Colorful Jun is a full of food plus play master, go wherever will first ask where there is delicious, and then is fun. I remember when I first came to Qingdao, I didn't know where to go, so I asked a friend where to eat and have fun. So, my friend recommended to me the eight passes, I took the time to run to the eight passes to see, really general. Eat in addition to a variety of seafood, not much other features, to see the play is more general, all kinds of antique buildings, most of them are newly repaired, not a little sense of age.
Afterward, my friend asked me how it was. I said very good very good, my friend was also very happy to hear, and then recommended a cassoulet rice, said the flavor is particularly positive, had to drag me to eat. As a result, the cassoulet is full of sweet and spicy sauce, and the soup poured is not fresh juice, but oil soup. My friend asked me how it was, and I gave him my real preference this time, and I was afraid that as soon as I said it was good, he would take me to a place he thought was good to eat.
The other meaning of "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you". What you like, others may not necessarily like, so do things, so do people.
Share a rabbit fishing story--
The first day, the rabbit went to the river to fish, caught nothing, went home.
The second day, the rabbit went to the river to fish again, still caught nothing and went home.
On the third day, when the rabbit arrived at the river, a big fish jumped out of the river and yelled at the rabbit: "If you dare to use carrots as bait again, do you believe I will beat you?"
See this story, in the heart of a smile at the same time, think carefully, the reality of such a rabbit is really quite a lot. We think this rabbit is very silly and ridiculous, we ourselves? There's no way to talk about other people's preferences with your own preferences.
A suited and booted social elite may find the unkempt homeless man very sad, do not know in the eyes of the homeless man, you wear a board day after day to run around all day is very ridiculous?
So Confucius said, "I must be my teacher", not only for people to learn humbly and take people's strengths, there is also a meaning of thinking differently in it. Learning to think differently can really do good with people, grateful.
However, everything is divided into two sides, thinking differently is relative, completely for others not for themselves is not good, that is easy to lose self, but also easy to make themselves particularly tired, unhappy.
It's like writing an article, always thinking about what others like, how others will evaluate, certainly not write a good article. A really good article needs the author's personality and position, lost this point, the article has no soul.
Writing needs to be narcissistic first, and then make people love it. Writing should be able to withstand the comments of others, the article is written to understand their own people to see, do not understand the people, no matter what he said, do not have to care too much.
Writing so, see the text is also so, they like, regardless of whether the article itself is in line with the format of the set, the first to say a good. I don't like it, even if it is praised by many people, I don't necessarily say good. As the saying goes, each has his own favorite carrot and cabbage, many things, they like it enough.
Prefer your own preferences, respect the preferences of others, learn to think differently, be humble and studious, be careful what you say, can do these, life will be very different!
January 6, 2020 at Sheraton Qingdao Chengyang Hall