From 2008 to 2019, we have known each other for 10 years and 6 months.
When we met for the first time, there was no handsome boy in a white shirt, nor a girl in a pleated skirt with long hair. I couldn’t even remember what they looked like when they first met. But after dealing with each other many times, Two people go from friends to lovers, from lovers to familiar strangers, and then from strangers to lovers.
The two of them have experienced those suspicions and uneasiness, fanaticism and loss, breakup and reunion, emotions and tears together. Now, standing at the intersection where I was thirty years old, my memories actually give me a lot of warmth.
1. I see you as a farmer, but you see me as a village girl.
The day before returning to Shenzhen is also the last day to stay with my parents in my hometown. My mother had leg pain and had difficulty moving, so she arranged for me and I to wear rain boots and go to the vegetable garden to pick some fresh vegetables and bring them back to Guangdong.
I haven’t worn rain boots for many years, so when I changed into equipment, I teased him like a complete farmer, and he laughed at me for being a complete village girl.
We grew up in rural areas. We know the hardships and difficulties of life, and we also enjoy the steadiness and happiness of labor.
Probably because we are from the same class, when we get along with each other, we can feel free to be our true selves without feeling inferior or deliberately changing ourselves to please each other.
They have similar feelings, but they are also happy and comfortable, and then the two of them work towards the goal together.
2. He is your arms and you are his eyes
On Valentine’s Day, we happened to be going back to Shenzhen. He set off at 7 o'clock in the morning, covering 600 to 700 kilometers. He drove alone for more than ten hours and was exhausted. On the way, I went to Guangzhou to deliver some things. I drove around for a few hours and had dinner by the way. It was already past 9 o'clock.
His eyesight was not good at night, so he originally planned to find a hotel nearby to stay for one night and drive back to Shenzhen early the next morning. Just as we were driving to find a hotel, the steering wheel suddenly turned and we decided to go back to Shenzhen directly. He said: You help me look at the navigation route. With you sitting next to me, I feel at ease.
The two people moved forward cautiously on the dark highway, like a rational adventure. For a distance of nearly 200km, he insisted on staying in the middle lane and allowed one car after another to pass in front of us. We chatted for a while, and each time we got closer to the destination, we felt more safe and confident.
He said, On Valentine's Day, others send flowers and red envelopes, but I will send you home from morning to night.
Valentine's Day with flowers, gifts, surprises and romance is certainly romantic, but when you have known someone for more than 10 years, he has become your arms and you have become his eyes, two people. life and life are more closely connected.
You know where his heart is and how much money he has. Whether or not he has a gift is no longer that important. Trust and understanding are a higher level of romance than any gift.
3. We no longer talk about love, nor do we try to prove love, but just feel happiness in ordinary days
On the morning of his birthday, I said to him: Come and have dinner with me tonight .
He replied: OK. Happy birthday, my dear.
Before I got off work, I received a call from him and asked me what I wanted to eat. I said: Whatever you do, I will eat.
When we were almost home, the dishes were ready. Let me bring the cake back by the way.
After knowing him for so many years, this is the first time he has a birthday with a cake. In previous years, he would cook a meal and give out red envelopes.
With a bottle of wine, two people, and three dishes, my birthday was simply celebrated. I didn't put any special effort into expressing "I love you", but I still received the touch and happiness brought by the "little luck".
4. The most romantic love words are not "I love you", but: It doesn't matter, I'll do it
A few days ago, he told me that there would be several people on Sunday (yesterday). An important friend comes to my house for dinner, and my role is to prepare a table of delicious food and create a good atmosphere for them to talk. But this is not my strong point.
Sure enough, after buying fruits and vegetables and going home, they were eating fruits and chatting in the living room. I was messing around in the kitchen for several hours, but I didn't come up with a single dish.
During this period, he ran over and watched it three or four times. When he saw me steaming the steamed sea bass until it was smoking, it almost exploded. For the sake of safety, he finally decided to cook it himself.
Under his leadership and my cooperation and supervision, the speed of serving food soared. In less than half an hour, four or five dishes were ready. There was only a scrambled egg with green peppers and green vegetables left for me to cook. In order to give me face, he said in front of his friends that I cooked them all, and I naturally won a good reputation in front of his friends.
In this little incident, what I care about most is not how I look in front of his friends, but that he didn't show any anger when the accident happened, which made me feel at ease.
Some boys may feel embarrassed in front of their friends and say in a reproachful tone: You can’t even cook a dish, what else can you do? In fact, face is earned by oneself, not given by others.
When a man starts to blame when something goes wrong, he will not only lose face, but also lose his relationship.
When two people are together, they not only have someone to accompany them when things go well, but more importantly, they have someone to tolerate when they make mistakes, and tell you with a smile, it doesn’t matter, I’ll do it.
When the passion fades, we no longer work hard to find love or prove love, but spend every day like Valentine's Day.