My high school classmate Xu Jiahui got married two years after graduating from college. I have been married for 7 years now and have three children. Her husband is our high school classmate Yuan Yi. Speaking of their romantic love, it was really a happy match between enemies.
During the National Day holiday, I returned to my hometown, and Xu Jiahui invited me to her house. Her home is a self-built single-family villa. And her family's factory is right next to it. The factory is very big, and it's a magical place when you walk in. Behind the scattered factory buildings, there is water, cattle, sheep, and big white geese. The lawn was full of plump grasshoppers. The children and Yuan Yi crouched to catch the grasshoppers, and the shepherd dog followed behind them wagging their tails.
“Envy, jealousy and hatred!” Xu Jiahui and I stood on the bridge over the water, watching the reeds by the water being blown by the wind. As an older leftover girl, my eyes were already red.
While eating, Yuan Yi said while eating: "Xu Jiahui, what kind of dish did you order? Can you gain some brains?"
"Haha, what can you do if you have a brain? Don’t order?”
“It’s too hard for me to focus on ordering.”
“Oh, I didn’t see it. I thought your brain was only for ordering.”
The eldest daughter, who is already 6 years old, shook her head and said: "Boring."
"Do they argue every day?"
"Yes."
"Are you afraid?"
"What are you afraid of? After the quarrel, they will please me and send the message. Whatever they want, just say it." The child calmly said Eating.
After the quarrel, Xu Jiahui took me to the bathroom to touch up my makeup and asked me, "Are you still envious?"
"No." I said, "I just thought you were arguing while eating. Aren't you afraid of spitting into the food?"
Back at the dinner table, Xu Jiahui said to Yuan Yi: "Don't speak so loudly and spit in the food to prevent others from eating. "?"
"You are louder, I am louder, you have more saliva." Yuan Yi showed no sign of weakness.
It was too childish and I couldn’t listen anymore, so I picked up the children and said, “Let’s go, Auntie will take you to eat hamburgers.”
The children followed me very obediently. , leaving the loving couple to continue arguing like a drama.
If love is a drama, they act it especially realistically.
In the afternoon, the children took a nap and Yuan Yi went to the factory to work overtime. Xu Jiahui leisurely told me her and his story. Although they argue every day, her face is filled with happiness as she talks about it.
I wrote their stories in the first person, which is completely true. But maybe my pen is softer. Therefore, the real triviality and irritability of reality are deliberately avoided. But no matter what, I hope you will believe in love again after reading it.
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The other day I saw someone saying on Weibo: "The person I fell in love with in high school is the person I love most in my life."
Many people liked it I like it, but many people don’t agree with it.
I don’t agree because I didn’t fall in love with anyone in high school.
A few of my Weibo friends also forwarded it, and Yuan Yi’s post @ me. After thinking about it, I didn't reply. It's been two months since we broke up and I haven't blocked him. I think my emotional intelligence is quite high.
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I didn’t fall in love with anyone in high school, but I hated a few people. For example, the political teacher who likes to talk to girls and touch their hair, and the dean who always scares us to "record a major demerit every minute", such as Yuan Yi.
I vaguely remember that Yuan Yi was a taciturn and impolite boy in his youth. He was sitting not far in front of me. He always sits upright and studies very hard, but his grades are average.
One time during class break, I was chatting with the people at the front and back desks. We were so happy that our voice got louder. He suddenly stood up and walked to my desk, and said to us in a very cold and disdainful manner: "Can you please lower your voice and affect other people's learning!"
It's your business to like studying between classes, but It is my right to take breaks between classes. So, after he returned to his seat, I laughed even louder: "Hahaha!"
He covered his ears.
In my senior year of high school, a boy sent me home after school every day, and then stuffed various small notes into my pencil case.
That boy is a talented man who writes gorgeous acid prose. He is fair-skinned and clean, and has a melancholy temperament. He is very consistent with my idea of ??a Qiong Yao-type male god. In the self-study class, we sit together, often holding a notebook, and you and I chat in the notebook sentence by sentence. It is wasted and embellished with youth.
Later one day during lunch break, Yuan Yi suddenly came to me and asked me to go out and talk.
"What's wrong?" I asked.
"Can you study hard and stop playing around?" He looked sad.
"Why didn't I study hard?" I was very angry.
"Then don't sit with XX!"
