? I came across a short video with the title "10-year-old boy sets up a stall at night market to support his family." This little boy named Chen Zhiwen stood on the streets of Chengdu late at night selling pancakes during the National Day. It was his mother who helped him. His father died unexpectedly two years ago while working out of town. The mother and son made a living by selling pancakes at a stall. The little boy skillfully rotated the pancakes in the charcoal fire and added supplementary ingredients. The mother and son cooperated with each other in tandem. Although it was hard work, they never complained. The sensible Chen Zhiwen said: "It's useless to complain. You have to rely on yourself for everything."
It is true that the children of the poor have become the masters early! I believe that children who grow up like this must be much more capable than those who grow up in Wenwen Township. It’s really heartbreaking to see such a sensible and responsible little man. He has to support a family at such a young age. However, growing up in difficulties will definitely become his greatest wealth in the future. I believe he will become an upright person in the future because he understands everything. Rely on yourself.
? When you see such a story and look at the children around you, you really have to think carefully. In today's society, as parents, we work hard to create a good family atmosphere and growth environment for our children, but there are only a handful of parents who can avoid spoiling and let their children learn to grow through hardships.
In 1925, American scientist McCain conducted a famous mouse experiment. He divided a group of newly weaned baby rats into two and treated them differently: the young rats in the first group enjoyed "preferential treatment" and were given sumptuous food, allowing them to enjoy and eat to their heart's content all day long; the young rats in the second group received "discriminatory treatment" ", only providing 60% of the food equivalent to the first group, "starving their body and skin", and they can only eat seven to eight percent full. The results of the experiment were unexpected: many mice in the first group that enjoyed "preferential treatment" suffered from "affluenza" due to overnutrition and died early before reaching "middle age." The mice in the second group that received "discriminatory treatment" had shiny fur, tight skin, agile movements, well-proportioned bodies, and were surprisingly healthy and longevity. Moreover, its immune function and even sexual function are much higher than those of mice that have been fed all day long.
? With the development of society and the development of the economy, children are growing up smoothly. They have parents to protect them from the wind and rain at home, and teachers to protect them at school. Logically, they should grow better, but the reality is like a mouse experiment. , children's physical fitness is poor, their self-care ability is poor, and many worrying problems have arisen in terms of will, quality, and awareness of public morality. In addition, they lack training and have not experienced hardships, which makes their minds fragile. They will seek death and survival at the slightest setback, and even suffer some mental distortions. Tracing back to the root cause, it is because he was raised too well and has not experienced hardships.
? Mencius once said: "When heaven assigns great responsibilities to people, they must first work hard for their minds and muscles..." The purpose of educating children through hardships is to improve their ability to survive and compete. It has benefits for a child's entire life. How can you see a rainbow without going through wind and rain? It is said that hardship education has become popular in Japan in recent years. Japan is an economically powerful country and is fully capable of providing children with superior living conditions. However, Japanese schools and parents deliberately give children harsh conditions and make them go through hardships. For example, in the middle of winter, children wear unlined clothes to school, classroom windows have no glass, and the biting cold wind blows into the classroom. The teaching facilities of Eton College, a world-famous British aristocratic school, are not even as good as those of civilian schools. Students sleep on hard beds and eat simple meals. In order to make themselves true nobles, students have to work much harder in school than in ordinary schools.
? What parents today often say is: "As long as you study well, you don't have to do anything." But these parents ignore that studying is a hard job, otherwise why would you do it? Come to the saying of "Ten years of hard study in a cold window". "Without ten years of bone-chilling cold, there will be no fragrance of plum blossoms." Now that living conditions are better, there are not too many hardships for children to experience, so we should start from Start by doing every little thing about raising a child. You have to do your own things, help share the housework, study is your own business, learn to take care of the elderly and younger siblings... In short, let him do everything that is beneficial to the child. Let him understand that hardship is blessing and suffering is wealth.