My uncle was depressed after retiring from work, and his temperament changed greatly. Just over 60 years old, he developed symptoms of Alzheimer's disease. Shortly after the diagnosis, my aunt died of illness, and my uncle's dementia went from bad to worse. At first, his brother gave up family reunion and took care of him himself. Later, I really couldn't stand his abuse, so my brother went home. It's not easy to hire a nanny. No one has a low salary, and my cousin can't afford a high salary. Besides, he has two children in kindergarten to take care of.
When my uncle was alone at home, he went out and got lost twice. When I was locked at home by my cousin, I ate raw meat in the refrigerator. In desperation, he had to be sent to a nursing home. According to the dean, my uncle quickly adapted to the life in the nursing home. There are many activities in nursing homes, and there are often volunteers or units to express their condolences to the elderly, and there are also many condolences. Once I asked my uncle to cook more meals, and the dean said that the nutrition of the elderly was enough. Relatives visit my uncle from time to time and say that he is in good spirits.
So people like my uncle who can take care of themselves are more suitable to live in nursing homes. It doesn't cost much, it's good for his health, and it also relieves my cousin of the burden. But for those elderly people who can't take care of themselves and have normal emotional needs, I think it is appropriate to invite a nanny to support the elderly at home. One-on-one care, children meet every day, so that the elderly and children are at ease. Otherwise, being left alone in the nursing home will inevitably affect the mood and make the body worse.
People who have never been to a nursing home will never know the inner truth of a nursing home. In fact, the nursing home is a bit like the kindergarten we went to when we were young. Unified management. Several carers guarded a group of old people. You know, everyone has their own personality, and it is incomparable to come to a nursing home and stay at home.
Occasionally, I heard on the news that nurses in nursing homes abused the elderly. When family members visit, they are different. That's why I killed my mother and didn't let her go to a nursing home. At least at home, your actions, language and hobbies are free, and you can be free from any restrictions in your own home. When you enter a nursing home, you have to look after nurses, and there are a lot of old people and women. Everyone has his own customs and temper. You bully me, I will bully you. Just like children in kindergarten, a negligence of a nurse may cause negative emotions.
Some nursing homes may be well managed and have good services. I think it's just an individual. If you don't have to go to a nursing home to solve the problem, then don't send your childhood parents to a nursing home. Imagine that when your parents sent themselves to kindergarten because of their busy work when they were young, weren't they 1000 unwilling? No one likes to leave their familiar home and enter another unfamiliar environment in their familiar environment, especially the elderly. The only hope in their hearts is that their children will accompany them and their children and grandchildren will be around their knees.
When sending the elderly to a nursing home, we must know whether the elderly really want to. Even if there is a little hesitation, you must never make an absurd decision. In fact, no matter how busy our parents are, they care about us since childhood. When they get old, the return is normal, and they will get old one day. Are you really willing to send your child to a nursing home? Really ask yourself and think calmly. Are you really willing or helpless?
The "nursing home" used to be the residence of lonely old people! In contemporary times, it is a "helpless" choice to leave people alone when they are old. I have been to a "nursing home" with good conditions. A classmate asked me to help contact his mother. The conditions for food and shelter activities are really good, but the price is not acceptable to ordinary people. The lowest monthly price ranges from 3500 yuan to 4500 yuan, excluding meals. If you are hospitalized, you have to spend extra money to find a nurse, and so on! Look at the living. I looked at the people with dull faces coming in and out, and my heart tightened ... It turned out that my children and I were very angry "you don't care if I go to the nursing home". After that, I will never say such things again, and I have a deep fear in my heart! My old classmates, brothers and sisters are all in other places, and they come back on leave to take care of the elderly in bed. After three or four years, they will be exhausted ... I contacted my old classmate's mother and told her it would be bad. Anyway, if the old man doesn't leave, she won't live ... Finally, let the nanny take turns to take care of them as usual! Old people once said, "Man! You can't be old, you are already very old ... "On the other hand, in today's world, we have lost China's traditional virtue of" respecting the old and loving the young "! Always say that the old man is like this, the old man is like that ... I think it is my ability to discriminate and insult the old man! The situation of these old people today is your ending tomorrow! Remember that you are also raised by your parents ... be kind to the elderly in society, accumulate virtue and do good deeds, for yourself and for your children! When you get old one day, "seek peace of mind!" Thanks to the netizens who read!
