woman and a second-married man is not necessarily a bad thing. The most important thing is whether people are good or not. Even if you are married for the first time, they will not be happy or even divorced. If a person is really nice, even if he has been married two or three times, he can make you feel good. In marriage, the most important thing is to find the right person. As for divorce or not, it really doesn't matter.