Many people ask me, is it easy for women or men to understand? My answer is: men are easy to understand but difficult to do, and women are difficult to understand and do. What do you mean? A man, you can know what he wants from his words and deeds, gestures, or what his head is thinking from the process and results. 100% can hit.
However, knowing is knowing, but after you know his thoughts, you can't predict or influence his next step. There are too many variables in a man's next step, such as emotional factors, peer factors, environmental factors, family factors, weather factors and even sperm count, which will make him disorderly.
But girls are different. Even if you know a hundred kinds of people and see through a hundred kinds of eyes and body movements, there will always be a jumping needle and a bunch of variants. It is wrong to guess that you fainted. But although they can't guess, it doesn't matter, because their next step is predictable, influential and controllable. Just like catching tropical fish, each tropical fish looks different and thinks differently. You don't know how these tropical fish feel at the moment, but when you pull up the gill net from behind, all tropical fish will panic and run forward, without exception, all of them will enter the front net pocket.
Therefore, it often doesn't matter whether you guess correctly, as long as you can handle it properly and adapt to the time. As long as you learn to pull up the gill net from behind, you can catch tropical fish
There are three topics in a part of a woman's heart. The first part is the monkey's favorite entertainment, guessing, and what a woman is thinking. The second part is how to deal with women's emotions and worldly desires. The third part is mastering and tactics, how to use women's inner characteristics to restrict, change, manufacture and melt, so as to achieve the desired effect.
Mastering a woman's heart will turn this love struggle into a chess game. What moved, what moved, one after another, and finally heard the voice of "General"
Many people's chess skills only stay in the guessing stage, and it is the most meaningless stage, because even if we guess what he will do next, it's our turn to react, and guessing is just a little more time for thinking. Because I always can't guess, I am very confused. I think I am too young to guess, and I need to strengthen my guessing ability. Wrong. You can't always guess. Better than me, even if I know what the other person thinks, I must have a reserved guess: "99% angry." Where, 1%? Nobody knows.
A woman's heart sometimes doesn't even know herself.
For example, what if she suddenly doesn't answer the phone, reply to text messages or meet? Reckless us, I wonder what happened to him? Are you angry? Angry at what? Did we do something wrong? What is wrong? I guess three days and three nights, typing two papers, is also to pawn. The purpose is not to guess. This is the event topic at this time. What should I do if this happens?
Maybe she will feel better after talking to her friend A. Maybe you will feel better after eating a big bucket of ice cream.
So when the incident happens: "I suddenly don't answer the phone, don't reply to the text message, and I can't avoid meeting", you can guess first: angry? Are you depressed? Quarrel with your parents again?
The next reaction was to go to my friend A and calm her down. Or buy her ice.
Then, we should go one step further and use the action of mastering women's psychology to make her change her mood, become grateful, become moved and be glad to have you by my side. This is a perfect event handling.
I will start with the common sense of a woman's heart: how to guess more accurately. Followed by emotional processing. Then there is the use of tactics. The theme of a woman's heart is not to make you good at playing with each other's feelings, but to dance with my happiness, my sadness and my sleeve. Therefore, only you can fill all the notes in this music of love.
Mastering a woman's heart is second.
My readers should remember this passage: "A woman's heart is like a needle in the sea". I really want to laugh whenever the hero in the TV series says this. Is it really that difficult? In other words, I can accept it as "a woman's heart is a needle on the table". Although it is subtle and dangerous, you can still understand it as long as you look at it with your heart. Who can hide in the deep sea? At first, I often need to guess (although it is taboo in our school … but I mostly use analysis, thinking, feeling and smell instead of guessing …), and what girls are thinking is mostly in the middle. Later, I found that a girl is actually very easy to understand. Everything she can "do" will "produce almost the same reaction". That is to say, if you are confused and don't know what she is thinking now, you will have almost the same reaction. And because there are patterns to follow, experience can be accumulated bit by bit.
A woman's heart needs to be seen through and guessed correctly. Life experience is necessary, and it is necessary to ponder over experience repeatedly. When I was fifteen or sixteen, I read a book, Exposing Women's Hearts. A little classmate of Shuai Shuai borrowed it from me. After reading it today, I only remember that when a girl talks to you, if her hands are crossed, it shows that she is very defensive and doesn't trust you. Forget everything else.
Is it useful after reading the book? I don't think the content of the book itself is the point (it is a foreign translation book, and the customs are not very similar), but that book has started my thinking: there are hidden meanings behind actions and language. I spent many years observing my sister, just like at a poker table. Why are you typing this? Because is there anything else? Why this expression, this answer, this behavior, is it because of that?
