Reflecting on this, for so many years I've actually been a very lack of wisdom in the workplace, and have survived until now, in fact, to a large extent by burying my head in the sand and die out.

This wisdom, not only the workplace, in love and interpersonal relationships in the handling of the same lineage, so it is not difficult to find, a lot of people all their lives, do things style and set is very much like.

An analogy, in the workplace is very passive people, you do not have to expect her to find a boyfriend in the matter of more initiative, later in the marriage of how strong the dominant, for disobedient children she may do the most can only be anger and disappointment ......

I think that this kind of wisdom, the main include 4 points:

I think this wisdom, mainly include 4 points:

I think this kind of wisdom, mainly include 4 points:

I think that this kind of wisdom, mainly include 4 points:< /p>

One, initiative

I was single at 26, and there was an awesome girl around me who was also single. At that time, she was already taking the initiative to ask out some nice guys around her.

Dating for what? Playing ball games, watching plays, watching movies, attending some book salons together. I was staying at home reading novels and dreaming of little girls being chased and spoiled by a bunch of men at that time.

Assuming that we have the same resources under the same conditions, the points where she clearly wins are: she will be more aware of what kind of men are more suitable for him and what kind of men are more comfortable to interact with through her own active screening. And in the process, the way she communicates and gets along with the opposite sex will become more and more rational, mature and stable.

And I can only wait, waiting for a man to look at me one day, take the initiative to ask me to meet for dinner, I step by step to go along with the trend to get closer to others.

As to whether the other person is really suitable for me, because there is no comparison and reference, I will actually be very vague. Even say, I actually have no idea what kind of man is suitable for me, as long as any man is willing to lower his self-esteem and release his friendliness to me, I may think he likes me.

In hindsight, this passivity would have left me with a lot fewer options to fight for, but of course in case you meet someone, the pit is just there, you can't avoid it.

Re-contrasting, job hunting in the workplace and finding a boyfriend are very similar. You'll be able to do less work on the strategy and preparation in front of you, and you'll be able to fight for a limited amount of resources. Basically, if there is a job for you, you will do it, regardless of whether there is a better fit for you, or whether the job is really for you or not.

Second, the target

While it is said that everyone is a laborer, but there is also a high and low segment of laborers.

I was in my 20s when I listened to the side of a do something very powerful sister said: I don't care how others say how to do, I just want to find a way to promote this thing ...... so simple sentence actually implies a lot of axioms.

1, that you are very clear, and firm, what kind of things to do in their favor, this is too important. Can recognize what kind of things in their own favor, only to have the motivation to promote by all means, this alone has killed many people;

2, the purpose of doing things is extremely clear, because it has been predicted ahead of time, the impact of this matter on their own and the benefits, so your firmness and strategy will be different;

3, there is a very strong resilience, it is easy to do things that are often difficult to get the results that Attention;

4, when it is already clear what things are worth their time, this time to go all out obsession, in fact, has crushed a lot of irrelevant influences and interferences, try to ask how many of us in the workplace have this strong purposefulness?

Three, highly

When watching the palace drama, there are always some concubines who are jealous and die in the first 3 episodes as soon as they appear.

This is actually a very important reference value and significance for us to mix with the workplace.

Especially if you don't have the conditions to go it alone or start your own business, this kind of height and big-picture view can at least help you to be able to survive in some good platforms and promising companies with teeth.

Whether it's a big company or a small company, there are stupid leaders and colleagues, and some stupid decisions and programs, but when it comes to a good platform, you have to put up with it, why?

Like Wei Luo such a girl, if the beginning of the mixed laundry, unhappy at any time to run no loss, after all, in the laundry room maids, life as grass.

But once you enter the concubine level, if you still can't keep your eyes on the big goal and improve your ability to resist pressure, think, judge, and solve problems, you definitely won't be able to survive the first 2 episodes.

In the workplace if you can't keep your eyes on your goal, as soon as you encounter something to shrink back, backward, may appear is: week after week in this kind of big and small companies around and around, in some low-level people and circles to see some companies, not into the stream of tactics and practices, both to earn money also feel that their own talent is not.

So, every time you feel that you are suffocating and aggrieved, remind yourself, what is the goal? Is it 2 years later annual salary ** million, buy a house, buy a car, win the rich white beauty, or in this platform to get what before running away.

As long as you have any of these goals in mind, being criticized once by the leader by name, being disliked by your stupid X colleagues, and changing a program ten or eight times, your heart is not so easily hurt. Because compared to your big goal, these are just some of the stones, rotten branches on the road, kicking away and moving forward on the line.

Four, to overcome inertia

I say this inertia is not precisely the inertia of staying up late and working overtime, but to learn, challenge, and overcome the inertia of their own inertia and thinking.

When I was in my 20s, I encountered injustice in the workplace, such as salary increases and promotions were allocated by the leadership of the family relatives, my first reaction was to jump out of the way.

Because compared to restraining my anger and emotions, and then figuring out a response to mediate and negotiate for rights and benefits, walking away, running away, for me, was the least laborious and most skillful.

If you read the first three points, I think running away is actually the most costly for you. Because as long as you don't fight the good fight at a place, you're frittering away nothing more than your own years. By the time you get to the next round of salary negotiations, you should have the backbone and self-confidence you as usual do not have, so count 3-5 years, you enter the next track may still be in the same place.

If you are now as I once was, in the workplace are withdrawn and passive, then must always remind themselves: to learn to cultivate their own workplace wisdom, do not be emotionally swayed, even if you look at the money on the part of ah!