In fact, I think a woman's life may have three kinds of role transformation. When you fall in love, you love to be pampered, like a daughter, or like a little sister. Married, living a life, this time is the wife. A long time, the home of everything more and more dependent on his wife, the big package, away from his wife, everything is a mess, this time, is not like a mother?
A count of marriage has been twenty-four years, the morning light of his wife's head has been much gray hair, which witnessed the vicissitudes of the years, but also witnessed the family's time passes. And look at his wife's face that has been full of chloasma, the heart of a hundred flavors. Today's wife, where is enjoying life? And lately especially laborious, especially my last year's acute illness.
In the evening of early December of that year, a pain that tore through my chest and back, I knew that the cardiovascular disease that had haunted me for so long had finally struck. The worst thing was that I was traveling to a small county in a foreign province, and I was sure that my life was hanging in the balance in such a medical environment. It was nine o'clock in the evening, I tweeted to my wife, she was also anxious, let quickly call 120 to the hospital. I thought I would hold out for a while and see if I could make it back to Xi'an the next day to see a doctor, because I had booked a train ticket for the next day. At ten o'clock, I finally couldn't hold back, called 120, there is only a project driver around, sent me to the county hospital.
The county hospital is really relatively simple, the doctor's attitude and level of actually quite good, according to the examination quickly determined that I was aortic tear. But this disease county hospital does not have surgical conditions, can only think of ways to give me lower pressure, must immediately go to the provincial capital specialized hospitals to do surgery. The ambulance of the hospital in the county city could only pick up but not send me to the hospital, so I helped to contact the private ambulance outside. The private ambulance is afraid of me in the middle of the sudden death, to find their responsibility, give how much money do not dare to send, I was on the phone to say that write a guarantee also does not matter.
I'm a little desperate, I feel like I've reached the end of my life, even though the fourth year of this life is still close to being next to, after all, is only middle-aged, then asked the doctor if I should explain the last words. Wife also already know the situation, I can imagine that she was restless, constantly and accompany my driver contact, while playing money to pay this side of the hospital fees, and my leadership on the phone. Finally, my leadership found a sister organization in the province, and as expected, they were able to contact an ambulance from a hospital in a regional city 40 kilometers away. The ambulance came a little late and put me on the bus at about 3:00 a.m., and then went straight to the provincial capital. Three hours later, I was finally lying in the emergency room of a specialized hospital in the provincial city.
Describe how miserable I was. I was sallow. In fact, from the night of the onset of the disease, the consciousness gradually began to be unconscious. 7 night onset, the early morning of the 8th to the provincial hospital, the 9th afternoon emergency surgery. I can only remember that I have been lying down, pushed around to do a variety of tests, to the ward also vomited a (which is also a sign of cardiovascular disease attack).
My wife took the high-speed train to get there on the morning of the 8th. The first time I arrived was to listen to the doctor's introduction of the condition, said my situation is particularly special, compared with others more dangerous is the blood vessels and deformity, then the difficulty of the operation will be much greater. At that time, the situation was so urgent that the chief physician contacted their supply unit to expedite the production of artificial tubes based on my malformed blood vessels on Sunday. Thanks to the chief physician's high sense of responsibility, under his supervision, the materials needed for the operation were ready on Monday, and I was operated through minimally invasive surgery on Monday afternoon.
According to Baidu, the mortality rate of aortic tears increases by 2% per hour, and I will reach 48 hours by the evening of the 9th.
And my surgery was very difficult, another patient with a torn aorta was pushed into the operating room with me, and his surgery was completed in more than an hour, while mine took more than three hours, so I can imagine that the medical staff who rescued me at that time must have been drenched in sweat. I would like to express my deepest gratitude to them.
After the surgery, the first night with my wife was torture. After the operation, I was groggy, because it is minimally invasive, in the thigh root pressure with a salt bag, must prevent me from bending the leg, my wife will be pillowed in my thigh, the whole night. My wife is the same age as me, and is also running five years old, but from the end of the operation, burst out of the amazing potential, so that I was surprised. In the following two weeks, my wife was like Superman, serving me from morning to night. She took care of me from morning to night, eating, changing medicines, washing hospital gowns, and even urinating and defecating. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at my wife, and she was very happy to see that I was able to get a good look at her.
