I used to think that the world of adults was difficult, and I mistakenly regarded every little setback as the peak of "insurmountable life". Only after crossing the past can I find that life is more difficult to come.

When I was young, my breakdown was always too easy and too "melodramatic". I didn't realize that the real test of life had just begun until I became a baby mom ... How many people were hurt by the weeping mothers at family gatherings?

At the beginning of the new year in p>218, Huang Lili (a pseudonym)' s parents discussed that they would get together in Harbin to * * * talk about their family. Rent a "party house" online, discuss the details of room allocation, grab tickets, pack your luggage, and everything is going on in an orderly way. This is a big family gathering, and it is very rare for three generations of grandma's family to get together. For Huang Lili, this is the first time that she has been a stay-at-home mother for three years, and it is hard to hide her excitement.

Since she was pregnant, Huang Lili has never been home. After breathing the first breath of cool air in her hometown, she feels comfortable physically and mentally. But the next three days * * * together time, but let lily huang collapse crying. It turns out that the three-year-old daughter usually gets along with her mother, rarely comes into contact with outsiders, and her personality is more introverted. This time, the living environment has changed greatly, and she has to face many people she has never met and keep remembering her address, which makes her daughter very uncomfortable.

My daughter can't eat and sleep well here, and she will cry for a little thing, which makes Huang Lili very anxious. Despite many measures, my daughter's mood still shows no signs of improvement, and she only wants to stay in her room and play. On the last day, everyone called Huang Lili to take her daughter out for dinner, which was a farewell, but her daughter still collapsed and cried. Grandma said, "You are really disappointing", which made Huang Lili feel ashamed, and finally she cried with her daughter.

Emotion has been on the verge of collapse, with accusations, doubts and contempt. It seems that all children's problems need to be answered by Bao Ma overnight, and even a small matter will become a straw to overwhelm Bao Ma. Parenting experience is flying all over the sky, and it is really too difficult to ask parents to satisfy their children's sensitive hearts and take care of their baby's feelings as much as possible, and at the same time accuse their children of being "afraid of life, worthless, and not teaching their baby well" in a strange environment.

Bao Ma's self-sacrifice is undoubtedly great, but falling into negative emotions is against the original intention of taking care of the baby. You need to know a sunny and healthy baby mother to raise a cheerful and optimistic baby. If you don't want to be an emotional slave, you must rely on Bao Ma to make psychological adjustment and get out of the haze as soon as possible.

In desperation, the elderly father shouldered the burden of "taking care of the baby"

Pingping (pseudonym) has four sister flowers at home, and she is the youngest. After giving birth to the baby last summer, she has been taking care of the baby at home by herself. My husband is on a business trip for a long time, and my in-laws are gone. The only thing I can rely on is my family, but my grandmother is taking care of my third child.

Last November, all the other sisters were basking in delicious food in the family group. Pingping threw in a photo of a dish made of paste, and the group was suddenly silent. When a person takes care of a child, the busyness and inconvenience in life can be tolerated. The key is that she is particularly lonely and helpless. Pingping said that she often looks at the child and feels scared. She thinks that when the child grows up, she will get old or even die, and she has symptoms of postpartum depression.

One night, trouble sleeping, Pingping, tried to dial the phone number of the child's grandfather. On the phone, she asked her father to help take care of the child, even if it was just to talk with her. After receiving the phone call, my father came without saying anything. Father can't cook, but he can look after the children briefly. He is not familiar with the surrounding environment, but he is already trying to buy food. Grandpa, who cares little about his four daughters, is responsible for everything about his granddaughter. He often acts as a commander and lets Pingping do this and that.

in just one month, my father will go home for the autumn harvest. Pingping hugged his father and expressed his gratitude, while his father blushed and rubbed his hands, saying that he had done nothing.

In fact, the emotional changes of Bao Ma are also staged. At one time, they will be trapped in self-doubt. What Bao Ma really needs is not an all-round expert with a baby. Sometimes it is so little that someone can talk and witness the growth of the child together, which is enough.

Today, Pingping is confident and generous, and is actively preparing for a second child. Although she is still raising the baby alone, she says she can handle it completely. Today, she is very grateful for the phone call that she hesitated to make. Only those who help themselves can help, and actively seek external help at the time of collapse, making the impossible possible. She is very grateful. Bao Ma are not superhuman, so you can try to relieve your "collapse"

and let yourself indulge in the landscape once, which has a wonderful effect

Bao Ma, who has been taking care of her baby all the year round, is most worried about "what will happen to her children if she is not around". Based on this idea, Bao Ma is often tied up with her baby, thus losing the time to find herself and giving all her energy to her children.

Bing Bing (a pseudonym) is also such a treasure mother who advocates self-sacrifice. Not only does she do this, but she also persuades her friends to take care of her baby as wholeheartedly as she does, because "no one else is at ease". When she saw that the child had established a close mother-child relationship with herself, Bing Bing felt very valuable.

However, Bing Bing, who has lost her life circle, often falls into troubles. Bao Dad said that what she often said recently was "It's all because of you that I ...", and all the responsibilities were put on the children. Bao Ma's mood was very unstable, and she seemed to vent all her pent-up frustrations in recent years.

After noticing this change, Bingbing had a whim one day and wanted to travel with her husband. Unexpectedly, her husband was very much in favor of her decision. Bingbing gave the child to the old man, and her husband took an emergency annual leave, so they came to a romantic world for themselves. When I was at the seaside, all the bad feelings of Bingbing were thrown into the sea, and I suddenly felt open-minded.

Although the child was in tears when we parted, after the reunion, Bingbing found that the child had grown up overnight and her own heart knot had been opened. Bing Bing said, if the current environment makes you depressed, you might as well indulge once in a while, indulge in the mountains and rivers, or shake the wheat and dance. There is a vast world outside the baby, and we need to "see the world."

Don't give up self-improvement, advance can attack and retreat can defend

Many people give up self-growth and emphasize self-sacrifice as an excuse. They think that the current situation is difficult to learn and make progress, and it is only right to be fully tied to Eva.

There is no denying that this is a very "serious" practice in the baby's infancy. However, as the child grows up, Bao Ma can't always hold back. You should know that if you sail against the current, you will retreat if you don't advance. Although Bao Ma will be very upset and depressed, there is no solution, or she feels that the goal is out of reach and refuses to put it into action.

Babysitting can't be an obstacle to Bao Ma's progress. If you feel emotional breakdown, try to research, learn to cook, and learn more parenting experience. Only a treasure mother who grows up with her children can have the opportunity and insight to eliminate her troubles, and the role of a learning mother as an example is endless. Never give up self-improvement at any time, and Bao Ma is no exception. Try to do it and gain a lot.