First, it is because parents are too nervous about their children's eating, the atmosphere of eating is tense, and the pressure on children to eat is too great.

Parents can consider it first. For children, is eating nervous or enjoyable?

For some families, eating is war.

When I was a child, I was in the second grade of primary school. Speaking of eating, it will become the center of the whole family. I will pick the rice in the bowl one by one with chopsticks. Grandma can't do anything but stare at me: "Eat! Eat vegetables! Put the bowl up! " For grandma, as long as the child has a meal, it is the greatest victory. Mother said to grandma, "Leave her alone and let her eat by herself." He turned to me and said, "If you don't finish this meal, you will have nothing to eat at night!" " Grandpa was very angry and said to grandma, "Mind your own business. "Dad stayed out at first, so I didn't have any choice. Chopsticks hit me: "I want you to eat quickly, do you hear?" "

At this time, I was faced with a table of food, and my throat was like a pelican tied tightly by a fisherman. When the food reached my mouth, I couldn't swallow it. I haven't liked eating since I was two years old. I hate eating. For a long time, I thought spinach was poisonous. I only need one bite to die. However, this sense of suffocation does not come from spinach, but from the atmosphere of every meal-tension, depression and inability to enjoy. And every time I eat, my mother tries her best, "Take one last bite! Eat the last five bites! " The end result is exhaustion!

Later, when I grew up, 30 years later, I still couldn't love to eat. When spinach was swallowed, it was still stuck in my throat and I couldn't swallow it. Once you encounter a nervous situation, your body will react at the first time-your stomach is blocked and you can't eat. ?

Second, parents are too nervous about their children's diet because they are too worried.

The author of the German practical parenting classic "Every child can eat well" made such a survey on 400 parents in pediatric clinics, and 1/5 parents thought that their children's food intake was too small. How many of these parents are wrong? The answer may surprise you, it's all wrong!

Because as long as children can get enough food regularly, they won't eat too little or be "too thin". Only a few exceptions are caused by diseases.

In nature, all small animals are born to find their own food, and only humans force their children to eat. There is only one reason, and that is "worry"! Parents don't trust their children: "You can't do it yourself, so I'll decide what and how much you should eat."

For grandparents, they experienced a famine year, and the fear of food shortage continued until they raised their children and even grandchildren. Even if children are not hungry, they must continue to eat-because they have a child who is extremely afraid of hunger.

As parents, we need to see this worry and realize it, which has nothing to do with children's physical needs. Children are born with the ability to choose food correctly and control food intake correctly.

Third, it is because children do not develop good eating habits. Children have never tasted "hunger" since childhood. When the child is obviously not hungry, parents will force the child to eat by abduction.

Every time when eating, Ze Ze must sit in his dining chair honestly. At the same time, listen to grandma's command: "You feed, I feed!" " "Grandma feeds a bite of food on the left and mother feeds a bite of rice on the right. Ze Ze was caught in the middle, his mouth closed tightly, and he turned left and right for a while, avoiding anything sent to his mouth! If she still doesn't eat, grandma will seduce Ze Ze with VC candy, and sometimes she will succeed. After a bite, Ze Ze can have a bite of VC candy. If VC sugar doesn't work, grandma will use the ultimate trick to eat while watching TV!

Eating should be a relaxing, happy and happy thing. It should have been to enjoy food and a warm atmosphere with the whole family. However, due to the tension and anxiety of adults, children can't feel the fun of eating at all. How to make children fall in love with eating?