Writing, language, smiling, trying to find The Secret Behind, I believe that you have started to make progress on a strong road. Just like thinking about the meaning of each card at a poker table, one day you can see through the back of the card.
Guess the inner part of a woman. As I said, the boss hasn't come up with a system to make a complete summary of language, body movements and demeanor. So we can only use examples to say examples later. Let's hear what comes to mind. Because it is not very important to answer eucalyptus, what I want to teach is to make a reasonable judgment on a woman's heart by logical science.
First of all, you don't have to guess everything. If she has zits on her face, you can't even guess whether she didn't go to the party last night. The focus of speculation is, first, the causes of emotions, second, the status quo (our position), and third, ideas and concepts.
When emotions arise, we have to guess why we are angry. Why are you unhappy? Why are you listless? What happened? What's up can get a good event by guessing the reason of emotional reaction, because if you successfully deal with the reason, the other party will feel that you are close to her heart. Fools who can't guess have to ask. What's the matter with you? How are you? Always answered: "Nothing/Nothing/None of your business." Then the heap said to itself, "Another fool.
After coming out of the teaching assistant's office/supervisor's office, he looked like shit and dropped something on the chair. Have you read it? Was it taken away? What's wrong with you in this simple situation? There is no need to ask "What's wrong?" Just say, "It's that xx account again. Do you know how much he went too far last time? ... did he tell you ... by the way, how about we fuck him? /Don't bother, I'll invite you to dinner later ... "Or you may be in a bad mood and get blown up:" Don't mention that name in front of me. " Good, but only people have names ... "
Going to a restaurant for dinner, I suddenly looked around, looked at the ceiling, looked at the back, and felt if it was at the air conditioning outlet. Please move/ask the waiter to change the table/put the coat on the shoulder behind her and go to the toilet at once. Similarly, when eating, suddenly cover your nose to see if anyone smokes, get up and ask the other person to smoke outdoors (whisper that I'm sorry my wife is pregnant ...), if not, go and find out if there are napkins on the table, if not, go and get them for her. During the meal, I suddenly frowned and felt uncomfortable. Some people speculate that my period is coming. Did you eat your stomach? Do you still have a cold? Food tastes bad? At this time, add some hot soup and bet your life: "It is more comfortable to drink some hot water at this time. At dinner, suddenly someone moved impatiently or yawned directly. Did someone say it for nothing? Did the people around her make her angry? Want to go home? Get up and test: "Excuse me, who will be sent back later?" "Xx, do you want a ride? Is it too early to leave? 」
The first stage is guessing, observing words and feelings. Many people say, "This seems to need to be considered ..." Yes, go and ask if it is ok. However, it is not considerate, not careful, but serious. That is, you cherish each other as treasures, and put all your attention on it instead of staring blankly. If you take care of her like a baby, and the baby can't talk, how do you know if the baby is hungry or wants to drink milk? So observe your words and deeds, and then deal with them. And the behavior after observing words and feelings is the performance of consideration.
The second stage is guessing and forecasting. What will her mood be like when she meets A? What happens if she has a B question? How is she now after doing thing C? Forecast. The purpose of prediction is not to be accurate, but to be prepared. Prepare in advance how to solve various situations, prepare props and lines, and prepare your own mood, so as not to lose your pace on the spot.
For example, how will she react when she suddenly hears that her homework/exam is due today? How shocked will she be when her computer/bag/mobile phone breaks down? The meal was delivered by mistake by the waiter (it was obvious that oyster omelet didn't need eggs, so it was delivered with fried eggs). How will she face it? Last night, the client went home at night. What will you look like when you come here today? If she explains her work too much, how will the supervisor protest? How embarrassing would it be to be scolded in front of everyone?
Or, will you be happy to receive flowers? If you receive a gift, will you return it? Surprise party, will it be annoying? Ten-meter poster, 50-person rescue team cheering for her, will you be happy?
Again, the purpose of prediction is not to win. It is preparation in advance, not analysis in advance. If angry, how to make her laugh, how to smooth, if sad, how to comfort and how to motivate (the next chapter on emotional handling). The previous analysis was to list all the emotional reactions and wait to deal with them one by one.
