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In modern life, more and more women are able to occupy a place in the workplace through their own efforts. Financial independence and personal independence have become their labels. But what happens when they get married?

Some people say that when a woman gets married and becomes a mother, she begins a life of focusing on her children and her husband and losing herself. In the recent hit Cantonese drama "Baby Is Big", as a new mother, Youyou has to take care of her two-year-old daughter, take care of her career, mediate the relationship between her mother and her husband, and balance her relationship with her mother-in-law. It can be said that after marriage, the role she needs to play is no longer a single working woman.

Since the birth of my daughter, it no longer matters what she was like before. Because no matter where she is or what she is doing, the baby's physical and mental needs must be far more important than her own physical and mental needs.

“It doesn’t matter whether it’s cloudy or sunny day or night, wind or rain, no matter if the sky falls or everything collapses, no matter if the city falls, if civilization collapses, no matter if it’s the end of the world or Star Wars, I’ll feed you and make you grow. It is my bounden duty to grow up quickly, and it is my mission to teach you well and make you sensible, upright and kind."

As a new mother, Yoyo, like all mothers, has a deep love for girls and children. She loves her daughter in every possible way and always pays attention to her every move. She even listens carefully to her daughter when she goes to the toilet or takes a bath. The dad played by Ma Ming is wandering in the mountains. Even though he sees Youyou being so busy worrying about the child even going to the toilet and taking a bath, he is playing games on his mobile phone and lulling the child to sleep with TV series and candies.

His family conditions were obviously better than his own, which invisibly put a lot of pressure on him. In his heart, he also wanted to raise children together with his wife, but this pair of new parents had completely different ideas on many issues of child rearing, and it was easy for them to have differences.

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You Zaishan thinks that as a stay-at-home mother, Yoyo is too responsible and too stressed out. Yoyo often has to be stressed out because she has to juggle work and childcare like a fish in water. In between, they are almost "fighting guerrilla warfare."

"I have to cook breakfast early in the morning. While my daughter is having breakfast, she has to do the laundry. After my daughter has finished breakfast, I will help her change her clothes and take her to various interest classes. While she is in class, she will When I go shopping, I have to go home to dry the clothes and wash the toilet... On the way to pick her up, I have to go online to pay for water, electricity, gas, and change my address, and then take her to the park to burn off her energy while she finishes her afternoon tea. When she takes a nap, she has to wash vegetables, clean, and mop the floor. If she's lucky, she still has time to cook, wash the dishes, take a bath, and tell bedtime stories. After she falls asleep, she can go online to compare prices to buy electrical appliances... ....This is just an arrangement, not counting the fact that Tongtong often gets into trouble. He just urinates here and poops there. The teacher calls at any time and asks me to prepare this, that, and when I get to the toy store or ice cream shop, She insisted and refused to leave..."

After a series of trivial parenting tasks, Youyou felt exhausted, and finally couldn't help but feel aggrieved and said to her husband You Zaishan, why can't I spend a day When used for 72 hours? Why am I not a universal mother?

In fact, no mother is a perfect mother. Because parenting is not a mother’s business alone, she must know how to seek help from those around her when the time is right, instead of taking on everything by herself and causing family conflicts. Harmonious family relationships are also more conducive to children's growth and are also crucial to raising children.

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So this drama is not trying to create anxiety and fear about marriage and parenting. Rather, it tells us that the management of the parent-child relationship does not bring you a life of "everything and everything". The trivial, complicated and various contradictions and difficulties that trouble you in the parenting life are also the problems that a new father will face. Opportunities for mothers to learn and grow throughout their lives. New parents will also discover that our children can bring us far more than we can give them.

The mother in the play explains this very well:

"Many times, I ask myself whether I am capable enough to protect you and let you grow up healthily and happily. .......Especially when I am not healthy and happy, and my world is at its worst and most chaotic, but you are the sunshine in my life, and you are always full of magical power. Inspire me and light me up anytime and anywhere, cheer me up from depression, recover from pain, gain stability from chaos, and feel complete from shortcomings. You are the one who allows me to be patient and complete one life-long practice lesson of being a parent. ”

Just like when you feel stressed and irritable in life, when you are depressed about something, when you feel lacking in the past, just look at that innocent, lovely and extremely pure face. face, you will cheer up and smile knowingly, as if all your worries are gone with the wind.

Because no matter what, you know, you still have this child, and you are the child's world. When you understand what is most worth protecting in your life, your pain, depression, worries, everything, will not be so important.

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Lucky, the daughter of Lee Seung-hyun and Qi Wei in the popular variety show "Let's Think of a Solution, Dad", has won the favor of many netizens with her cute and smart character. favorite. It can be seen from this that the father cherishes and spoils his daughter, but he also educates her well.

Once, when Lucky was filming the music video for "Ponyo on the Cliff", he was nervous because he was afraid of not doing well. His father encouraged him: "Now that we have started, we must do our best." , in order to eliminate Lucky's nervousness, her father stayed with her until she adapted to the environment. When the filming officially started, Lucky was recording on the stage, and her father danced along with her in the audience, patiently guiding her all the time. Because I was young and couldn't find the camera, I recorded it over and over again. I was even asked to sing a lyric 15 times before it passed. And these 15 times are still high-pitched. Even an adult would shout tired, let alone a 5-year-old child? You see, it is not easy to be accompanied and educated by parents, and children will not let down their parents’ good intentions.

I think we should not think about what children can bring to us, or that we will lose ourselves when we have children. Because the moment a child is born, we become mothers, have the experience of nurturing and nurturing life, and have some magical power that makes us extremely strong.

Countless new parents should have experienced how happy you are when your children continue to grow up under your careful care, when your children are healthy and happy, and when your children continue to grow and progress. How gratifying, does it feel like the whole world is beautiful?