I haven’t had many toys since I was a child, such as dolls and game consoles. Dad may have always felt that he owed me something. I only have one doll and I have played with it for many years. Game consoles don’t even have it. Since I was a child, I have not cared about what adults want, nor have I acted like a spoiled child. I am a fairly sensible child in the eyes of adults. As the saying goes, only children who cry will get milk! I had no milk, but I never cared much about that. Because I know that as long as I ask, they will definitely buy it for me. However, I don’t want to abuse this right. I have to ensure that I get something every time I ask for it, and that the thing is worth it.

When I was in elementary school, my friend and I came home from school together. My friend was eating ice cream with relish. I don't have it, and I'm not greedy either. I passed by my father's work. When he saw us coming, he forced me to give me money. Go and buy some ice cream. You can buy whatever you like. I said, Dad, I don’t want to eat ice cream. My dad said to go buy one quickly. If you don’t want to eat it, dad will eat it. So, I went to buy it with my classmates. When he came back, of course he only ate a little and let me eat the rest.

When I was in the upper grades of elementary school, it was very popular to play a card game. I don’t know what it was called. I just went to my neighbor's house during the winter vacation and played with the neighbor's children a few times. I really didn't like some of the fighting and killing games there, including Mario, boxing, Contra, fighting, and so on. Neither likes it. There is only one game I like, which is Tank City. I don't know why I just like this. Every time you start playing, be careful to protect the bird's nest below, break through the stone wall, and be alert at all times to ensure that you are not hit by the tanks patrolling back and forth. My mother thought this game console was really harmful to my eyes, so she wouldn’t let me go to my neighbor’s house.

He may have always been resentful of the fact that I didn’t play with many toys since I was a child. To what extent?

When I came home for the summer vacation after my sophomore year, my father was mysterious and said he would give me a gift. I'm curious, what is so mysterious? My mother is also happy. Your father has been preparing this gift for you for a long time and is waiting for your return. Dad was very happy and took out a bag from the cabinet. I opened it and saw that there was a game console inside. I'm so happy, Dad, how old am I? Dad said, come and play a few games with me!

Haha, I can see that he wants to make up for my childhood regrets. So, I started to coax him and play with him. But I really don’t have the talent or hobby to play games. I get tired after playing a few times. Often, after dinner, my father would force me to come and play a few games with me. So, not only did he want to make up for my childhood, I also wanted to make up for his regrets. It wasn't long before the console was shelved. A few days later, the little aunt from Shandong came back with her ten-year-old brother, but it became the exclusive use of the elderly father to accompany the two naughty boys at home. I watched them from the side, but I also felt happy.

So, now, as soon as my daughter asks, I will buy whatever she wants. Every time I go to the supermarket, I say you can pick whatever you want, but you can only buy three delicious ones and choose them yourself. The same goes for going to a toy store. You can pick whatever you want, but you can only buy two at a time. Whatever she wants to buy online, she has to make her own choices. Give her full freedom and choice.

Many people say that you will spoil your baby. However, no. Every time I said there were still places and I could choose again, she said, "Mom, that's enough, that's enough, I'm sure."

The same goes for homework. I said stop writing and go play. She said that she would have to write for a while, and she hadn’t finished her homework yet...

Okay! A high degree of freedom produces strong self-esteem, which is better than being hard-nosed.