The third stage is guessing and synchronizing. What do you mean? You have to observe words and feelings, from prediction to having the same feelings, actions and reactions as her, adjust the frequency to be the same as her, and then synchronize the events. For example, friend A said that he was going to play the shooting machine, and both of them said at the same time, "How old are you?" . A friend said that he would have a party, and both of them yawned at the same time and said, "Next time." Then look at each other: "Why did you say the same thing to me? I said it first/I said it first. 」
Maybe once or twice is not good. Too many times will have an effect. Friends will say, "What the hell are you two doing? /Say, are you two having an affair? She would think, "We still have a tacit understanding. "What is a combination? It is the performance of the same frequency. After several shocks, the same frequency will always be together.
Although this paragraph was written at the back, it was actually written first. I am a talkative person, and I am not happy if I don't watch it. The boss is a freak. Many people talk a lot. If I let you make trouble, it will make me taller. Moreover, you won't feel proud if you don't play with any privileges. But the most important thing is that when I see something that I want to scold but I'm too lazy to scold, it will lead me in the wrong direction, and I'm scared all over.
My lovely junior called me, and Nai said that my senior helped me with my homework. My standard answer was eucalyptus, and I would laugh: "You just know I can't refuse you, right?" Then I will tell her that I have a meeting with my teacher today, and I have to write a 20,000-word manuscript, and I have to go somewhere to do business, so I need my senior to help you write it. Be patient. She will probably answer that the senior is so busy. I will laugh: "fool, if you can find someone else to write, you don't have to call me." Darling, I'll bring it to you tomorrow. " . Senior probably doesn't have to sleep today. How do you compensate me? I think you can sleep with me … and then you can eat all the time. Eventually she will get her homework. I went to find my date. One of the boss's 36 plans is to fish in troubled waters, and it is at this time that the date is concave.
What I want to say is that the person she will meet tomorrow really has nothing to do with helping her with her homework. However, the person who will be invited by her without helping her with her homework is simply one meter away from the finish line. What should they learn? Come and take your hand and leave. Why create danger with a cheap mouth? What does it feel like to talk back when you are a little far from the finish line and let yourself fall into the crisis of accidentally touching the thunder? Win money. Win? I don't know myself. I just won by attributes. I really thought it was with one mouth.
Why is there no candy after you finish your homework carefully? Because you don't want it, you should learn how to get your reward, not how to be stupid and ugly. So many girls jump out and scold, and they are crazy. It is really ...
The boss who walks the rivers and lakes relies on one mouth. He also wants to write about how to be new and how to be cheap. A trivial pastime will one day be written when there is nothing to write. However, rascals and cheap mouths should always be used where they should be used. At the right time, if you think it's going to be flippant and cheap, you don't have to deal with the incident? No interaction? After a day's sleep at home, you get an invitation by phone?
To tell the truth, I didn't read all of them carefully, just picked a few sentences to read. Everyone wants to scold, but they are too lazy to scold. It's never wrong to be flexible, but don't get in the wrong direction.
Sunflower said well, be a good boy, come on, I deliberately didn't answer your letter, waiting for you to come to me, didn't you know? Many girls' chasing men always write …
Grasp a woman's heart
-Six laws of battlefield and three laws of loving land.
It's strange that I didn't mark the article before … it's really huge, and it's about100000 words after I finish writing it.
The first part of the thread, the second part of the guess, guesses the location. First of all, draw a generalization diagram: AUO, AUO above, ambiguous, so we should distinguish these three stages. Because these three positions have different strategies, weapons that can be used and things that can be done, it is necessary to know the positions clearly. If you don't know the terrain in a war, so does how to make tactical strategies.
Strictly speaking, AUO is not a location, but a starting point. Anyone who has played the promotion plan knows that "back to the starting point" will be painted at three or five o'clock. If he doesn't chase well and is hit by the sea, he will bounce back to the position of AUO.
What about AUO or above? Probably the degree of good friends and intimate friends (I am not satisfied with getting a good friend card, but I can't get a fake good friend card: I don't want to talk about my self-esteem, just give me a reason to refuse). No matter how many times you hit the wall, you won't bounce back to the starting point, you will only freeze, that is, you will be above AUO.
Ambiguity is simple. To outdo each other, the dialogue is ambiguous and sweet, the physical contact is ok, the assault will not go backwards, and there is still one meter from the finish line.
What are the strategic differences between these positions? AUO strives for AUO, AUO strives for ambiguity, and AUO strives for lovers. Of course, AUO can also work directly for ambiguity and even rush to the finish line. The general strategy refers to the step-by-step insurance (Zhuge Liang's turtle hair tactics: be cautious when you are clear, and don't make risks). Those who like big waves and bounce back to the starting point don't have to consider the location, as long as they can continue to play.
