In life, we have too many people and things that we don't like and hate. We either don't like this thing or that person annoys us. We judge a person or a thing according to our own likes and dislikes. If it meets our standards, we will accept it. If it doesn't meet our views, we will refuse and reject it. However, whether this person is good or bad, whether this matter is good or bad, is not determined by our likes and dislikes. Life itself has its own development track and its own laws and regulations. Instead of rejecting and rejecting people and things that we don't like, we should try to change our likes and dislikes, and accept things that we dislike and hate in a way that we like, and you will suddenly find that things have changed a lot. In the past, the more you rejected and rejected things, they will not disappear because of your opposition and resistance, but will intensify your influence and make you more anxious and nervous. Because when you reject and reject something, it is the attitude of rejection and rejection that causes the internal division of your spirit. It is this attitude that disturbs you and makes you internal conflict and tension. And you will think that it is caused by that thing, so you reject and reject it even more.
There was a devout believer who fasted and prayed in a wooden house by the lake. There were some croaking bullfrogs outside, and they were quarrelling fiercely. He tried to turn a deaf ear because he hated the sound of bullfrogs, but to no avail, he had to open the window and shout, "Shut up! Can't you see I'm praying?
after he gave a roar, the bullfrog immediately stopped barking. However, just as he went to pray again, the frogs in the pond rang again. He was very angry at first, but then he thought, "Why do you hate them so much? Maybe the croaking of a bullfrog can please God just as I sing a prayer.
when he decided to obey this idea and accept the bullfrog's cry, it was strange that the bullfrog's cry became a very beautiful chorus around the pond. Instead of being harsh, he felt that the wonderful sound added a lot of color to the silent night.
He just changed his inner rejection and resistance into acceptance, and the noise of bullfrogs that made him sick turned into a beautiful and harmonious chorus. It all depends on whether our attitude is to accept or reject. The more you refuse, the more annoying the bullfrog sounds, which makes you upset. Instead of changing this state, you are getting worse and worse. This shows that the key to the problem is not the sound of bullfrogs. It doesn't matter whether the sound of bullfrogs is noisy or not, but what attitude we take. For example, we go to the farmer's market to buy food, where the noise is very loud. If you take a refusal attitude, everything sounds so harsh and messy, so uncomfortable. If you change your attitude and accept it completely, then you can hear its harmony and beauty from the noise and noise. This is because when you accept it, your heart has changed. The original heart is conflicting, divided and contradictory, and now it is transformed into a harmonious and melodious inner world. At this time, you are in a harmonious rhythm with the outside world, and you not only hear the chords around you, but also hear the chords in your heart.
Of course, life is always full of conflicts and contradictions, especially the relationship between people often reaches a very intense level. However, I still think that in order to live a beautiful and harmonious life, we should try to change our attitude of resistance into an attitude of acceptance and tolerance. Although it is difficult, this is the result, but the integration and balance between people can make us have a broad and inclusive attitude and create a harmonious environment.
A young village woman asked the doctor, "What secret recipe can poison my mother-in-law? I can't stand her abuse! The doctor told her, "You can always give your mother-in-law sweet taro paste and die of illness after a hundred days. After a hundred days, the village woman cried to the doctor: "My mother-in-law suddenly changed her attitude and became very kind to me, but she has eaten sweet taro for a hundred days. What should I do? The doctor smiled and said, "Don't worry, your mother-in-law won't die!
The daughter-in-law was abused by her mother-in-law, and she wanted to poison her with something. If she fights hate with hate, then things will never develop in a harmonious direction, and she herself will never be free from the torment of hate. Of course, her mother-in-law has no good life. At this time, only by changing our attitude and fighting hatred with love can we stop hating, and replace the attitude of rejection with the attitude of acceptance, so as to save ourselves and others from the torture of conflict.
Acceptance makes you move from a narrow space to a wider space, and from opposition to harmony. You can accept the sky as well as the earth. You like the day as well as the night. You can enjoy the delicacies of mountains and seas as well as the simple food. Rejection makes you close, narrow, antagonistic and destructive.