Hainan News Network reported on August 6th that Ms. Liu's attitude in getting along with her son and the way of educating her son are very unique. Ms. Liu is engaged in the construction industry, has an industry and a beautiful house in Haikou, and her family conditions are very superior, but what she fears most is that her son will have a sense of superiority because of wealth. Once she finds such a bud, she will immediately take various measures to "kill" her sense of superiority in the "cradle". Her son Susu was sent to Macy's University in New Zealand to study architecture at the age of 18, and has been studying abroad for 4 years. Ms. Liu only promised to support her son's tuition, and his living expenses abroad depend on his own hands.
The reporter wrote some of Ms. Liu's educational experiences, which I believe will enlighten many parents.
As long as your son likes it, you must fight with him.
Susu is the only son of Ms. Liu. In the eyes of many relatives, Ms. Liu is "not like a mother". Once she finds out what kind of food her son likes to eat, she must compete with him to eat, and she will not buy the toys her son wants to buy. Ms. Liu's explanation for her behavior is that this is to prevent children from developing self-centered bad habits. As a result, Susu carries forward the style of "Kong Rong lets pears" when he urinates. When he sees delicious food, he will definitely share it with the whole family. Every time he divides fruit, he gives the elderly the biggest one and eats the smallest one himself.
I will not pick up and drop off my children when I go to primary school
It is common for parents to queue up to pick up their children at the gates of some key schools. Susu's experience is unique. When he was 9 years old, he transferred to a school in Baipoli, Haikou City to attend the fourth grade of primary school. Ms. Liu only sent him once at the beginning of school. Usually, Susu took the fare by car from her home in Haidian Island to the East Lake station, and then walked a long way to school after getting off the bus. On several occasions, kind Susie saw an old beggar on the overpass after school, and donated all her fare to others, so she could only walk a few kilometers home.
Having a sense of superiority, she was sent to study in a different place
Ms. Liu's company is developing smoothly, with everything from houses to cars. When Susie was in the first grade of junior high school, Ms. Liu suddenly found that her son who had followed her life for several years inevitably had a sense of superiority. This teenage child even claimed to be the "boss's son" and instructed employees of her company to do things for her. In order to avoid the spread of this sense of superiority, Ms. Liu was determined to let her son "live independently", so she sent him to a closed private school in Beijing to attend middle school and strictly controlled her pocket money.
Picking up clothes discarded by others
In an environment far from her mother, Susie once again felt that she was a "poor child" and became very frugal. When she graduated from junior high school, Susie returned to her home in Haikou from Beijing, and the gift she brought back was actually seven T-shirts he picked up from school. All these T-shirts were disdained to wear and discarded by her classmates. In order to encourage his spirit of thrift, Ms. Liu called on the whole family to wear the T-shirts he brought back to show their support with practical actions. I didn't expect Susie to pick up three pairs of shoes when she went home on holiday the next year. He also told his mother that these shoes are brand-name shoes, and they are still new. What a pity that other students have thrown them away. He washed these shoes clean and didn't buy new shoes for a year.
There are countless examples of Su Su's frugality. Before going abroad, his mother gave him 4 yuan to buy the cotton-padded jacket that he had already taken a fancy to, but Su Su insisted on waiting for the discount on clothes in the shopping mall, holding on for more than a month, and only when the clothes were 5% off did he happily buy the cotton-padded jacket back. When he was about to go abroad, in order to keep in touch with his family, some relatives and friends lent him an old mobile phone, a Motorola 331, which was very big, heavy and old. Another relative and friend gave him a new Samsung mobile phone with a value of more than 5, yuan, but Su Su resolutely did not bring the new mobile phone. He only took the old mobile phone abroad and said, "What do poor children do with such a valuable mobile phone?" Now that the mobile phone is broken, Susie has been reluctant to buy another one.