"None of your business!" I glared at him, turned around and left.
Going back to his seat and looking out through the window, he was still standing there with a sad expression.
Later, he had a fight with the talented man. Of course it was him who provoked him. He scolded the scholar for writing an essay that was disgusting, and then both of them suffered a bruise and swollen face for a week.
After the college entrance examination, we had a party. I was singing in a KTV and the talent invited me to sing "Clear My Heart" together. Yuan Yi held the microphone and refused to let go.
I couldn’t take it away, so I scolded him angrily: “You think everyone else is your mother, and they all spoil you.”
He was stunned for a moment, then dropped the phone and spoke out He left the door and never came back.
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Later in college, we all went our separate ways. I had been having an affair with Caizi for a while, and of course I had no further contact with Yuan Yi.
Occasionally at class reunions, you will hear news about Yuan Yi. He dropped out of college and went to work in Yiwu, where he became as thin as a stick. . . . .
But these rumors were buried in a series of more powerful gossip, and I didn’t take it to heart.
In my junior year, a boy chased me. Before he even impressed me, he impressed all the sisters around me. So when I was with him, I was almost half-hearted.
This boy is very caring and likes to give me gifts. There are roses on every festival. During the Mid-Autumn Festival, I went half way across the city to buy my favorite time-honored double yolk lotus seed mooncakes.
We have been together for more than a year. It’s not that there are no heart-warming memories, but there are also many questions.
In my senior year, I broke up. He disagrees. I get bombarded with text messages every day and ringtones in the middle of the night. When the class party was held, he also followed. Sitting among a group of people, they were making jokes and staring at me intently.
After a while, I felt like I was going crazy. After completing the credits and completing the coursework, I applied for an internship opportunity at a perfume company in Guangzhou, packed my bags and left.
Later, we talked about breaking up on the phone, with a firm attitude and no contact until death.
"Okay," he said, "you have to pay me back the money I spent on you during this period."
Soon a message came to the e-mail. A list, as you can imagine, he even included the bus fare to buy lotus seed mooncakes and the money for our class party, which was more than 20,000.
It was the Canton Fair at that time. I was standing in front of the booth wearing a black suit and received a call from him to collect debts. I couldn't help crying.
The manager asked me what was wrong, and I said if he could advance my salary to me first, and in the next 3, 5, or 10 years, I would be willing to work as a cowboy for the company and dedicate my youth.
The manager smiled and said: "Go and touch up your makeup first. You don't know whether the company will sign it or not."
Standing in front of the mirror and taking 18 deep breaths, I walked out of the bathroom. When I came out, I was stopped by a person: "Xu Jiahui, is that you?"
When I turned around, I saw Yuan Yi, who had been forgotten in the old days, standing in front of me in a suit and leather shoes, with a warm smile.
This acquaintance whom I once hated made me feel like a family member in this unaccompanied metropolis. So, my freshly wiped face was immediately flooded with tears again.
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The world is a big place, but people who have met will always meet again.
Yuan Yi came to Guangzhou to participate in the Canton Fair.
Time is a miracle and will favor those who endure hardships with a firm heart. The boy who used to have average grades and a bad personality now seems to be completely transformed. He dropped out of school after his freshman year and went to Yiwu. After working part-time, I opened a foreign trade company and found manufacturers to make large robes for the Middle East. I spoke fluent but not standard Arabic. I survived the first year when I was so thin that I looked like a skeleton due to stress. From being submissive when I started talking about business, to now His strong perseverance fully demonstrates the history of hardships and tears of an entrepreneur.
After listening to my cry, he said: "Come to my company and work as a horse, I will advance your salary."
At that moment, I was profound for the first time I realized the meaning of "breaking tears into laughter", so I made up my mind.
After the internship, I returned to school and lived in seclusion. On the one hand, I am afraid of meeting my EX on the same road, and on the other hand, I no longer need to go to job fairs to submit resumes, and I already have a sense of belonging in my heart.
Now that I think about that sense of belonging, the corners of my mouth still turn up. Yuan Yi called me every day with a cold voice and a creditor attitude, as if he was afraid that I would run away with debt.
The girl in the dormitory asked me who made so much money and made phone calls every day but didn’t chat online.
Yuan Yi doesn’t know how to chat online. QQ, games and various social networks that we were attracted to when we first got involved in the Internet are completely unknown to him. Yes, he never had any free time. He was always on the road, so when we were looking for a job, he was already the boss.