If you know the position without guessing, of course, you must follow the tactics. Don't know the location? You need to guess, and the way to guess is not to imagine it out of thin air or go to the temple to ask for a visa. You should use observation and verification to find key information, perhaps a sentence, a small gesture, a look, an unusual performance, and use this information to measure your position. When you observe, but the information is lacking, or the authority is confused and lost, you need to go further and verify your position by testing.
AUO, starting point, observe what? It should be said that after observing some information, you will suddenly realize: Oh, I am still at the starting point. This is a basin of cold water. Only by thoroughly recognizing yesterday's mistakes can we create important information for tomorrow. What information do you want to observe in this position? What method is used to verify?
First, privilege or not. Are you treated like other friends? If you can't observe it, try to make some unreasonable demands and see if you will get privileges.
Second, the frequency of rejection. Do you invite success occasionally or fail occasionally? Does everyone succeed occasionally, or is it just us who succeed occasionally? When you are confused, please use double verification. Check the results with the safest invitation (the most easily promised time, place and occasion), and then check the results with the most dangerous invitation (special day and special place).
Third, the degree of fame. Among her friends, your name is not loud. The real starting point is zero popularity. Rebound to the starting point, popularity depends on performance, and a vigorous fall will get special care: Oh, you are him. Or a simple idiot: Ha, so you are. Or simply banned, the name does not need attention. Asking is a dangerous but necessary action, so try to use safer language: hasn't she told you about me? Because I can repair computers/department stores have discounts/I can get scalper tickets, I thought she would tell you and let me know if necessary.
Fourth, what was returned. Gifts, letters and even attempts to show concern were rejected. Msn hasn't been online for a long time (deleted? Blockade? ), phone calls and text messages are almost never returned. Sometimes it's worse than starting from the beginning, because the game is about to stop playing.
Over AUO, enter a favorable position where you can attack and retreat. But don't think that this position will not return to the starting point, and it will be over if you accidentally hit a mine. What kind of information can be regarded as AUO or above?
First, you can't refuse an emergency. Whether you can't refuse or not is proof that you have a strong card. If you are not sure whether you have made progress, try playing this card.
Second, intentional disappearance will be found. What is intentional disappearance? The occasion that appeared did not appear, the place that appeared did not appear, and suddenly disappeared after working hard for a while, and there was no news at regular intervals. If the other party comes to look for it (not casually asking: where did he go? But really find), can be regarded as the above characteristics of AUO.
Third, assault can survive. Using this test is called gambling. Since it is gambling, even if you are reluctant, you should leave yourself a little way out (that is, be less aggressive and less stubborn in the assault ...). For example, pretend to be drunk and hold each other's hand and say, you know? I like you for a long time. Or pretend to be tearful, haggard and tired and say, can I rely on you for ten seconds? Or maybe seriously say: I like you so much, why don't I just chase you? /Did I tell you that I like you very much? /Actually, I fell in love with you the first time I saw you.
What is survival after the assault? You can still maintain the previous interaction, you can get through playing dumb afterwards, or you can live by playing dead instead of chasing Meng. Those who live a little worse, such as pretending to be poor, shifting their focus, and trading time for memories to disappear, are still alive.
Fourth, you can make fixed appointments: find a reasonable excuse, reasonable entertainment, reasonable place and time content, and meet face-to-face appointments every week or even every day (such as teaching, sports, classes, etc.). It doesn't matter if the invitation is unsuccessful. As long as we can talk like this, we won't feel strange, just friendship.
Ambiguous, one meter from the finish line. Although the location is good, but time is limited, mines are often buried. When a careless person is still addicted to happiness, the ambiguous period has passed, and he has become an immobile friend who is too familiar, or exploded and turned into an impossible door-to-door refusal. The test of the ambiguous period is
First, you won't get shot in physical contact. Being shot is an embarrassing definition, probably not being rejected by words, not being stared at, not being forcibly pushed away, or shouting and swearing. Physical contact is also a dangerous test. It's better to give a reason and lay down a foreshadowing, for example, first put forward "your wrist is so thin/your skeleton is so big", then reach out and "lend my hand to measure it", or tease the atmosphere and warn "tickle you/bite you".
