I feel busy, so is it really busy?

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Before going to bed, I used to brush my circle of friends. My colleague Xiao W sent a new picture: the steering wheel repaired with a filter, the dashboard shows 23: 25, and the caption: It's time to work overtime again, I'm tired ... Then I brought a small tail, and the location showed our company. ? When he began to sigh "busy" and "tired" in his circle of friends, he often got the polite care and understanding of the leaders and the sincere solicitude of his colleagues: Have you been given too much work recently? Your daughter is only over one year old, so try not to arrange you to work overtime in the future; If you can't finish anything, leave it to us ... Young people, it's normal to be afraid of suffering and being tired, so colleagues can help you out. ? The problem is that his "busyness" is almost normal. Every few days, he will bask in a circle of friends; After embarrassing praise, some people began to wonder: Are you so busy because you do more than others? ? I work in an "institutional" unit. Apart from the normal eight hours, I have a lot of overtime duty. This is especially true on holidays-yes, you are not mistaken, "within the system" is not "a cup of tea and a newspaper, surfing the Internet with a little mouse"; We are a window department, directly facing the people, with high work requirements and great pressure, and we have to keep charging and studying in our posts. ? Busy is obvious, but everyone seldom complains. Old comrades have a strong sense of responsibility, and young people are practical and self-disciplined, knowing that they should talk less and do more. There is a clear distinction between work and life, and few people talk about work in the circle of friends, let alone "busy in the sun" with such fanfare. ?

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I don't know when it started. In addition to basking in love, children, food and travel, there are more busy basking in friends. ? If I faint at my desk, I hope someone can call me 12? "My recent state is probably 5+2, white+black, unkempt appearance+backache ..."? The picture is often a messy desk, and some even add a selfie with heavy dark circles. ? At first glance, I feel very inspirational. Suntanners feel good about themselves: Look, how hardworking a bee I am. (Of course, there is an implied meaning: Boss, my workload is too heavy recently)-Is it like a child who doesn't write because of too much homework? The viewer is a little ashamed: should I look up to him? ? However, this is often not the case. ? Xiao W mentioned above, because the child is small, the unit leader has taken care of him very much; Once he took a picture of hanging salt water, and the article said that he had been busy in the hospital recently, and the leaders also came to visit him specially. In the long run, Xiao W will feel at ease with "special care"-for example, he will be late the next morning after working overtime the night before. ? But in fact, Xiao W is the same as many young couples born after 198s in Shanghai: before the child was born, "135" and "246" took turns to mix food at their parents' homes; After the child is born, grandma and grandma take most of the responsibilities of raising. As a father, Xiao W occasionally "looks" at his children after work every day. ? Therefore, in addition to being "busy", he also likes to bask in the results of games. "Relieving pleasure" has been promoted, and how many opponents has he defeated in large-scale online games ... In the long run, there are more and more whispers among colleagues about his "busy": "How busy is it? Should you be allowed to play games at work? " ?

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In addition to online "drying", offline, there may be some people in every unit who always shout that they are "busy" and ask to reduce the workload. ? Colleague B Jun gave birth to a second child last year. After lactation, she still often went to the leader to tell her "difficulties" and asked for "special care" on the grounds that she had two children at home. In the long run, other colleagues will inevitably have ideas: "Once or twice, is it suitable for a long time?" ? "According to this logic, does a child have to do less work than a child without children?" ? At the beginning of this year, the comprehensive second child policy was introduced, which triggered a heated discussion on the Internet. Many people pointed out that women's employment will be more difficult. Then, if everyone asks for special care because of having a "second child", which employer dares to use her? ? In fact, the eldest daughter of Mr. B was born and lived with her grandmother. At night, the old man got up and finished feeding milk powder. After giving birth to the second baby, B Jun's parents not only paid for a full-time nanny, but also covered most of the children's expenses. Mr. B and her husband are both ordinary employees. When they proposed to buy a school district, their parents sold a suite in their hometown to make up the down payment ... The elderly not only don't need your support, but also do their best to help you raise your children. So, what are you up to? ? In fact, you are not busy, you just want to hide behind someone you can rely on by complaining and complaining, and don't want to provoke the burden of life. ?

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So, you show your so-called "busy" show to people around you, hoping to attract their attention, and then find someone to share it with you. ? So, let's analyze for a moment, when others see you busy in the sun, how do you react? Your boss: the job matches the position, and the workload of each employee in the team is basically the same for a task; Why are you the only one who is always busy in the sun? It is understandable once in a while, but in the long run, either your ability to work is problematic or your ability to adjust under pressure is too poor. No boss will like employees who like to complain. ? Your colleague: What's there to bask in? Are you the only one working? Is everyone else sleeping and chatting? Everyone has pressure, and no one is relaxed. What you do less is to be done by others. ? And the only thing that has a great impact on your "busy sun" may be your parents. ? If they live with you or in the same city, they will definitely stand up their old bodies, give up their leisure time after retirement and help you do housework so that you can have more time to relax; If they are in their hometown far away from you, they will definitely call at the first time: Are you too busy recently, son? If the money is not enough, we will call you ...? As the explosion article "You live brilliantly, but your parents are humble" on WeChat said, it is your parents' busyness and forbearance that bring you the opportunity of "poetry and distance". However, is this really appropriate? ?

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Besides, if you are really so busy, do you still have time to play games online and send friends? ? Or in your subconscious, life should be beautiful in spring, quiet in years, full of mouth-watering food, intoxicating scenery, and the ever-changing landmark "Little Tail" on the road? ? "Revolution is not a dinner party", and no one can "casually succeed" in work and life. Your boss is under heavier work pressure than you; Your colleagues are working hard in silence; Your parents, who are getting old, help you to take on most of the responsibilities of raising children. ? Ask yourself at a young age, did you buy your house and car by yourself? You live in the wedding room prepared by your parents for you, but you still want to fight for a school district for your children; The second child policy is liberalized, and you also want your children to be happy; However, have you ever thought about how much you have to pay for these "gains"? Have you ever been as busy as your parents who took out their hard-earned wealth to help you buy a house, retired and came to look after your children all day? ? If you feel too busy recently, then please: 1) check your work status and methods objectively and peacefully? Seriously learn from the efficient and responsible colleagues around you. For the same task, why do you work harder than others? Please find the reasons from yourself first. ? 2) Reasonable and effective use of time? Time is the fairest, 24 hours a day for everyone; Read more time management books and think about the reasons why you sleep at eleven or twelve every day. Is it reading a book or brushing a circle of friends or pouring water in the forum? ? 3) Think more about your parents who are still working hard. No matter whether you are from a city or a country, please ask your parents how they struggled for a living when they were young. And now, they are still working for you. ? So, maybe, you are not as busy as you think. ?