"Parents should be responsible and obedient." There is also a sentence above, that is, "Parents should teach and listen." Two sentences should be understood together: when parents teach us how to be a man and how to live, we should listen respectfully; When criticizing and educating us, don't slack off and resist at all.
According to modern people's point of view, the teaching in Disciples Rules is not recognized very much, and it is considered that although it is a book for educating children, its content has the disadvantage of killing children's talent and imagination. In fact, the evaluation of Disciples Rules cannot be generalized. It is necessary to analyze the specific situation and see under what circumstances "parents should be responsible and obedient".
We use the story of Saint Amethyst "Yasheng Mengzi" to understand this sentence.
Mencius was a naughty Xiong Haizi when he was a child. He likes to play games with some children around him and imitate others' behavior, but he refuses to study hard. On one occasion, Mencius' mother advised him to study hard, but Mencius disagreed with his mother's teaching. Therefore, Mencius' mother cut the cloth she was knitting with scissors and warned Mencius that learning is like weaving. How can you weave good cloth if you are half-hearted? Learning should be accumulated continuously, and every little makes a mickle. Mencius was ashamed and listened to his mother's teachings, and gradually became a very problematic person.
During the period of Three Emperors and Five Emperors, Shun's father was immoral and insatiable, and he often blamed Shun, who always resigned himself to fate. On one occasion, his father hit him with a small stick, but Shun refused to move. On another occasion, Shun's father hit Shun with a big stick, and Shun escaped. It can be seen that "parents have the responsibility and must obey" should be divided into specific situations.
Parents should treat their children equally and cannot force them to blindly follow their own will. Even if the child has it, he should convince others by reasoning, instead of forcing the child to listen to his own words; If what parents say violates moral ethics, children can question it instead of blindly following it. Otherwise, the children taught by "parents should obey" can only be from Nuo Nuo.