Many people who chat with me for the first time can talk with me for an hour in Kan Kan, as if they have found a bosom friend.
Now, let me answer this question forcefully.
Disassemble the key point of this problem: 1. 2. the opposite sex. Eat.
This seems destined to be a powerless topic! Okay, cut the crap.
The following are my thoughts and experiences in the food industry:
Choose a restaurant
I think whether a boy asks a girl or a girl asks a boy, the party who takes the initiative to ask others must follow a principle: don't open a topic, give multiple-choice questions. What do you mean?
Don't ask "what do you want to eat", this is an open question (knock on the blackboard to underline the key points)! !
As an invitee, it's really annoying to hear such questions. The correct way should be: give several restaurant locations, explain the advantages and disadvantages, and let the invited party choose. This not only shows that you have done your homework in advance, but also shows that you respect other people's opinions.
In addition, the restaurants you choose should have different styles, such as hot pot, Japanese food, Korean food and western food.
Otherwise, if the other person is a person who hates Japanese materials and you give a bunch of Japanese materials for you to choose from, do you want to do something?
Step 2: Make an appointment in advance.
Remember to make an appointment in advance when choosing a restaurant!
There are at least three ways: public comments, food and so on. , and telephone reservation.
Imagine if two people go to a restaurant and have to wait in a long line outside. In this long time, there is no food to talk about. . . . As two people who are not so familiar with each other. . Is it embarrassing?
(It's terrible to think about it)
Step 3: Be beautiful before going out.
Why be beautiful? I believe in the law of attraction, and I find that when I dress beautifully, the whole person's aura is different! Will become more confident, laugh and speak more freely!
For example, when I wear high heels, I always feel that I should walk with my head held high. When I put on a white fairy lace dress, I feel that I am the focus of the world!
Therefore, it is particularly important for girls, especially those unfamiliar with the opposite sex, to keep a good and clean image, put on a little makeup and choose appropriate clothes before going out for dinner.
For boys, I won't go into details about clothes matching. The key is to shave (some beards are ignored), cut nails and cut nose hair!
Ah, yes! It's nose hair!
Many boys don't care, but if there is a nose hair swaying in the wind in the nostril of the person opposite me when I eat, I will really pay attention to that hair after the whole meal. . .
Therefore, dressing up before going out is conducive to enhancing self-confidence. People are confident, the conversation and gestures will be more natural, and they will not feel embarrassed when they look at each other with nothing to say. Why? Because I'm beautiful!
Step 4: Prepare the topic.
High energy ahead! Here comes the point!
First, parents should understand the fact that everyone likes to chat with people who are willing to listen to themselves, without exception.
Questions and listening skills are involved here. Listen more, ask more, and express less personal opinions (but not without publication! )。 As long as it is used properly, the whole dinner will not be ice-cold, and many things will not be easily bored, so just wait for the other party to say Kan Kan.
My general remarks will focus on the following aspects:
1、? Talking about various things in my hometown:
This topic is the easiest to open. China has a vast territory and abundant resources, and its local conditions and customs are simply inexhaustible topic resources.
"Chaoshan beef balls are my favorite. Is there anything delicious over there besides beef balls? I really want to go to Chaoshan to play. " (From hometown to local cuisine)
"Although it is cold in winter in Beijing, there is heating after all. Our winter in Guangzhou is wet and cold, which is sad. " (From hometown to weather difference)
"I have been to Nanjing, but I only went to some tourist attractions, such as Confucius Temple and Sun Yat-sen Mausoleum. Is there anything else interesting? " (From hometown to travel)
It's best to open the topic with a question every time and let the opposite person say it!
After asking, hurry up and eat more dishes.
2、 ? Talking about food is the best topic when you don't know what to talk about.
"Where is your hometown?"
"Shiyan."
"Where is the good food in Shiyan?"
"Nothing, it's ordinary."
At this time, the eternal topic came out again. )
"What kind of food do you like to eat?"
If this card is still stuck, then the other person is either in a bad mood or his brain is really burnt.
Another possibility is that I was shocked by your beauty! ! ! )
Try something else.
The other side: "I study animal and plant science."
You: "Is there anything delicious near your school?"
(gap)
The other party: "It's so hot today."
You: "This weather is best for eating popsicles. Have you eaten recently? "
(gap)
The other party: "Recently, house prices in Guangzhou have risen very sharply."
You: "Yes, I have been saving money to buy a house recently, and I can't bear to go to my favorite canteen." Where is the best buffet you have ever eaten? "
(gap)
Of course, I also believe that some people don't like talking about food, but who cares! It's good to chat. Good cut!
3. Look at ta's circle of friends in advance to see what ta is paying attention to or doing recently.
"I see that you have been paying attention to Evergrande's competition recently. Are you a big fan of them? "
"Did the Titanic cultural relics exhibition you saw last time look good?"
"Seeing that you shared Zhao Lei's songs, do you also like more folk songs?"
"What filter do you use for this sunset photo? Very nice! "
Initiating a topic through a circle of friends is also a tried-and-true trick. At least the conversation is more targeted. Haha, my heart is so tired.
4. Add appropriate questions and don't worry about lack of nutrition.
Well, when the other person's interest has been aroused by you.
We should continue to be steady and steady, and let the other party continue to talk excitedly through a series of questions.
The question sentence is as follows:
"Why?"
"How did this happen?"
"Really?"
"ah? I don't know. "
"What shall we do?"
"What happened later?"
"So that's it!"
When many friends see this, do they think that the image of Lu Mimi in Bai Lianhua is silly and sweet in an instant? ! How can you ask such a question without nutrition!
Haha, you can try if you don't believe me. How profound a question is, you can use the following sentence patterns.
"His paper was actually plagiarized and even published in a journal."
"Really?"
"You know what? Wrestling, dad's male master amirkhan, in the part of the old drama, he ate himself as a paunchy person with a body fat rate of 37%, and then reduced it to 9% in five months. "
"ah? I don't even know. What happened afterwards? How did he lose weight? "
"Well, the political situation in South Korea will certainly continue to be turbulent."
"Why?"
If you are really not interested in the topic and just want to talk, these sentences are enough.
Even if you are actually interested, if you really want the other party to explain the ins and outs of the matter clearly, these words are enough.
It is a virtue to appreciate the depth of others without pretending to have depth.
Five, you can make proper use of props.
I bought a set of chat cards on Taobao before. Just to avoid awkward conversations.
Especially suitable for young men and women in the ambiguous stage. On the one hand, it can avoid the embarrassment of no topic, on the other hand, it can test whether everyone's three views are consistent and whether there is the possibility of further development.
It is actually a card with 36 questions. Understand the world view of the opposite person through in-depth interactive question and answer.
But remember, don't just take out the card and say, "Why don't we play a quiz game?"
(Others will ask questions, asking questions for no reason. )
Let's polish it like this: "Hey, I recently saw a set of cards on Taobao, and the questions inside were very interesting. I play with some friends. Do you want to try? "
It seems to be 38 packs, and the price is quite cheap. Please hold hands. The connection is as follows:
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Six, reading, reading, reading.
It is true that people who are ugly should read more books.
About chatting, let's look at Cai Kangyong's way of speaking.
Anyway, I have gained a lot myself, and some ideas in this answer are also taken from these two books.
Dangdang's book purchase link is here:/23544488.html.
All right.
Summarize in a PPT about "How to eat correctly with unfamiliar opposite sex?"
Personal introduction:
Lumimi, a woman with a very high Engel coefficient.