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A student asked me the day before yesterday that he went out on a date, and it went well on the whole, but after the date, the girl suddenly ignored him, and I don't know why.
I thought there must be a ghost in this matter, so I asked the details about the date carefully.
A student's self-report caught my attention:
"The whole thing is fine, that is, I saw a puppy when I sent her home, and my sister had a good time with it. I seem to have said that I like small animals before, but I didn't show much love at that time, and I was far away. Actually, I'm afraid of dogs. I felt that the girl seemed to have a little expression change at that time. After returning to China, WeChat basically never returned to me. "
Having said that, I don't know what the problem is.
Obviously, the girls reacted well at first, but suddenly they ignored it. The key lies in this "dog"
More precisely, it is a "consistent fracture".
"Consistency" here means that your language, identity, behavior and attitude are always consistent.
Refers to a person's truth, consistency of thoughts and actions.
And "consistency fracture" means that there is an obvious deviation.
In other words, your performance is not what you say, which will lead to your image plummeting in the eyes of girls and even a feeling of being cheated.
Students' words and deeds are different, and sensitive girls will easily feel it, but they will not say it.
Trust is a piece of paper. Once it is broken, everything else will be doubted.
Just like when we meet "cheating" on a date, we will scold our mother in our hearts and run away instantly, even if you liked it badly before.
Once the cornerstone of trust is broken, other attractions can easily disappear in an instant, which is the terrible consequence caused by "consistency fracture"
Consistency is the most important in the following four aspects. Any kind of "consistency breakdown" will directly lead to the breakdown of your relationship. Evan's love guide (more girl-chasing skills: v84629ss), a love guide expert around you.
1 language consistency
First of all, you should be able to express your position clearly when you speak, instead of saying one thing and doing another, which is inconsistent.
For example, a brother found that girls like desserts. In order to cater to girls, we told each other we liked each other in the chat, and then we forgot what we said. When they are full of dessert, they casually say that they don't like dessert.
Or girls like a TV series. In order to cater to girls, I said I like it and haven't seen it. As a result, they couldn't catch up when chatting, and finally the girl ended the topic angrily.
These are all very demeaning behaviors.
There is also a common consistency problem. Maybe you can't tell which is which when you talk to more girls at the same time.
You obviously didn't say anything to this girl, but you think you did.
Then ask the other person, "Didn't I tell you this? I remember saying this sentence. "
If this happens more than three times, basically girls will completely lose trust in you, no matter how you explain it. For girls with low sense of security, it is even worse and may be hacked once. No matter how good the chat is, it's useless.
There is a more serious consistency fracture, giving different girls different ambiguous nicknames and then confusing them.
Obviously, you should call a little silly girl, but you called a little pig, and the girls began to soar. Isn't that sour and refreshing?
So, either just say one, say more, and the nickname is better- -
So many times, knowing is knowing, not knowing is not knowing, just knowing. Evan's love guide (more girl-chasing skills: v84629ss), a love guide expert around you.
2 Identity consistency
In the initial contact, we always introduce the general situation to each other, but some people deliberately disguise their identities and fake their designs.
For example, some brothers say that they used to be cooks, but they can't cook at all.
A girl who wants to taste your cooking can only show that she used to talk casually, and girls will be disappointed in an instant.
What's more, you say that you are a rich second generation or a rich second generation, but after meeting, you find that goods are sold everywhere, claiming to be coats worth tens of thousands of dollars. It turns out that Taobao is priced at 298.
I don't know anything about high-end luxury goods. I don't even know anything about taking girls to western restaurants.
You are so awesome, why don't you drive a tank to the streets? Why don't you go to heaven?
Man-made collapse is the most deadly, and it is easy to be exposed in contact and communication.
This is also a kind of "consistency breaking", which will make girls feel that you are cheating her.
So tell her who you are.
You can beautify it properly, but don't pretend it deliberately.
Unless you are very "pretending", Joker Xue's The Actor suits you very well.
I turn a blind eye to the performance I should perform with you. I am forcing someone who loves you the most to improvise. Evan's love guide (more girl-chasing skills: v84629ss), a love guide expert around you.
3 Behavior consistency
Literally, you should be consistent in your work and behavior, which is easily confused with language consistency.
In fact, the rupture of language consistency is the inconsistency before and after speaking, and the rupture of behavior consistency is the inconsistency between saying and doing.
Just like when some people strike up a conversation, they clearly say:
"I think you are very temperamental, and I want to know you. I am not a bad person."
You look confident, but you dare not look her in the eye.
When the other person leans back, you lean forward further.
Also said that you are not a bad person, Lao tze a feet chuai dead you.
This is the root cause of your low success rate in hitting on people.
There is also a typical lack of consistency in behavior. In order to pretend to be cold, I said to the girl, "I have something to do here." As a result, I kept chatting with girls until the girls finally asked:
"Aren't you busy?" "Didn't you go to the meeting?"
Or when a girl makes a mistake or behaves badly, she decides to give her some color to see see, such as "If you don't like it, I am such a person", and then decides not to reply to the girl. As a result, she was handsome for only three seconds, and the girl went back to kneel with some sunshine and had no attitude at all.
This will not push and pull, and it will appear that you have no principles and break your word.
Or, the gift you promised to buy for girls, the place you promised to take girls to, will become the next time every time, until finally the girls find out that you are a complete loser.
What girls want is a real man, because it will reflect many habits of men, even the future.
Therefore, when it comes to what to say, we must do it in order to maintain the consistency of behavior. Evan's love guide (more girl-chasing skills: v84629ss), a love guide expert around you.
4 Attitude consistency
If you express any attitude at first, you must stick to it. This is your principle and bottom line.
For example, brothers often meet girls who are late or stood up.
Faced with this situation, you dare not make any statement or choose to forgive her.
You like to forgive so much, should I give you a "forgiveness hat"?
This man with no attitude doesn't even have "consistency", let alone "consistency fracture".
In the eyes of girls, this is a man without principles, and girls naturally will not respect you.
In the face of being late, you can directly point out that she is late and tell her that you don't like it.
The softer way is to hint at her in words: "It's so late, it seems that you have made careful preparations for this date."
The girl stood you up for no reason. Ask her directly the next day.
If she says she forgot something, just shout "Great, it's a good thing I didn't go either!" " "
If a girl does have something to explain to you, you can tell her:
"I understand, but next time you stand me up, I'll hit you."
Another situation is that some boys obviously don't like some things that girls do, such as smoking.
Then be direct and strict when dating: "I don't like girls who smoke, so you will deduct points from my heart."
In fact, many girls dare to speak their attitudes directly. Why not?
Don't think that this will be called straight by girls. The real straight male cancer is that you don't understand girls and have no attitude.
Many people can't keep the same attitude. The fundamental reason is that I like each other too much.
You will try your best to please her, but ignore your own principles.
Finally, I wish everyone can catch up with the right woman! Evan's Love Guide (Learn more about chasing girls: v84629ss) is dedicated to providing men with emotional services such as quick divorce guidance and love counseling.