Second, the frequency of words, gifts and contacts goes beyond the boundaries of friends. For example, the boundary between words is often called "I miss you, call baby, beauty", or a phone call lasts forever, and the gift is too expensive and meaningful (necklace ring, etc.). ), dangerous times (Valentine's Day, Memorial Day, etc. ), and the contact frequency is too high and excessive.
Third, the important ambiguous information Two people were shopping alone and were asked by anyone (shopkeeper, acquaintance), "Are you boyfriend and girlfriend?" "She is your girlfriend, isn't she? /Don't you introduce such a beautiful girlfriend? " The other party's attitude is noncommittal/waiting for your response/not eager to refute/light-handed (he thinks that it is beautiful, he? No).
Fourth, the frequency of being actively contacted. From the first day of communication (or the first day of pursuit), if you can't even count the number of people you have communicated with, it is really weak. Since we know the frequency of interaction, we can feel how the active and passive frequencies change. The increase of passive frequency will probably reach the point of one to one, which may be a sign of entering an ambiguous period.
Fourth place in controlling a woman's heart
Guess the mood, guess the position, you have to guess the ideas and concepts.
The purpose of guessing ideas and concepts is to work hard for endless coincidences in the future. Being right is an opportunity to create coincidence, and being right is the creation of spiritual harmony.
I remember many years ago, a senior student in a department was responsible for taking care of us freshmen. After saying a few words, the senior students stood by with a smile. At dinner, I asked: Did my seniors go to school as girls in the north before? She smiled and said, how do you know? I nodded: Aquarius? Her eyes lit up: Yes! I'm a little puzzled: the boss at home? She was all excited: I am! Then it was a little difficult. I chose to gamble: so I have a sister?
She has been asking me why all afternoon. I am not a psychic. I didn't do a wealth survey first. I didn't ask. I'm just guessing. Smarter people should know that you can also perform the play by investigating first and then asking questions.
The concept includes living habits, hobbies, interests and so on. , including a wide range. It can be said that any small idea, as long as it is fixed and normal, is the object of our speculation, such as hating mechanical sounds and liking snacks and chewing gum.
In addition to observation and inquiry, these ideas also have room for speculation. If you miss these guesses, you can use them, such as "You must love glutinous rice products?" ""You can tell by your figure that you can dance well. " "I know from your voice that I stay in bed every day. It is of little use to guess these details, but a coincidence will be of great use one day.
How to use speculation to create coincidence?
Class/work at nine o'clock, living in Shilin, often late/leave early, no transportation, take the bus? Take the mrt? When do you take the bus? Shilin station? Tan Jian station? Spend a few days and think a little, and you can create a "morning, do you also take this bus?" "A coincidence.
I love coffee and always have Starbucks/85 C in my hand. Where are the shops nearby? Where is the shop near her home? You can create a picture of "So you bought coffee here, too".
Coincidence is not just a chance encounter. Buying the same product can make it: I doubt that you also have xx mobile phone ornaments/you also use xx products, * * * have the same goal, such as large-scale activities or parties, do you want to queue up? Want to come along? Do you want to go backstage? Want xx's autograph?
The speculation of thoughts is mainly the judgment of values. The guess here can be said to be a reference. Once the values are different, once you answer a wrong question, there may be no chance to retake the exam. For example, the architect chasing my wife's house, his view of money is debt consumption, and my wife doesn't like this idea very much, so she keeps him out of the wall in her heart.
Generally speaking, the concept of money is that all money is given to the wife, active investment, conservative investment, fixed savings and so on. There are silly, brain-dead answers, such as the moonlight is almost gone, the debt is almost gone, and they are all forgiven …
Family values are generally filial piety, interaction, non-interference and independence. Many people hate living with their in-laws and being widowed, so don't think that extreme filial piety is easy to answer.
Children's view, how many children to have, whether to have children, education model. Sometimes it is the judgment of whether a man is a big man (to carry on the family line, to prefer sons to daughters, to take care of the family after giving birth to a girl, and so on). ), and sometimes it is a test of responsibility. Please answer the exam without prizes sincerely.
Is it important to make friends, friends and important lovers? It's important to go out to play. Being alone is important? What kind of friends are they? How many bosom friends are there? What is the concept of borrowing? How about friend interaction?
Outlook on life, optimism and enterprising, ambitious, traveling around the world, content with ordinary, simple and happy, where is the ideal, how is life, will also be factors to consider common growth.
Futurism, what about now, what about the plan. Every time I think of the line in Yamato's "The Gold Miner": I haven't seen you for five years. Create a look, many monkeys like to see the future before they want to be together.