Before in more than twenty years of **** with life, my wife and I have always been like enemies. The wife is the youngest daughter of the family, since childhood, willful and arrogant, speak loudly, completely without the appearance of a small bird to rely on. In the three views we are also very different, such as buying things we have to fight, because I hate her comparison of goods, but also calculating price, I like to look on, the price is almost took on the go. In addition, she was excited to see the supermarkets have discounts, queuing up a long line, and I always think that to save those small money to spend the old nose time is not good. Cooking is also to fight, I do not eat leftovers, so I advocate eating as much as possible to do as much as possible, so inevitably the dinner table is not abundant, but their family habit is to do a large table, and then even to the third day has not been eaten. Of course, I have a lot of problems, I do not like to do housework, especially home repair work, but these jobs should have been the man to do. And from the time the kids were born to now that they're in college, it's basically all my wife's fault. On the whole, I am a handful, in addition to the money back, really did not do much for the family contribution. All in all, I don't know how we both got through all these years. It's like that saying that couples who are in love again have 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 urges to strangle each other in their lives, and I'm sure we both must have ten times more than the number described.
But one life-and-death experience, and the gratitude for my wife came flooding back.
It was not easy for my wife to marry me and stay with me for so many years. When I think about it now, I was not good enough for my wife, and I didn't give her a good life after marriage. For women, the most important thing in the second half of life is marriage, and the wife at least did not get much benefit from it.
I didn't have a good family. At the age of four or so, I think, my real mother died, leaving me with two brothers. My father remarried a few years later, and my stepmother brought two more children. Since then, first of all, the family's finances were controlled by my stepmother, who did not take into account either the education of my brothers or the support of my grandparents, and every time I asked her to send money for my living expenses, it was as if she wanted to die. We didn't live together and were sent to our grandparents to grow up, and I have a very deep impression of the hardship brought about by the poverty of the family at that time, and the cold eyes of the surrounding neighbors.
After graduating from junior high school, my brother's grades were actually very good, but my stepmother was willing to let us go to high school and college. Forced all to go to the examination of secondary school, so that you can work early? So, I was less than twenty years old and graduated. Graduation allocation, even if the parents of students from rural areas know to go to the teacher, to seek connections to run around, seeking to allocate a good unit, but I can only go to the worst construction company. Afterwards, the father of the horse after the gun, smacked me not early to say, he can go to the chemical two hundred dollars to find a teacher to find a fixed unit for me, I heart only bitter smile, two hundred dollars to stepmother to pull out, may be?
Less than twenty years old I worked, fortunately I am a more thrifty person. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal of money from the company. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to get out of this, but I'm sure I'll be able to get out of it. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
My expenses to settle down and start a career are all earned by myself, without the help of my parents, in fact, it is more difficult. After moving into the new house, the family was left with three or four thousand dollars. At that time, my wife was still with a child, and it was not possible to get the support of the in-laws as others did, so I could only not go to work, and the days were also quite difficult. But two people face together, and do not feel the hardship. When I saw that my family's finances were tight, I had the idea of changing units. In fact, my evaluation of myself, the only positive thing is the work, strong sense of responsibility, good learning, so the technical level is good. I also took this opportunity to jump ship, to a unit that can give full play to their abilities, a year and a half later promoted to the middle level. Since the change of unit, income has increased significantly, and in 2006 we bought a second suite. During this period, I was very impressed with my wife's meticulous budgeting, can be said to the point of every cent, once I was quite disgusted. Going out never refused to take a taxi, also do not love to dress up, can not afford to buy clothes and jewelry, never go to the beauty to do hair and so on. But now that I think about it, my wife is not for the family in the savings, without her savings, which has now the family business? If if the moonlight family, losing gold female, may be living more glamorous, just the accident came, which have to be calm?
Take this surgery as an example, the surgery cost 150,000, the wife can get out directly, do not have to put together. And after the surgery home recuperation, a month after the epidemic trapped in the home, see the Internet this said to break the loan, that worry about livelihood, but there is a wife's planning, these are not yet a problem. I do not have a mortgage, the family savings so that the various expenses will not affect their own lives. Now I have a secret plan in mind that if one day I am gone early, my wife at least will not have a hard time financially. I told her to sell the house, live in the old house left by her parents, the money from the sale of the house, you can get a certain amount of income every year through financial management, she will also have a poor pension, make do without problems. The child is now in his first year of college, and even if he graduates from graduate school, the family's savings will not be a problem.
All of this comes from the wife's hard work and thrift, giving the family a bottom line.
Another advantage of the wife, is capable. She is passionate about doing housework. Every day must be mopping the floor, cooking is a full package, these are all her previous has been taken care of, before the clothes are she washed her and her daughter's, my own wash. The first thing I've noticed is that I've had a lot of problems with the way I look at things, and I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do anything about it.
