Text/Turtle in the Small Sun

On the afternoon of p>9.7, Xu, a beautiful actress born after 1991s who suffered from lymphoma, finally died in the mood for love due to ineffective treatment. It's a pity, lamenting, distressed, so beautiful, so kind girl, so she left us. At this point, we can only wish Xu Ting a good life in another world, free from disease and pain.

Xu Ting wrote in Weibo before his death that he took 311 yuan to Beijing alone before he graduated from college, and he insisted on filming when he was too tired to stand out from the waist. In winter, I have to take a bath in cold water for filming. At an early age, I have to pay off my parents' debts, buy a house for my parents and provide schooling for my younger siblings. She even said that when she knew that she had cancer, she felt it was a relief, and she could finally rest and stop fighting so hard. For the whole 25 years of her life, she didn't live for herself, and she won't have a chance to live for herself in the future, until the afterlife.

In Weibo, everyone is asking, how tired and under what pressure can a 26-year-old girl feel relieved after learning that she has cancer?

Xu Ting's parents * * * gave birth to seven children, and then according to Xu Ting's personal Weibo, netizens roughly guessed Xu Ting's life course of only 25 years:

Parents gave birth to six daughters in succession, but they didn't give up, only gave birth to one son, regardless of economic conditions; Having given birth to seven children and unable to afford it, Xu Ting shouldered the burden of the family, and spent all the money spent on dozens of films in this huge family, but it was still not enough. This family still needed her to continue to make money and make money; Her body has long been exhausted by overwork; Parents, brothers and sisters only think that she is a cash cow. Xu Ting died of cancer because she was too tired.

The deceased has passed away. Respect her and wish her well in heaven.

However, Xu Ting has triggered the topic of "son preference" again, so let's talk about this topic with you.

1. Where are parents' preference for sons over daughters?

1. Never give up until you have a son.

If the first child is a daughter, you must have a second child. If the second child is still a daughter, you should keep giving birth until you have a son. Some parents also named their daughter "Zhaodi", hoping that her daughter could recruit a younger brother. Some daughters who came to the world to "give birth to sons" were given away by their parents, some were strangled in their mothers' bellies, and some were kept at home as dogs and cats. Parents felt that by giving them life, they gave them everything, so they had to take care of their siblings, undertake housework and earn money for their families, but they did not have equal opportunities to receive education.

My uncle has a friend, and her wife has given birth to four daughters for her, and two of them have been given away, but they still haven't given up having a son. "We must have a son," said the friend. He is in his thirties and still lives in a dilapidated house. His wife's regular job every year is to "get pregnant and give birth to a baby". Without a stable source of income, the two little girls naturally can't get a good education. Every time they see them, they are led by their pregnant mothers, dressed in dirty clothes, which is very pitiful.

if you are born, you must be born. If you can't have a son, you will never stop. Even if the frying pan sells iron, you will have a son.

2. Son and daughter have different status in the family.

Everything in the family belongs to the son, so don't think about it.

Eating and enjoying is for the son, and cooking and washing is for the daughter;

If the daughter is wrong, the daughter is wrong, and the son is wrong or the daughter is wrong;

no matter how good a daughter is, she is not as good as an undeserving son.

When I was in college, a roommate once complained to us in the dormitory: "My mother said that all the money at home was used up for me to go to school, and when my brother goes to college in the future, I will pay for tuition and living expenses."

parents will haggle over every penny spent on their daughters, as if it is not worth it. They will ask their daughters to return it and repay it, instilling in their daughters the idea that "how much we spent for you, you should repay us", but for their sons, it is "what is ours is yours, don't be so tired, there are parents. "

Daughters are always outsiders, and only sons are the best.

3. It is also a common thing for parents who prefer boys to girls to exploit their daughters.

When I just graduated from college, I met a senior who graduated for one year. The senior spends very little money, saving no more than 15 yuan a day. She basically doesn't buy any snacks, fruits, clothes and jewelry that girls should buy, and cosmetics. She always wears an old dress.

Later, I learned that her parents stipulated how much money she had to send to her brother for living expenses every month. In the future, when his brother got married, she would have to take a lot of money.

Typical "parents in Fan Shengmei" exploit their daughters and flatter their sons. Using her daughter's money to marry her son, buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law, as for whether her daughter is well, it is not within their consideration.

Some parents wholeheartedly hope that their daughters will marry rich people. In essence, they hope that they can get more bride price to subsidize their sons and support them later.

More than ten years ago, farmers in Shandong province hacked their daughter-in-law to death with an axe because they couldn't afford to buy a building for their son to get married. After more than ten years, although I don't look at the dead with an axe, I am still slowly cutting my daughter and feeding my son.

second, what harm does the parents' preference for sons bring?

1. Serious imbalance between men and women

Many baby girls are deprived of the right to give birth because they prefer boys to girls, which directly leads to a result that there are more men than women. According to the statistics of relevant institutions, there are 31 million more men of marriageable age than women. 31 million adult men have no spouses, and the result is quite terrible.

This has indirectly led to various crimes that endanger women's safety, such as abducting and selling women and raping women. In any case, it is always women who get hurt.

2. Brothers and sisters are not in harmony in the family

A daughter who has been bullied and squeezed must have long been dissatisfied, wronged by her parents, and jealous of her younger brother or elder brother, which is not conducive to her healthy development.

The spoiled younger brother or elder brother will take it for granted that his elder sister has made contributions to himself, and even be influenced by this environment for a long time, and feel that all this is taken for granted and has no gratitude.

Family conflicts may be explosive, and the worst result is a complete break between relatives.

3. My son didn't make progress, and became a bottomless pit.

Just like Fan Shengmei's brother, over 31 years old, he still made no achievements, got into trouble frequently, and kept cheating on his sister in bad karma.

there are many such examples in real life. The unformed son, who has been spoiled by his parents, broke their hearts and needed the help of their daughter at this time.

Third, what should parents do?

Both boys and girls are their own treasures, and they are not treated differently because of their gender.

You should not unilaterally emphasize that your daughter must help, but tell them that you are brother and sister, and always remember to love each other and help each other.

Give them equal rights to receive education and pursue their own future.

also, if you can't train so many children, don't have so many. Instead of harming so many children, we should try our best to cultivate one child.

I only hope that whether the daughter helps her son or the son helps her daughter, it is from sincerity, not the ideological indoctrination and moral kidnapping of parents from childhood.

I'm a little turtle. Good night.