Parents love and happiness, children learn by ear, he knows what a happy love marriage is like, and in the future he will go to look for the right good love, but also know how to manage a good marriage.
Young writer Li Jing, her family of origin is happy and warm, her parents have been married for more than thirty years, no red face, no separation for a day. Because her mother's name has a "plum" word, her father has been studying plum blossoms for thirty years, planting plum blossoms in his yard, and the daily objects in the house are all plum blossom patterns.
Li Jing said that his father looked at the plum, look at his mother. The tenderness in his eyes is to be trapped in the sweetest life. Father is the chef at home, mother loves fish, father's specialty is braised whole fish. Li Jing has always believed that there is a beautiful love in this world, because, since childhood, her parents let her see the model of a truly beautiful love. Li Jing said that if there is a model of love, it must be the way her parents love each other.
Today, Li Jing also has her own love marriage, she and Mr. Yan Ling since they are together, and never separated for a day. Her Mr. extremely spoil her love her, has always been, never let her worry about housework, most of the trivial daily life at home is her Mr. to do. Mr. will cut the fruit every time served to her to eat, every time to cut very meticulous, arranged in order, just like the restaurant fruit platter.
Yan Ling is a globetrotter who spent eight years traveling alone through a hundred countries on all seven continents of the world, backpacking 20,000 steps a day on foot. Every time he traveled to a brand new place, he would do the "zigzag" action, take a special trapeze commemorative photo. But because of this long years of walking and no warm-up exercises of the word horse, leading to the right leg meniscus tear, need to do surgery.
In the post-surgery days of recuperation, Li Jing took care of Mr.'s living and drinking, and took care of all the housework. Mr. does not think that these are women should do, for the labor of Li Jing pay, Mr. will always kiss her tenderly and sweetly to say thank you Anna.
When Yan Ling fell asleep with pain after surgery, Li Jing would tenderly kiss Mr. forehead. This is the way her mother loved her every time she was sick and before she went to bed. Now she loves her significant other the way her mother loves her, and that's a legacy of love.
Love between parents gives children a positive and wonderful influence, giving them the ability to love people and the ability to find true love. It only took Li Jing five minutes to determine that Yan Ling was the soul mate she had been waiting for and was willing to join hands with him for the rest of her life.
On the contrary, if the parents have cold feelings or even quarrels and domestic violence, then it is very difficult for the children to be able to find happy love in the future, because they have not seen the daily life of the happy marriage love looks like, and they do not know how to love people.
The parents' relationship is cold and often quarrelsome. Since she was a child, Mae Mae heard her mom say the most words, "How did I marry someone like your father? What a blind eye." She heard her mom say that during her menstrual period, when she wanted to drink a mouthful of water, her dad didn't even offer it to her. During the month, in the middle of winter, she went to the pond by herself to wash her diapers. Dad was either indifferent to mom and didn't speak, or he was hurtful when he spoke.
Between her parents, Mae can't see what good love looks like. There is only never-ending indifference and quarrels between them. Once Mae asked her mom, since she was so unhappy with her dad, why didn't she separate? Mom's answer was that it was all because of Mae Mae.
The first time I saw the movie, I was in the middle of it, and I was in the middle of it, and I was in the middle of it, and I was in the middle of it, and I was in the middle of it, and I was in the middle of it. Then, they were introduced to each other, and they got married not long after they got along. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots. Rose also became cold and determined, no half care for her husband. In addition to being the father and mother of the child, the two have no other feelings to speak of. But they still will live together, also because of the child.
"For the sake of the children" is the reason why many marriages choose to continue. However, this kind of marriage will kill the children's future happiness. If you let your child see a loveless marriage all day long, it will be hard for him to find true love in the future, because he won't know what a loving marriage looks like.
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu's marital love has always been the envy of the world. They have been hand in hand for more than sixty years, from their student days to the end of their lives. Qian Zhongshu said: I never thought of getting married before I met her; I married her for decades and never regretted marrying her, nor did I ever think of marrying another woman. Yang Jiang was of the same mind.
Qian Zhongshu was still writing to Yang Jiang in his seventies to express his love. Their love never faded one day, and with time, it became more and more intense. Like old wine, the longer the time, the more flavorful.
After reading Yang Jiang's "Will Drink Tea", I realized that Yang Jiang's parents' feelings are also very deep. In the book, there are two descriptions of her parents' feelings:
My parents seem to be old friends, and our children have not heard them quarrel once since they were small. Old-fashioned couples do not quarrel often, but the woman will have grievances stifled in the heart, the couple's **** the same language is not much. My parents, on the other hand, have nothing to say to each other.
My father was in the wilderness, crying, and in the coffin, on the tiles, on the bricks, on the trees around, on the bricks and stones in the ground - wherever you can write your name. This is even if the sky soldiers left a line of contact in the fire, lest left behind the mother can not find back.
From this, it can be seen that Yang Jiang's parents had deep feelings and loved each other y. Therefore, Yang Jiang naturally has the ability to find love, but also knows how to manage a good marriage, her marriage and her parents' marriage, as well, has not been worn out by the trivialities of life, but the more long-lasting and fragrant.
Children are a mirror of their parents, and what parents are like is what children are like. The parents' attitude towards love and marriage determines how happy the children will be in their future love and marriage.
I always advise my unmarried friends and relatives to wait for their soul mates. Don't believe in those "life, married to who are the same", "two people together will certainly have a long and painful period of integration" ridiculous speech, those are used to coax and paralyze people. Marrying different people is really different. There is no painful bonding when it comes to a truly suitable soul mate.
For the sake of your own happiness, and for the happiness of your future children, please be careful to choose the right half of the unmarried people, married people treat their own marriage.