Sister Chen is 31 years old. After graduating from college, she went to work in a listed company in Shenzhen, and she has been working until now. It can be said that her career is successful. However, in terms of emotion, Chen Jie is very unhappy. Although she has a boyfriend who has talked for five years, they have never talked about getting married, and there are few quarrels with each other, so their relationship has been maintained for five years.

However, Sister Chen recently went on a business trip because of her work needs. After she came back, she immediately decided to break up with her boyfriend, and her attitude was very decisive. At the same time, what Chen Jie didn't expect was that her boyfriend immediately agreed and said that she would treat Chen Jie as a friend in the future. In this way, Sister Chen and her boyfriend ended their five-year love run peacefully.

Regarding the breakup, Sister Chen said that the reason why she broke up with her boyfriend so decisively was that she never missed her boyfriend during her business trip. The boyfriend only called on the day she arrived in the city where she was on a business trip, and never contacted again.

1. Why is it difficult to have a happy ending in a long-distance love race

Most long-distance love races have no happy ending. There are four main reasons for this.

First, both men and women lack a sense of responsibility.

Love is sweet, but it needs to be paid to get it. The reason is very simple, because since you choose to love someone, you have to be responsible for the other person. This responsibility includes not only spiritual aspects, but also material aspects. Therefore, when you meet a real lover, if the other person only falls in love with you, but never talks about marriage with you, then nine times out of ten, the other person doesn't want to take responsibility.

Second, the other person just regards you as a substitute

For many selfish people, when choosing a lover, they may not care whether they really love the other person, as long as the other person meets some of their basic aesthetic needs, they will not refuse. Obviously, for this type of people, after they are with you, they will definitely not want to marry you, but just regard you as a substitute. Why? Because the other person knows very well that they don't love you, or they may always think that you are not worthy of them.

Third, the other person has secrets

If you love someone very much and the other person loves you very much, and you are very sure of it. But in the process of getting along with you, the other party never mentions marriage; Or every time you mention marriage, they will find all kinds of excuses to avoid it. Then obviously, the reason why the other party doesn't marry you may be that there is something to hide.

Fourth, we don't love each other anymore

Love has a shelf life, which is undeniable. In fact, this is the main reason why many long-distance love races are difficult to have a happy ending. Because the shelf life of love is only less than one year. If two people are not married and have not broken up in this process, their love will become another kind of emotion, that is, dependence or habit. Obviously, if this long-distance love race continues, then each other will become strangers to each other, and love will naturally cease to exist.

Obviously, if you are unlucky enough to meet the above-mentioned people, there is no doubt that they will not marry you, so if you have realized this, it is bound to be the most sensible choice to break up. Obviously, Chen Jie must have been on a business trip and deeply realized that she no longer loved her boyfriend. At the same time, her boyfriend no longer loved herself, and being together with each other was just a habit, so she decided to break up.

2. Love will disappear, so is it still meaningful to get married?

will love disappear? Many people say that love has a shelf life. Obviously, different people will have different views on this, but what does it matter?

why? Because marriage and love are completely different things, love has the meaning of love, and marriage also has the meaning of marriage.

I wonder if you have seen some touching stories during the Wenchuan earthquake. For example, when the Wenchuan earthquake happened, most men chose to protect their wives with their bodies. Especially when a couple are under the collapsed house and only one person has a chance to survive, the husband will leave the opportunity to his wife. There are also many news on the internet, such as the wife falling into the water and the husband jumping directly to save people without taking off his clothes; When there is a fire, the husband will carry his wife out even if he is desperate, and so on.

excuse me, are these love? The parties involved in these news are all ordinary people, and they don't have billions of dollars, nor are they big stars; Their wives are not beautiful, and many of them are typical housewives at first glance, but these men have chosen to protect their wives with their lives.

So, isn't this marriage meaningful? Maybe this is really not love, but this kind of love is bound to be more precious than love and worth cherishing.

So, even if love disappears, marriage is still worth looking forward to.

So, from this perspective, if you meet someone you really like and really love each other, and the other person also loves you deeply, don't pull the other person to run a love marathon, because it is easy to lose the original precious love after such a long love run.

Of course, you may say that these happy marriages may only belong to those lucky people, and you may meet someone who is not worthy of love, even if you get married, you will eventually divorce.

obviously, this kind of questioning is very rational and normal.

However, even so, marriage is still meaningful to each of us, at least much more meaningful than long-distance running in love.

why do you say that?

Because two people who have been in a state of long-term love running are always limited in their life, they often talk about love affairs with each other, often put each other in their hearts, or go out to travel with each other and enjoy food together, etc., but the scenes in these idol dramas are unrealistic, or when we are used to these life contents, we will no longer be moved by them, and we will no longer cry because the other person remembers his birthday or sends flowers to ourselves.

In this way, the flower of love has already withered.

but marriage is not.

If you marry someone you love deeply, your life will be completely changed, and you will have the same goals and work together for them. You will * * * experience the joy of your dreams and the hardships that life has brought you; Not only that, you may have children, and then witness the growth of children together, etc. These are the contents of life that you can only experience after you get married, and they are also the embodiment of the value of most people's lives.

Obviously, if you can marry a person, even if you are separated halfway, you need to be grateful to each other, because the other person has made you see more meaning of life.

3. If you love, get married. Please stop running.

Anyone can meet their own love. If they love, get married! Because you will find more meaning and value of life; Otherwise, you will regret it for life.

The reason is simple, because love needs ability, motivation and passion.

If you have met the one you love, but don't intend to marry the other person, you will pull the other person to a love marathon. Then there is only one result. In this process, you will lose your passion for love, lose your motivation to love, and eventually lose your ability to love, and finally choose to break up.

and once this happens, no matter who you are, you will eventually choose to compromise with your fate and choose someone you think is suitable to get married. Of course, this is not impossible. In fact, most people do the same thing, but your life will leave a big regret, and the person you love deeply will become a pain in your heart forever.

In a word, the ending of long-distance running in love is generally not satisfactory, so if you really fall in love with someone, please be brave, positive and sincerely marry the other person home. In this way, you will not only regret it, but also gain more power, achieve greater success and make your life more meaningful and valuable.