My daughter will call her mother at eight months, and learn to walk at one year and three months. My nephew can walk for nine months and call his mother at one year and two months. Grandma said so. Girls talk early and boys walk early. Children who talk and walk early are smarter. At first, I felt the same way. Later, as the children grew up, they did not show the characteristics of being particularly clever than other children, and then they suddenly realized.

Are children who talk and walk so early really smarter?

I asked a friend of a pediatrician, and she said this: There is no scientific basis to say that children talk early and walk smarter. Children's growth and development have certain rules, and there is no necessary connection between walking and talking. .

Expert survey results show that

Some experts have done relevant investigations and found that children who walk early have no obvious advantages in IQ, body balance and hand-eye coordination. Among them, children who walk early have no obvious advantage in balance. On the contrary, children who climb much have a better sense of balance than those who walk early.

Let the baby climb more when he can climb, which can exercise his hand and foot coordination ability. In addition, these movements, such as the baby crawling to get enough things, climbing up and down, holding things and so on, need to be balanced.

During the baby's exercise again and again, his body will remember how not to fall and how to walk safely to the place he wants to go. These are the experiences that the baby has accumulated in the exploration again and again.

In fact, many parents think that the ground is cold and dirty, and they don't let their babies crawl around for fear of bumping into or stuffing them into their mouths. Then when the baby is about the same age, they will hold the baby's armpit or exercise walking with a walker. This is very harmful.

Harm of frequent use of walker.

(Long-term use of the walker will affect the development of the baby's hip bones, and the walker is in potential danger of overturning. It is not recommended to exercise walking. And parents should not force their children to stand up too early. This process needs to be gradual, so that the baby can climb, then he stands up slowly with something, then he walks with something, and then he lets go. If you use the walker directly from the beginning, it may be counterproductive.

In fact, in the process of baby learning to walk, it is most important to let the body's conditioned reflex learn and remember this process (such as balance, cooperation ability of hands, feet, eyes and brain, etc.). ).

As for how smart the baby is, in fact, every child is a genius.

I have seen a magical psychological experiment before: an experiment by Rosenthal, an American social psychologist: He went to a school and told the principal and teachers that there was a test to find out who was the most talented student, and then let the students take the test. After the test, select a few students and tell the headmaster and teacher that these children are geniuses. He asked the teacher to keep a secret so as not to affect the correctness of the experiment.

Eight months later, Rosenthal and his assistant went back to school again and retested all the students who had taken the test. It turns out that the gifted students who were selected before have made great progress in all subjects. Become more cheerful, confident, more eager for knowledge, more willing to deal with people, and greatly improve IQ, which has been improving in long-term research.

Finally, Rosenthal told the principal and teachers that the talented students who came to choose for the first time were actually randomly selected, not the exam results! The child will have such a change, not because he is different, but because the principal and teacher feel that they are geniuses, treat them differently, and inadvertently put this? You are a genius. You're smart? Concepts and cognition are passed on to students. A child will become what he believes. What kind of faith will bring about what kind of changes.

So does this mean that if parents and teachers tell their children what you want, they will do it?

Actually, it's not like this. When we say what you want, we are actually saying: you are not like this now, and this is not good. You should correct it. When we want our child to become better, we will find him? Failure? A place of education.

If we believe that he is a good boy, we will find that he has done well and praise him. Different attitudes will make children have different perceptions of themselves, and children's different positioning of themselves will lead to different places. In fact, this kind of psychological suggestion also applies to adults, whose potential is unlimited, but adults have formed a fixed thinking and fixed evaluation of themselves, which is difficult to change.

Therefore, as parents, we certainly hope and very much hope that our baby will be smart. Then the best way is to trust him, encourage him, and let the baby believe that he is a smart baby! Then when the baby has self-confidence, all aspects will become smarter.

I am a stay-at-home mother with a second child. I share my knowledge about maternity and parenting through questions and answers, and I also hope to know more about parenting. Your casual praise is the driving force of my writing. Welcome to madness, thank you for coming to see me!