Generally speaking, after a man is on the right track in his career, you will find that he always doesn't reply in time when you send a message. On weekends, he always works overtime and can't accompany you and the children. Even on weekdays, he always has a meal. When he comes home late, he feels that these two people can't say anything all day. In this case, I want to tell you that in fact, the focus of your life with men has become more and more different.
Because what is his life more concerned about? In his work, his work has brought him high income and a sense of value. Many men are really addicted to what he does.
On the other hand, on your side, you are upset and anxious about this matter because your life is still centered on him. Of course, I understand this very well, because women's emotional needs are to establish closer emotional ties with their partners. But in this case, I suggest you make adjustments from the following two aspects:
The first direction: you must guide men to invest more.
In other words, he can't accompany you in time and energy now, so what can he do to make up for it? He lacks such companionship for this family. Obviously, your income is also very high, and this capital investment is definitely essential.
Many of our sisters will have this mentality, especially if your marriage has come from a difficult period in the past, you will always feel that it seems bad to talk to him about Q, and you are embarrassed to talk to your husband about this material thing.
Teacher Hu told you never to think so. You know, when you took the initiative to ask a man out, I took a fancy to a skirt and you transferred 2000 yuan to buy it for me. My good sister got a beauty card today. I think it's good. I want to buy one too.
You often ask him these details. How does it feel every time a man transfers money to you? I am especially useful in front of my wife. This family cannot live without me. I am very valuable to this family. Especially now, if his income is really rising, you are not forcing him to ask for money, but will make men feel that this thing is recognizing me.
On the other hand, it is also true for yourself. By guiding men's investment, you can feel their concern and attention to you.
The second direction: women's sense of security still needs to be found by themselves.
This is what Mr. Hu often emphasizes. Women's sense of security still needs to be found by themselves. As I analyzed just now, the focus of your life is still on this man, who has more things to do to make him more interested. So if you want to improve, the key is to divide your life into several pieces.
To put it bluntly, you can't put all these eggs in one basket, so how will men feel? Even though I am busy, you can't understand me. I have to go to a dinner party tonight, and I don't want to go either. As a result, I came back drunk and you were still nagging me. In the long run, this contradiction will increase.
So what are you going to learn? Is to make your life richer and more stereoscopic. For example, cultivate some hobbies. For example, you can travel with your girlfriends and experience different feelings in more different fields. In this way, when your pattern is more and more, your knowledge is more and more, and your confidence in yourself is improved, this sense of security will become stronger and stronger.