After graduation, the moment I stood in front of Yiwu Railway Station with my suitcase in hand, I clearly knew that I was not just running for a job, but also for love.
When you are walking towards your destination, the destination is also approaching you.
In the sea of ??people, that person was getting closer and closer to me. He ignored my outstretched hand and hugged him.
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Later I learned that Yuan Yi was very domineering. Even before our relationship was made clear, in the company, he hugged me whenever he wanted.
I asked the old employees of the company if Yuan Yi has had a girlfriend over the years.
The old employee shook his head and said: "He has such a bad character that girls dare not talk to him.
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He really doesn’t know how to cherish the beauty, he works overtime and is busy, and simply stops eating after dinner time. I went there for 2 months and lost 6 pounds. It is indeed a good place to lose weight.
He has a bad temper and will scold anyone who does something wrong.
But he never owed wages to his employees even in the most difficult times. .
Of course he also scolded me. When I was doing financial work that I was completely unfamiliar with, it was inevitable that I would make mistakes. My ex-boyfriend used up the fare when we were together. He also touched his forehead, pulled his hair, and lifted his chin.
Once, I was so angry with him that I packed my things and wanted to leave. I owed him. After returning home, he would repay the money even if he sold it.
He said: "You go, you go, it would be weird if I kept you." "
I ran downstairs, not wanting to stay for a moment. I had only walked 100 meters when I heard rapid footsteps behind me, and then a bear hug, and I was wrapped in his arms: "Let you go, you Just leave, you are so obedient. "
I cried harder.
"Why are you crying? I will make you cry even harder in the future. You even made me cry! ”
He is such a person. When we quarrel, he never says a soft word.
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I don’t remember when I asked Yuan Yi I cried.
One weekend after the reconciliation, he asked me to cook hometown dishes for him, but the two dishes I made were terrible. Sweep it all away and praise it as delicious.
"Is it really delicious? "I don't believe it.
"Really, I haven't eaten at home in several years. I want you to cook it for me every day. ”
“Why? "
"Because you have hurt me. " He was talking, but his face looked as if he had taken advantage of others.
Sitting on the small wicker chair on the balcony, the afternoon sun was warm, Yuan Yi's face was peaceful, and his story It was also quiet.
The words I said to him at the high school graduation KTV party made him cry for a long time. He had liked me throughout high school and fell apart after that sentence.
p>“I don’t have a mother, so no one has ever pampered me. ”
Not long after Yuan Yi was born, his father eloped and his mother remarried. He lived with his grandparents and was not loved. His parents and himself were the laughing stock of the family. He was bullied by his cousins ??when he grew up, and he was the most hungry. Catching grasshoppers all over the ground and roasting their legs to eat. A child who is not satisfied with food and clothing will not be without character flaws.
"Like the kittens and puppies on the roadside, they shed tears when they are blown by the wind. It's a miracle that he didn't die when he grew up. "Yuan Yi said with a smile. Painful memories will make people who have become stronger smile. But he is not grateful for the days of being abandoned.
"So, my biggest dream is to have a family. There is a lover who will never leave you. There are groups of children growing up happily. Do not let them experience any displacement, cold or hunger. "
"I like small animals, and having a farm is the best. To raise cattle and sheep, raise a big dog. There is water flowing in the farm, and the big white geese swim happily by. The large grassland was full of plump grasshoppers. The children and I caught grasshoppers and roasted their legs to eat. ”
At the end of the story, when Yuan Yi turned around, he should have seen me crying so hard that snot fell from my mouth.
“I was wrong,” I said, “I will never do it again.” I won’t say that to you anymore. "
He smiled and reached out to wipe my nose.
"From now on, I will pamper you! "Sincerely, this is my vow, born because of love, born because of softness, born because of past suffering, and born because he has now shaken hands with the past and made peace.
7
We are together like this
Don’t think that he will be much gentler to me now that I am his girlfriend.
Every time I was scolded by him, a real energy gathered in my navel, and I kept rehearsing the roar of the Hedong lion in my heart. I was a person who was pampered and had to inherit another person's bad temper, time and time again. It's not true love, that's impossible.
Of course, I sometimes fight back. But he is completely childish and keeps arguing. I am often confused by him arguing because of a cow. It all came down to the chicken.