After four months of recuperation, I started to do some work. But when it comes to work people may still think it's a joke. For example, to boil water, I put the water on the stove to boil, wait until the water boiled, but can not let me pour, must she pour, the reason is that I can not physical labor, irrigation in case of injury to the blood vessels on the trouble. I can only wash underwear and socks, but I can't do anything else that requires a lot of effort. I can't wash the dishes because I don't wash them well enough. I can sweep the floor, but I don't have to mop it. In this way, I am completely free, but she is busy like a gyroscope ah.
The same goes for the epidemic. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good look at this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good look at this. The children are also the same. But the wife could not. She still has to go out, although for her safety, repeatedly asked her to try not to go out. But at the most basic level, you have to buy food when you don't have any, and you have to take out the garbage. Nowadays, garbage is sorted and managed. Our neighborhood is not particularly large, and there is only one garbage disposal point, which requires crossing half of the yard. Our province added has been 0 up, but each time always feel still an adventure. Property in order to solve the problem of everyone's life, centralized into a number of vegetables in the yard unified sale, need to queue. The queue is old and long, and most people still manage to stick to a meter and a half spacing. On those occasions, my wife was also a member of the queue. The key moment, my family is always the wife rushed to the front line, this point, let me sweat, but also more let me know the dependence on his wife.
Alas, even if away from the housework, men always have the advantage of men, the family naturally have men must share the work, but now so, I suddenly feel that I really wife's burden, what can not be separated from his wife.
The first two paragraphs of the story are about a man who is a man of the world, a man of the world, and a man of the world.
One day to eat hot pot, from the morning, his wife is constantly in the order, buy vegetables, buy thin slices of beef and mutton. Before the opening of the pot, the wife and the kitchen door command: the table to clean up a little bit, soon to put dishes put pot, but also do not make room, really! In fact, put before, I hate my wife rambling, especially her sentence "really", I think it is purely to aggravate the atmosphere, have to directly start the verbal dispute, who will not let anyone. But now, I obediently do what she says, and do not talk back. For one thing, I have a muffled throat, and for another, I also feel that it's actually a blessing to be rambled on, and how many more days do I have to hear such ramblings.
The pot was boiling, and my wife was sitting at the pot, with my daughter on one side and me on the other. My wife kept putting slices of meat, tofu skin, bean curd, shiitake mushrooms, and sliced potatoes into the pot, and then fishing them out again. All the time she was distributing the meat to the two of us, but she didn't move a single bite. She was like a mother in this scene, and her daughter was the little one, and I became the big one. And because I did not eat properly since the disease, weight loss of twenty pounds, but also have to eat meat.
And the other part is a while ago, the hot broadcast of the "home". I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it, and I'm sure I'll be able to do it. Although the voice is muffled, also like to occasionally chat a few words about the plot.
The story of Grandma Jiang and Grandpa Song has probably touched countless people. Grandma Jiang, as the owner of the first floor of the Jiang family house, was eager to sell the house, and the money she got in exchange had to be given to Grandpa Song to cure his illness. And Grandpa Song has an incurable disease, he does not consider the cure, and wants to leave a sum of money for Grandma Jiang to spend the rest of her life generously.
The unsightly eating of their nephews in this drama has its own audience to criticize. I was y impressed by one of the details. After Grandpa Song eventually succumbed to his illness, Grandma Jiang witnessed something in her home. It was mentioned that once Grandpa Song got a reward of five hundred dollars, he rushed to make a cheongsam for Grandma Jiang. In fact, this kind of behavior is not uncommon among couples. Once an occasional windfall, often will consider their closest people to buy a favorite clothing objects, as a kind of memorial, more as a happy sharing.
I suddenly said to my wife, that year, got a two thousand dollars of extra money, I took you to the Minsheng shopping mall to buy clothes for you, and you can not afford it. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't think I'm going to be able to do that, but I think I'm going to be able to do that," he said. I bought her a $19 T-shirt on the street in 2003, and she blurted out that she still has it! The two looked at each other and laughed.
More than twenty years of uneventful living together, between husband and wife has long been transformed into a kindred spirit, even if there is another dispute, my wife is the most important person in my life. Her thoughtfulness is not just a simple act of tucking in at night, but permeates every detail of her life. It can be said that as long as there is no wife at home for a moment, I will be at a loss. This is as if the child's dependence on the mother, but also really have a wife like a mother, only to have my happy life today.