Standing outside the hustle and bustle of the city, I feel the happiness brought by my warm old age, which is my personal feeling when I see the photos of the nursing home. I don't think nursing homes are places where lonely old people have been. However, this is the beginning for the elderly to enjoy happiness in their later years after retirement. I think old people can be taken care of day and night in nursing homes. This is because our society has really made great progress in improving the conditions and providing good services for the elderly. Therefore, I think old people are happy in nursing homes. This not only reduces the pressure on children, but also finds a good home for their old age. This is the best of both worlds, so I said that as a child, there is no need to worry about sending the elderly to a nursing home. Let the old people go as long as they want. Moreover, the life in the nursing home is rich and colorful now, and various activities follow. Sometimes there are many recreational activities, such as chorus, dance and chess. And the food is good. So what I saw in the photos of the nursing home was warm, quiet and moving, so I said it was also a good thing to be in the nursing home.
My father has been herding cattle since he was a child. Every time I listen to my father's memories of childhood, I cry into tears. My mother used to be the daughter of a big landlord. She studied in a private school and graduated from a national high school. My mother is afraid to marry because of her high composition. My father is very handsome, but because his family is poor and can't afford to marry a daughter-in-law, neither of them will get married. My father was born strong and always wanted to join the party in the enterprise. But because of my mother, my father's ideal failed, and he hated my mother. Just hit my mother hard. My mother was born in a good family and never knew how to resist. Every time her mouth bleeds, she keeps silent. Later, when we grew up, our policies changed. My mother never quarrels with others. She is always so gentle. He forgave my father. Now they are all over 80, and we are three brothers and sisters. In order to let them spend their old age safely, we decided to buy our own house in the best local community. My sister bought a house of140m2 for my parents. My brother is responsible for cooking the meals my parents like every day. I am responsible for chatting with my parents every day. My sister managed to pay the money, but my father's health was average. My mother is in good health and runs around the park with the old ladies every day. When the children come back from vacation, the whole house can be lifted. What my parents say most is to let us accumulate virtue and do good deeds when we are young, and not suffer hardships when we are old. I was told everything they said.
Although I am an enlightened person, I have deep resistance to entering a nursing home on the issue of providing for the aged.
The child's great-grandfather lived in a nursing home for several years before his death, and my family and I went to see him several times. That nursing home is mid-range, and the conditions are ok. Great-grandfather has sequela of cerebral infarction, which makes him unable to move. He lives in a single room and has a special care worker to take care of his daily life and diet. But every time I enter that small room, my mood will be depressed immediately. The window is small, the sun seems unwilling to penetrate, the air circulation is poor, and the room smells of urine. Sometimes I bring the old man some meat that he likes to eat, but the staff in the nursing home won't let him eat it, saying that they usually have a light diet for the health of the old man, and eating greasy things at once will cause diarrhea. Every time I go, the old man is in tears, and his heart is very unbearable and helpless. No way, children and grandchildren are busy, and no one can leave their jobs to take care of them all day.
There are often some positive reports about nursing homes on the Internet. Some nursing homes do have good conditions, combined medical care and orderly management. There are also some negative news, such as some nursing homes abusing the elderly and chaotic management. All these reflect that many nursing homes are mixed, which makes people more worried about entering nursing homes. Even if the nursing home is very formal and standardized, there will always be a lack of what the elderly need most-affection.
When people are old, money, fame and fortune have long been irrelevant. Only family, the older you get, the more eager you are. Think of an old man, far away from his relatives, surrounded by the old, the weak and the sick, one by one with a haggard description, dull eyes and a sense of decadence everywhere. How sad it is to lean against the window every day and expect relatives to come once a week or even several weeks. If conditions permit, which old man doesn't want to live in his own home, his children and grandchildren will eat well and sit and lie down at will. Bored, go out and see colorful flowers and listen to the children's laughter. This is the comfortable life that the elderly like.
However, the reality is often that children are busy with work and have to take care of their grandchildren. How can the old people bear to make themselves a burden to their children again? I once saw an only son in his thirties in the hospital. My mother died young and my father had a cerebral infarction. He left work and served naked in the hospital for ten days. His father's illness has not improved, and he can't live without people. Finally, one day he completely collapsed and cried in the corridor. Therefore, wise old people often choose to go to nursing homes, unwilling to drag down their children, fearing that they will become a burden to their children one day. Entering a nursing home is a social problem brought about by the aging population.
