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There is a very hot topic on Zhihu: "There are certain words that cannot be used to joke with girls?"

An anonymous answer with high votes The Lord replied:

"You have quite big breasts. Will your clothes be tight?" "..." I gave him a cold look. "Oh, I'm just kidding, I just complimented you on your good figure, hahaha."

"Why didn't xx come?" "I don't know, maybe her husband made her unable to get out of bed yesterday, hahaha." " ..." Although I was a bystander, I was really embarrassed.

I don’t know if you have ever encountered a man making such provocative or sexual jokes. To be honest, I have. Every time I hear such words, I really think about it. curse!

They thought their humor lightened up the atmosphere, but in fact they were extremely embarrassed and disrespectful to each other.

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My friend Youyou encountered this kind of thing some time ago.

One day at noon, Youyou put instant noodles in the company's microwave oven to heat up and took them out in a short time.

A male colleague from the same department saw it and stood nearby and said: "You are so fast, are you okay?"

Youyou smiled and replied: "Well, I like to eat hard food. A little bit."

Unexpectedly, the male colleague looked at her and said with a lewd smile on his face: "So you like to eat hard food. Your boyfriend knows you like it... .."

Yuyou said that she was really angry at the time, but felt that it was not good to lose her temper on the spot, so she suppressed her anger and said, "Please don't say such things, thank you."

The male colleague probably also saw that Yoyo was angry, so he quickly said: "I was just joking with you, but you took it seriously, hahaha."

Yoyo later told me: "It's true. I am super disgusted with boys making overly sexual or sexually suggestive jokes to me. Maybe it’s because I’m relatively conservative and feel that boys making such jokes subconsciously think that I’m frivolous, so I feel very unhappy when I hear similar words. It’s okay if my boyfriend tells me sexual jokes. But, he and I are just colleagues. Does he really think such jokes are funny?”

I really agree, there are many. Although the boys are not familiar with us, but they are just colleagues or classmates, they always like to make some boring and colorful jokes. When they see us angry, they will say, "You are just kidding." Some even say, "You are just kidding me." Can't you afford it?"

Sorry, I don't think you are really joking. Even if I can't even make a joke, so what!

To be honest, I always feel that sometimes you have to be careful when speaking. Ignorance does not mean being funny, and being humorous does not mean that you do not know how to respect others.

There is a saying that is particularly true. The purpose of joking is to make people laugh, not to make people feel sad and then laugh themselves.

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I remembered a passage I saw on Weibo before: The purpose of men telling dirty jokes in front of women is to test them. They are not just telling, but more importantly. The most important thing is to look at the woman's facial expression after the talk and what kind of feedback is provided. By interpreting the feedback, the man can test out the woman's openness to sex, and then feel whether it is easy to get started.

Freud also said: "There is no such thing as a joke, all jokes have serious elements."

Therefore, male compatriots, please remember not to do it casually in the future Make dirty or sexually suggestive jokes in front of girls.

You think it’s a joke, but we take it seriously.

Remember, it is always better to laugh at yourself without restraint than to make fun of others in a restrained manner.