In order to save money on haircut after going abroad, Susuto's mother sent a set of haircut tools. When the hair was long, he asked his classmates to help him shave it into a bald gourd ladle, and then shave it when it was long.
working hard to earn living expenses
Susie went to New Zealand to study in October 21. In 22, he first went to a language school there, and in 23, he went to a pre-university in New Zealand. In 24, he was successfully admitted to Macy's University in New Zealand, majoring in architectural design. This school has a history of nearly 1 years. It is a very old school, 1 kilometers away from the capital.
Before going abroad, Susie had made a "three-chapter agreement" with her mother. The tuition fee was supported by her mother and the living expenses were earned by her. In Susu, New Zealand, accommodation costs 1 yuan a week and meals cost 15 yuan a day. In order to earn living expenses, Susie did a lot of hard work. First, he went to a restaurant to help wash dishes. He always stood for five hours in a row, and the detergent almost peeled off, earning 1 New Zealand dollars (local currency) an hour. Later, I went to the construction site to find a job, help people dig the earth, help people look at the site, and earn 15 yuan every hour. In the last year, he found that it is more profitable to help people paint. On Saturday and Sunday, he works at least 8 hours a day, earning 15 New Zealand dollars per hour, and earning enough living expenses for one week in two days.
A mother's good intentions
Ms. Liu said that her determination to send her son to study abroad stems from his words. When Susie was in high school, she actually said, "There is nothing my mother can't handle." Ms. Liu is worried about her son's thought. Her principle is that a person will never suffer when he grows up, and it is impossible for him to live in a happy life forever. She has always insisted on cultivating her son's hard-working spirit. One year, she sent her son to the airport. The son who went to middle school was not tall, carrying a big travel bag, dragging a box in his left hand and a bag in his right hand in advance. And she walked beside her son with a small handbag on her back, thinking that the child was really small, and she felt sorry for him. On second thought, you can help him, but you can't help him forever. In this way, Susie took a bus from her residence to the airport, and then checked her luggage. Her mother never reached out to help him.
it's better to teach him the means to make a living than to teach him a lot of money. Ms. Liu decided to send her son to "a place where she can't handle it" and let him survive and exercise by himself. However, when she learned that her son earned his living expenses by painting, the strong mother finally cried with distress. Last summer, every time Ms. Liu talked to her son on the phone, she always heard the whirring wind in the microphone. Susu always said that she was taking a walk. Ms. Liu felt strange that it was winter there and she was always taking a walk in the wild. Later, Susie told the truth that he was helping people paint. Ms. Liu herself is engaged in construction and knows that painting is the hardest job. At that time, she felt very contradictory and thought, what are you tossing about? With his own ability, his son should not have suffered so much. But then she thought, this kind of exercise opportunity is rare.
Until now, many relatives think that Ms. Liu's method of educating her children is wise. Sue Sue has not got into any bad habits of Wan Ku's younger brother. She keeps her life in order abroad, gets along well with her classmates and gets good grades. At Ms. Liu's home, the reporter saw photos of her life from the Internet. Although the house she rented was simple, it was neatly packed, and even her shoes were neatly placed.
Mother is my son's first female friend.
Such a strong mother and such a unique educational style have attracted her son's resistance? In the face of the reporter's question, Ms. Liu smiled with relief. She said that she and her son have been getting along very well and never blushed. She is always used to discussing solutions to problems with her son from the perspective of friends. She regards herself as the first female friend in her son's life, so that his son can tell her everything and even tell her which female classmate he loves. When my son was 15 years old, he liked a girl with good academic performance in the senior grade. This feeling was more of an admiration component. He deliberately came back a day late during the holiday because he wanted to tear down the photo of the girl posted on the school honor list. When he told his mother the secret, Ms. Liu was not frightened by her son's idea. She said to her son, "If you like her, you might as well study hard and get on the honor roll, so that you can be on the same platform with her and talk to her." Later, my son studied very hard.
At ordinary times, mother and son often chat on the Internet. Susu always calls her mother "Laoniang". A few days ago, Ms. Liu fell ill. In an email sent to her mother, Susu wrote, "Laoniang, I'm really worried about your weak voice on the phone. I hope you will recover quickly. In the future, you must pay more attention to your diet. Although domestic food is cheap and delicious, don't always go out to eat. I have a lot to say to you.
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