In fact, there is a new way of providing for the elderly, which I think is worth learning from the old people, that is, holding a group to provide for the elderly. Holding a group to support the elderly means that brothers and sisters of similar age in a big family, or other relatives and friends, can find a suitable place to live together and spend their old age together. Take care of each other and help each other. You can also hire a nanny to do laundry and cook, and solve the inconvenience in life. On holidays, a large group of children and grandchildren visit the elderly, just like a big family gathering, getting together and having fun. This makes everyone feel comfortable, which is really a good way to support the elderly.
I hope that when we are old, we can all live in the way we like.
If I am too old to take care of myself, I will ask my son to send me to a nursing home. Now the family is basically an only child, and the burden of a child is too heavy. Taking care of the elderly is really beyond my ability. And there are no foreign nurses in the nursing home. What about bullying and abusing the elderly? There may be, but it is also an individual phenomenon.
My cousin's mother went to a nursing home at the age of 80, and now she is 95. Her children wanted to take her home, but she still refused. She said that nursing homes are busy and older people are afraid of loneliness.
Make more money when you are young. When you get old, find a better nursing home and enjoy your old age.
I have been volunteering in a nursing home once a week for six years. I have seen too much, and I have too many feelings: when people are old, they have to die well. So the awakened one must learn to be kind to all beings! Cause and effect cycle, no one can escape. Be good at protecting your mouth, regardless of his mistakes. Be good at protecting yourself without losing your manners. Be good at taking care of your own business, clean and pollution-free. Amitabha [pray] [pray] [pray]
Your filial piety is commendable, but you don't have porridge at home. The elderly in nursing homes have three nutritious meals a day, fruits are delivered regularly, and yogurt is drunk on time. It is impossible to live with the door open at home, especially when going to work. One can imagine the difficulties of the elderly at home alone. Tell me a real case of my family for your reference: my mother-in-law is 88 years old this year, and her legs and feet began to be inconvenient a few years ago. When we go out to work, all the meals cooked at home are cold and hot. What should I do if I feel distressed? Only the old man suffered, especially when she fell, and no one was at home. She lay on the ground by herself until we came back and found her carried indoors, stiff all over. The old man is very stubborn and asks the nanny not to let him, nor does the hourly worker. We were scared, tried to persuade her, and finally went to a nursing home combining medical care and nursing. After we went, we were much stronger than before and could walk by cart. We go almost every day, especially when his son retired last month and went there once yesterday afternoon, pushing a wheelchair around. Although we always talk about it, we still hope she is there. I haven't retired yet, and the children have something to run away from. The most important thing is that the old man is old. Make the chicken fly and the dog jump at home. Just say that this year's Spring Festival, we will take my mother-in-law back. The first day was fine. The next day, we started to find fault, saying that I washed her feet with cold ice bones and that her son didn't give her food for more than 20 hours ... because she was with us for 23 years before going to the nursing home, and her mother-in-law was very strong. She lies in bed every day and makes trouble with us at any time. In the 23 years that she stayed at home, she was never at peace. Look at the picture. That was my mother-in-law's life in a nursing home.
It's good to be old. Even this kind of life is not for everyone. To give some examples: 1 There is an independent unit in the same building, and three generations live in a big three-bedroom apartment. At the end of last year, the old man was dying and went home from the hospital and moved directly to the garage. My son is afraid that the old man will die at home. Because his son was getting married in March this year, the child got married in this house, so he died in the garage. This is also a helpless move! The old couple have no pension and will go to the nursing home. An old rural couple in the mother's community used all their savings to buy this house for their son. When they are old, their daughter-in-law doesn't want to live with the old people. Old people have no pension, no local hukou and can't afford to live in public nursing homes. It's too expensive outside, and this family can't afford it ... 3 It was reported a few days ago that the 95-year-old uncle scavenger didn't have enough to eat every meal because he had no teeth and no one to cook. Someone asked his children. He said that his son lived in a nursing home. It's strange why you don't go to a nursing home when you are 95 years old. He said: I have a son who can't live in a nursing home. My son can live without children. Don't think too much about .............................................................................................................. If he loses his ability to take care of himself, he can live in a nursing home, and it's not for anyone!