Are girls becoming more and more utilitarian nowadays? Two days ago, there was a hot question in Weibo. Should a boyfriend with a monthly income of 3,111 be taken?
? Boys with a monthly income of 3,111 yuan are already struggling in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. After paying the rent and meeting the basic living expenses, it is estimated that they are only enough to invite their girlfriends to eat mala Tang and have a Lanzhou cuisine in Shaxian. As for watching movies and singing KTV for a holiday abroad, don't even think about it.
When shopping, everyone wants good quality and low price. In an intimate relationship, are girls willing to entrust themselves to a "good quality and low price" love?
it's actually possible.
When I first met Huanhuan, she worked as a shopping guide in a supermarket, and her boyfriend, Kang, sold mobile phones at a nearby counter, earning less than 3,111 yuan a month.
Huanhuan is a handsome and lovely girl. At that time, there was a small boss in a physical store who pursued her. Huanhuan hated him for fooling around and ignored him from the beginning.
A Kang works hard, but if he doesn't help the customer understand the problem, it's the star employees in the store who get it through the next day. She is also considerate to Huanhuan, and saves money to buy her snacks. Of course, I know that for Kang at that time, that was all he could give.
Huanhuan is also very motivated. She said that she didn't want to be a shopping guide all her life. They met to go to night school together and study the same major, because it was inconvenient to take time off together. Since then, I can hardly see Huanhuan and Kang at the same time when I go to the supermarket. They always take turns attending classes and working in the wrong class, but their feelings are getting warmer.
Later, Huanhuan and Akang graduated from night school, and left the supermarket and went to work in different enterprises respectively, becoming white-collar workers in the office and continuing to strive for a better life. Later, when they got married and had children, the circle of friends often saw them tasting delicious food and the beautiful pictures of a family of three in go on road trip, enjoying themselves and enviing others. Everyone said that Kang gave Huanhuan all the girls the life they wanted.
Happy love begins with nothing, but it is always on the way of continuous progress and rising. A promising intimate relationship allows them to achieve each other. Although it starts with poverty, it ends with prosperity.
No one will refuse promising love, just like sailing in the deep sea, with a beacon ahead. Such "good quality and low price" love is certainly worth having.
Second
Nicole is my best friend with rich wealth and beauty, family business, overseas study experience, prosperous beauty and high emotional intelligence. It seems that she has taken all the good luck in the world.
I thought Nicole's family background was to join forces to marry into a richer family.
So when I met Nicole's boyfriend Jason, I was surprised. Jason and Nicole met at the time of fitness, and they have many similar interests, such as sports, music and small animals. The most unexpected thing is that Jason's job is the department head of a foreign company, which is two grades smaller than Nicole's title of marketing director, and his income is also much less.
But after eating a meal, I soon understood why Nicole chose Jason. He is a gentleman, considerate to his girlfriend, and polite to his girlfriend's best friend; He is talkative but knows how to respect others better, and won't make the scene awkward, but he consciously stops when girls talk, leaving the right to speak to girls; Most importantly, he is humorous and optimistic. He always makes Nicole happy and has a positive attitude towards the future.
That's enough. Although Jason is economically equivalent to Nicole's low salary of 3,111 yuan a month, they are equal in spirit. A "poor boy" who can keep up with Bai Fumei in spirit must have good self-restraint and potential, and I believe that the status quo of women being strong and men being weak will not last long.
Many times, women find men not only for money, but also for communication, conversation, care, emotional support, understanding, tolerance and uncertainty. If all these things are satisfied, it will well explain the possibility of another kind of "good quality and low price" love.
? Three
Jie Jie is my primary school classmate, perhaps because she is too good. After school, she stayed in school as a teacher, and chose to follow her parents' arrangement and married the husband of a bank employee, A Nan.
Only after the marriage did Jie Jie know that A Nan's bank staff was a third-party agreement, that is, temporary workers outside the establishment, or they were hired through relationships.
Jie Jie told me that she gradually went from expectation to disappointment with Anan. Jie Jie will still prepare for the next day's class after work, or teach herself English and computers. Now is an era that needs to keep pace with the times, not to mention that she is a teacher herself.
As for Nan, she cries tired every day when she comes back. After dinner, she either plays games in front of the computer, is more feminine than women, or goes out for drinks with friends. Every time Jie Jie shows him the professional books on business, he always shirks his tiredness, saying that he has been working in the bank for several years and will become a full member when the time comes. Why bother? Just make a living.
A Nan's salary outside the establishment is not high, and Jie Jie surpassed her in a few years. She was awarded as an excellent teacher, participated in the teaching level competition on behalf of the school, and took students to participate in national and municipal competitions, becoming the backbone teacher in the school, while A Nan was still lying on the credit book with confidence.
Some time ago, I met Jie Jie. She told me that A Nan failed the probation period and was laid off by the bank. However, he was in a middle-aged crisis with no skills, and he repeatedly failed to apply for a job. Jie Jie planned to divorce A Nan.
Nothing happens for no reason. herzberg, an American psychologist, once explained the motivation theory of something in four aspects, namely, challenging, gaining recognition, responsibility and personal growth.
Jie Jie and A Nan went to the point of divorce. The big reason is that in this intimate relationship, the pace of their growth is different. Girls' self-expectation and expectation of each other are like a direct proportional function all the way up, while boys are like an inverse proportional function straight down. The two sides experienced an intersection. At that intersection, girls tried to make boys accept challenges, gain boys' recognition, and inspire boys' sense of responsibility, which made them move forward in the same direction, but unfortunately failed.
? After all, two straight lines that run in opposite directions, can't get fully grown "love", and naturally can't be "good and cheap".
Four
people all say that we should cherish the girl who laughs behind the bike with you. It is the most frustrating time for girls to spend the best years of their lives with boys. A boyfriend who earns 3111 yuan a month, is it worth a girl to gamble with her cardamom years?
the difference is, is it 3,111 for a while or 3,111 for a lifetime? If it is a lifetime, I am afraid that no one wants to be so noble in "helping the poor"? A hopeless intimate relationship is like a pool of stagnant water, which makes people look far away.
If it's only a short period of hard work, but the boys have a passionate heart for hard work, and are willing to exchange their efforts for a brilliant tomorrow, and they are also willing to fully absorb and sublimate in the spiritual world, and grow up with their beloved girl * * *, then I believe most girls will feel a little wronged at first, and what is it?
"Good quality and low price" love exists, but we should face it with a positive attitude. We take the train of love to make ourselves a better and better life journey!