#EmotionalComments# What are the reasons why men break up?

How can a man break up with a woman?

When MoMo left you, he made you cry, break your heart, and try every means to save him, but he turned a blind eye, or even turned a blind eye to you, and you even doubted whether this relationship was worth saving.

Does he still love me?

Why is he so heartless?

You are caught in the whirlpool of emotions and in a dilemma. You want to give up but are unwilling to lose, and you want to save but can't find the direction. My dear, behind all MoMo's insensitivity, there was once a deep love. He did not seize the opportunity and psychologically let go.

The other party is getting further and further away.

My name is Zhang Xiaoyu.

I work as a manager in a promotional company.

My boyfriend Xiaodi and I have been together for three years.

He is passionate, brave, motivated and loves me very much.

Our relationship is very good. But half a year ago, I felt that he didn't love me and sometimes he often ignored me.

Whether I invite him to dinner or sit together and chat, he is always indifferent to me.

(In addition to getting along with each other, it relies more on comfort. Comfortable feelings will naturally heat up. Uncomfortable feelings will bring about a gap between two people and create a negative psychology. Good comfort comes from communication, getting along and attitude.) Later he

Find various reasons to avoid me.

I have his QQ account password.

Sometimes late at night, I can log on to my computer and see him texting people back.

He only read my message and didn’t reply.

Then, one time my friend told me that he was singing in KTV, but he told me that he was working overtime in the company, because during that time I often quarreled with him and wanted to figure it out!

(80% of men have an evasive attitude when facing emotional problems, and they are more averse to in-depth communication. If you find that your questions will only be avoided, you'd better think and wait.) He and he half a month ago

I broke up and said I didn't know him, I was strong and always nagging.

I just cried.

I apologized to him and promised never to go again.

I begged him not to go, but he didn't believe me and said he was tired.

I also deleted all photos and group photos, planning to break up completely and forget about me.

(Disappointment again and again led to the final breakup and distrust of you. What you did was a lie in his eyes) First, what is the reason why men break up heartlessly?

If two people want to maintain a long-term relationship, they must rely on freshness in the first half of the year and comfort in the second half of the year.

Their comfort is mainly reflected in: communication and chatting, understanding and tolerance, mutual trust, affection, emotional management, etc.

Only by identifying problems from a man's heart, learning to think from his perspective, and healing men in a way that men accept, can we prescribe the right medicine and get twice the result with half the effort.

In Zhang Xiaoyu's relationship, the other party has already revealed that he is ready to give up on the relationship and break up.

If the student is a woman with high emotional intelligence, she will reflect on whether her way of getting along with the other person is wrong, whether the other person has unmet mental or physical needs, whether she has not given the other person enough face on the outside, and whether there is anything hidden in her heart.

It was obvious that Zhang Xiaoyu's emotional intelligence was extremely low. He didn't discover the problem in time until the other party was extremely disappointed and broke up.

I also made an even worse decision: solving it through tracking.

After a breakup, due to the influence of emotions, if you blindly pester and ask for forgiveness, not only will you not be forgiven, but it will make the other party have a firmer belief when breaking up, lower your own frame, and always be in a passive position in the relationship.

Poor emotional management ability in relationships. Throughout the relationship, Zhang Xiaoyu has poor emotional control ability and is prone to being overly emotional, exerting emotional pressure on the other person's life and work, and disrupting the other person's independent space and time.

Sensible women are often more attractive.

Although men will invest their emotions for a woman's happiness, over time, they will only make the other party resentful.

Zhang Xiaoyu's value in the relationship is low. The other party's endless tolerance and flattery in the early stage is more to win Zhang Xiaoyu's heart and stay together more.

If you want to have a stable and reliable relationship, you must satisfy the other person and establish a sense of comfort.

It is the ability to rely on novelty to stay comfortable in the early stage and stay comfortable in the long term.

(Men can be roughly divided into tolerant and dependent types. Most are dependent on the charm of women, and most are tolerant because men choose to bury themselves in their hearts and avoid taking into account the other person's feelings or results.

Speechless. ).

Second, how do men break up women to stabilize their emotions and eliminate the other party's concerns? The next step is to eliminate the other party's vigilance in order to convey the message of change.

We have made a statistic in many cases: in the four stages after a breakup, in the second and fourth stages, men will care about the dynamics of their ex to varying degrees out of curiosity. At this time, the success rate of recovery is as high as 92%

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If we could guide men with their psychology, we could more easily save each other.

To save a relationship, you need to constantly improve yourself, make up for your mistakes, and complete the attraction without making mistakes, instead of blindly entangled and creating new conflicts.

"Too many mantises" will not only lose their feelings, but also hurt themselves.

At this stage of establishing a safe person and reliving and warming up the relationship, you must first establish a non-conflict relationship with the other party, that is, a friend relationship. This can not only hide the purpose, but also reduce the other party's alertness and make it easier to recover.

Being a close friend is just one step away from becoming a wife and changing the way you relate to each other.

Many women stop at this stage.