Bexte is a polygraph expert. 1966 One day, after work, he stayed in the office for research on a whim. He connected the leaf tip of the plant to a polygraph with a recorder, and then added water to the root of the plant to test its reaction.
The recorder showed no response, and then Bexte picked one of the leaves and put it in hot coffee, but the leaves still didn't respond. So he decided to burn the leaf.
The idea of burning this leaf has just sprouted in my heart, but there has been a sharp change on the recorder-the pen on the recorder extends upward like out of control. Since then, Bexte and others have extended the theoretical research on plant ecology to human feelings and mentality. The results show that the response of plants varies with the attitude of caregivers. If praised and praised, they will appear prosperous, but if isolated and blamed, they will not grow well and appear sick.
If human influence on plants is true, then the influence between people is even greater! Philip Brooke put it this way: "Praising any work' well done' can produce unexpected results." Cicero wrote in his book: "We are all excited about the praise of love."
Praise can inspire others to develop their potential, realize their ideals, build their confidence and make them grow. A psychologist once said, "There is no other way to educate children, just praise them." When they finish eating, praise them; After painting a picture, praise them; When they learn to ride a bike, they are also praised and encouraged.
Some people say that a person lives to avoid punishment or to get a reward. Praise is a reward for others, and praise is an incentive and encouragement for human behavior.
A university once conducted an experiment: all students were divided into three groups. The first group of students are often encouraged and praised, the second group of students let them develop freely, and the third group of students have no other attitude except criticism. As a result, the group that allowed development made the least progress, the group that was criticized made a little progress, but the group that was praised made the most outstanding performance! Tom is an excellent teacher, and he often praises his students. As a result, every student's performance is very satisfactory, and they also know how to praise others.
There is no reason why we should not inject praise and encouragement into our habits. Accustoming yourself to inspiring others will not only make you feel happy in interpersonal relationships, but also show your strong personal characteristics. After a friend praised his smile, a student said excitedly, "I have known that man for fifteen years, and this is the first time he noticed my smile!" "
Why is this happening? Why do ordinary people always hesitate to praise others? Don't you know how to motivate? Don't worry, the following are the specific methods of praise and encouragement:
Use positive and pleasant sentences to describe your feelings.
When someone asks, "How do you feel today?" If you answer "I'm tired", others will feel bad. You should practice this, it is simple, but it is extremely powerful. When someone asks, "How are you?" Or "How do you feel today?" You have to answer, "Great, thank you, and you?" When you say you are happy, you will really feel happy, and it will make you more weighty and win more friends for you.
Describe others with clear, happy and favorable words.
When you talk about a third party with others, you should praise him in constructive language, for example, "He is really a nice person".
Praise others whenever possible.
Everyone is eager to be praised, so say something special to your wife or husband every day. Pay attention to praising the partners you work with. Sincere praise is a tool for success, so use it constantly.
State your plan with positive words to others.
When people hear words like "this is good news" and "we have met an excellent opportunity", their hearts will naturally rise with hope, but when they hear "whether we like it or not, we have to do this job", they will feel bored and bored, and their action response will be affected.