? I was deeply impressed by self-discipline. I read Stoke Parker's The Road Few People Walk, which has a very profound exposition on self-discipline. At the beginning of the book, it is said: "Life is full of hardships, which is the truth and the most important truth." Many people in the world don't understand this, and always think that life should be easy and can be spent happily without any effort. So when I saw the suffering imposed on myself, I cried for heaven and land, and my anger exploded and my pain was inexplicable. The Road Few People Walk shows with a large number of examples that suffering is the truth of life, and the occasional prosperity on weekdays is abnormal.
? So, in the face of a miserable life, is there any good way to deal with it? Stoke Parker put forward the word "self-discipline", thinking that self-discipline is "the most important means to solve life problems and the most important method to eliminate life pain", which includes four basic aspects: first, delaying satisfaction, second, taking responsibility, third, being loyal to facts, and fourth, maintaining balance. Among them, the sense of delayed satisfaction comes first. Happiness and pleasure that you can get without effort, such as playing mobile phones, brushing videos, playing games, eating delicious food, watching movies, and having fun with friends ... It is easy to do as long as you are willing to do it, but you will eventually consume your energy and time. Once these things are over, many times the heart is actually very empty.
? Taking responsibility is the second characteristic of self-discipline. Everyone in the true sense will assume his own responsibility in life, so don't pass it on to others if it's his own business. In order to escape their responsibilities, some people even willingly give their freedom to others (frome wrote the book "Escape from Freedom", which made a profound explanation), and were willing to be enslaved by others, and finally suffered from neurosis and personality disorder, and could not become a complete person. The third characteristic of self-discipline is loyalty to facts. Many people cling to the incomplete life map, their behaviors are out of touch with the real world everywhere, and their psychology is in a typical state of empathy. What is "empathy"? Stoke Parker defined it as: "Copying the ways of perceiving and reacting to the world, which were produced and applied in childhood, into the environment of adulthood, although these ways are no longer suitable for the environment of adulthood." The concept of empathy has a shocking psychological impact on me! In order to observe myself, I have some empathy more or less; Looking at the people I have contacted, I also found that there are many people with serious empathy. In the words of psychologist Wu Zhihong, these people with serious empathy are all giant babies. Although the body has matured, the mind has not made much progress compared with that of childhood. If you can't be loyal to the facts, there will be no starting point for self-discipline. The fourth characteristic of self-discipline is to keep balance. Due to the limitation of space, I won't talk about it here.
? Simply sum up these four characteristics of self-discipline (only three of them are described here), and my personal understanding is that if you want to achieve your ultimate goal in life (Stoke Parker believes in the book "The Road Few People Walk" that the ultimate goal of life is to make your mind grow and mature, follow the direction of God, and eventually become a person like God. However, the road to mental maturity is full of hardships, and the road ahead is full of setbacks and hardships. He said at the beginning of this book that "life is full of hardships"! Therefore, the road to maturity is a "road that few people take". Most people will eventually be defeated in the middle, and only a few people can wade across mountains and rivers to reach the finish line and eventually become the closest person to God himself. ) So how should we go about it? The first thing is to take responsibility for your own life. You can't shirk this responsibility to others at any time, just be a person who lives on others. People who are attached to others are the weak in life, and the weak have no future.
? The second is to be loyal to your own objective facts. Romain rolland said a well-known saying in the book John Christopher: "Most people died at the age of 25, but they were not buried until they were 8." At the age of 25, many people have stopped growing mentally and spiritually, and every day they live is a replica of yesterday. Although the body is still growing and experiencing the process of maturity and aging, it is not much different from being dead. Although this statement is too absolute and sharp, it even makes people feel very uncomfortable (as many famous writers have always done)! But I think romain rolland mainly emphasized the importance of "people need lifelong growth". If you don't keep pace with the times, a person's thoughts, hearts, emotions and thinking judgments will fall behind the surrounding environment, and finally slowly fall behind the whole era. As a result, what you think and do can't objectively reflect the times and be isolated from the times, and various psychological diseases will emerge as the times require. In this way, self-discipline does not even have a basic correct starting point, which is worthy of high vigilance.
? Let's talk about the most important feature of self-discipline-delayed satisfaction. Nowadays, material products and spiritual products are extremely rich. China has entered a well-off society in an all-round way, and the problem of food and clothing has all been solved. In this era when material products and spiritual products are extremely rich, it is easy for most people to enjoy timely happiness. For example, the things I listed at the beginning of this article, these pure material and spiritual pleasures, it is easy for people to indulge in them, but they are not beneficial to their growth and maturity, and even have a great negative effect. Because the more time and energy you spend on this, the less time and energy you have left to do more important things-study hard, broaden your knowledge, improve your cognition, keep healthy, master the skills of making money, manage intimate relationships, and realize physical and mental freedom ... These are all very important things in life. And have you found that doing these things is anti-human, even struggling with the law of entropy increase, and must be promoted with a strong spirit of self-discipline. Therefore, a very important thing in life is to adhere to self-discipline.
? There is also a funny reason why I have expressed such great feelings about self-discipline. Haven't you been paying great attention to the health of your diet all this time? Breakfast is usually eaten at home, with milk, eggs, steamed bread, fruit and other ingredients, and sometimes a cup of Wuxing Jianpi powder. In fact, the nutrition is quite comprehensive. As a result, after walking yesterday morning, I saw a small shop passing by making all kinds of rice noodles, which looked very attractive and I couldn't help but go in and eat a bowl. Although the boss and proprietress were repeatedly told to do a good job in hygiene, the owner and his wife nodded and agreed. But the bad consequences still appeared: I got up this morning and had diarrhea, and the bathroom was connected several times, and my self-discipline in diet was broken! Then I think that my self-discipline consciousness in other aspects is also worse, which is lower than the average person's level. It belongs to the typical "step on the watermelon skin, and wherever you slip away, you can count on it", so I wrote an article with the theme of self-discipline, learning from Zeng, deeply reflecting on it, and fighting for yourself! Is it useful to hope that similar things can be committed less? God only knows! Writing is one thing, doing is another, haha!
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