Of course I cried too. When I got angry and started to fight, he grabbed my hand and asked childishly: "Do you accept it?" ”
“I’m not convinced! "I bite him as soon as he comes.
This happens three times.
But no matter how loud the noise is, after work, he will always beg me to cook with a flattering look on his face. No matter if I intentionally or No matter how unpalatable the food was, he would eat a lot.
During the six months we were together, he gained 10 pounds and I lost even more weight.
Later, my parents went to Yiwu to visit me. . He invited me to eat in an Arabic restaurant. Because the owner’s mixed-race daughter was too beautiful, she only focused on teasing the child and ignored the communication with my parents. I also saw him yelling at me about how to order. , after coming out of the hotel, my parents asked me to buy a ticket and go home to break up with him.
I still remember my mother crying and saying, “I have no manners or respect for my elders.
My own biological child, why should I follow him and suffer? "
I stood there very embarrassed, very embarrassed to leave him.
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That was the first time we broke up.
< p> After I returned home with my parents, I didn’t think about anything, and I was in great pain. I told my parents what happened to him when he was a child, and we lamented together.One day a week later, Yuan Yi was standing downstairs at my house. . He was carrying large and small bags of gifts, but he didn’t dare to go upstairs. He didn’t know how long he had been standing there.
Later, my dad went downstairs with a livid face and said, “Go up first. "That's why he dared to follow him slowly up the stairs. People who have never gotten along with their parents certainly don't know how to compromise with their parents. But seeing him change his usual domineering appearance, he looked like a little kid who was willing to fight when he was wronged. Sheep, my heart is so soft.
Still can’t speak, but my smile is much more humble.
I sent him downstairs without saying a word. Downstairs, he said: "After we get married, I will have a family and parents. Don't quarrel with your parents, they love you so much. "
My mother went downstairs to take out the trash and happened to hear it. She persuaded my dad when she got back.
"My mother couldn't bear it when she saw you picking up food for him. "My mother wiped away tears for a long time.
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Later, we broke up several times. Once he complained that I interfered in the management of the company. I felt that he He treated me like an outsider and was so noisy that I packed up my things and left in a rage.
As soon as I got off the plane, there was a series of life-threatening calls from him on my phone, asking him why I owed him money. After paying it back, I took away the necklace he gave me and wanted to call my mother to tell me that I was not good to him.
But this time, I couldn’t laugh or cry. It was so noisy. I had made up my mind not to fight with him anymore, and even changed my phone number after I left. Who knew that he would actually learn to stalk me on Weibo under my influence.
I found a new job and vowed not to fall in love with my domineering boss again. I taught children to speak English in an English training institution, which made me feel comfortable and sometimes confused. > Later, I received a call from my mother. Yuan Yi went back to his hometown to buy land and borrowed money from my parents. My mother took out all the pension money and gave him 300,000.
Bastard.
I couldn’t control my anger and immediately called to scold him. But he said leisurely over there, come back quickly. We will set up a factory in our hometown and protect our parents and homeland to make money. My dream is to It came true.
I immediately booked a ticket to go back and fight with him. On the train, I received a call from my mother: "The land certificate is here, and it is written in your two names. Let mom keep it. "
Holding the phone, I was stunned. Is he going to be entangled with me forever?
I ran towards the land he bought in the suburbs and found that Construction has started. And Yuan Yi is standing in the messy mound digging enthusiastically.
"What are you doing?" ”
“Dig trenches. "
"What are you digging trenches for? Isn't it building a factory? ”
“We have to dig trenches to get water, and we have to raise big white geese! ”
... Cattle and sheep, big dogs, water flows, big white geese, large grasslands, and children bending down to catch fat grasshoppers... He wanted the factory to look like a farm. .
"Come down," he stretched out his arms in the ditch, his palms were muddy.
"No, it's so dirty. "I turned around in disgust.
But he pulled me down, and he was very proud of me in the bear hug: "Young man, I can't take care of you anymore. ”
I hammered him hard, from very heavy to very light.
The sky was high and the clouds were vast. I looked at the sky and felt its temperature. I felt a little like crying. I wanted to laugh, but I was a little helpless and a little resigned. An occasional poem came into my mind very appropriately: "If you are authoritarian, I will obey." While I like buildings, you like roads. And my door can always catch your return.
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