A female friend of mine, Shine Wong, told me about her divorce some time ago, because she didn't want a bride price and became a "bargain" in her mother-in-law's mouth. What she can't stand most is that her husband said something to her and made her decide to sue for divorce. What can make Shine Wong finally break out?
Shine Wong has just graduated from university, and is 22 years old. Before she officially started working, she found a temporary job as a cashier and waiter in a well-known chain restaurant. It was in this restaurant that she met her husband, who is the leader of Shine Wong and the owner of this restaurant.
This man is six years older than Wang Hui and is the leader of Shine Wong. He looks like a mature man in Shine Wong's mind. They often get along with each other day and night, and this man is good at coaxing little girls, which fascinates Shine Wong. Later, they fell in love.
In fact, Shine Wong's family is quite good. Her parents run a local clothing factory and do a lot of business, and Shine Wong is the only child in the family. She wants to experience life at work. Later, Shine Wong's parents found her a good white-collar job through connections, and Shine Wong quickly resigned from the restaurant.
But her relationship has been going on. This man's family condition is very bad, his parents are in remote rural areas, and he is the only one who comes to the city to work hard. So far, he has shared a room with others, which can be said to be no room or deposit. Every time I go out with Shine Wong, I always feel very shabby. I don't want to buy anything, and I dare not go to the restaurant. But Shine Wong likes this man so much that Shine Wong pays for almost every date.
Shine Wong is afraid to be with this man, and her family doesn't agree, so she has been having an affair. But it was discovered by parents, and Wang and Wang admitted the relationship. Of course, her parents strongly opposed the two men, went to the man's residence and resolutely refused to let her daughter have contact with him. Alas, Shine Wong was determined to stay with this man and threatened to marry him. In desperation, parents can only promise Shine Wong this marriage.
Because the man didn't have a house in the local area, Shine Wong resigned from the job entrusted by his parents, gave up his future and followed him back to his hometown. At first, Shine Wong said she didn't want a bride price. After all, she understood her boyfriend's poor family conditions, but her mother-in-law said that reciprocity was still important and meant something, so she gave her three thousand pieces, including a bride price and three gold. In this way, Shine Wong didn't have a decent wedding, even wedding photos, and lived with her in-laws in an old house without a wedding room, so Shine Wong married herself.
At that time, Shine Wong thought it was worthwhile. After all, she is willing to suffer for the man she loves, express sympathy for his family and suffer for him. As long as her husband and her husband can understand her kindness, cherish her and treat her well, Shine Wong will be satisfied.
But the reality taught her an idealistic lesson. She is filial to her in-laws and waits on her husband. In the past, I didn't touch water at home in spring, but now I have to wash and cook, feed the animals, and empty my in-laws' urine buckets in winter. But her in-laws and husband never said a bad word to her. Although there is nothing harsh at ordinary times, her husband's family feels that all this seems to be what she should do, which makes Shine Wong feel very sorry.
In fact, every night when she helps her mother-in-law weed the vegetable fields, she will hear her mother-in-law show off to her next-door neighbor that she has married a cheap wife. On one occasion, Shine Wong was going to help the vegetable field when she heard her mother-in-law chatting with the old lady who had just become her mother-in-law next door.
"Two hundred thousand? Why does your family spend so much money to marry a daughter-in-law? Oh, your family really dares to give it. Really willing to spend money. You know that my wife is cheap, and it costs five or six thousand up and down, so I packed a table in the restaurant. "
"Oh, my family didn't have your happiness. I am a wife. I won't marry if the bride price is not given properly, but my son is dead set on her. I can't help it I have only one son and I will obey her. No, now I want to go home and do nothing. Just like a wealthy family, my son still carries foot washing water for her every day. I can't help it My son is willing to follow him. "
"Your daughter-in-law can't! You must be cured. Who hasn't been a wife? You cured her of being obedient to you, making her afraid of you, letting her son be filial to you, and letting her live in her old age! "
Shine Wong was very unhappy when she heard this. She envied that girl. She used to be so spoiled. At dinner that night, Wang Hui wanted her husband to help her, but he refused. He said, "Can't you help yourself? I'm exhausted from working every day. Do you want me to wait on you? Are you kidding? " The mother-in-law looked at Shine Wong, which made Shine Wong very unhappy.
The next day, Shine Wong saw her mother-in-law mowing the grass and cursing. "Really, cheap also want to learn from somebody else's big miss. Growing up in a vegetable field, do you think you are valuable? Not a weed! " Shine Wong immediately knew that her mother-in-law was talking about herself, but for the sake of family harmony, she chose to submit to humiliation.
Until then, Shine Wong's cousin got married and invited Shine Wong and his wife to the wedding reception. Shine Wong's cousin is one year younger than her. Her family conditions are not as good as Wang's, and she looks worse than Wang. They were on good terms when they were not married. Since Shine Wong got married and lived in the countryside, they have had little contact.
On the eve of the wedding, my cousin's husband has been running around her, personally choosing the most suitable jewelry for her and taking wedding photos with her ... Shine Wong knew at that time that if he loved someone, he would be willing to pay for you and wouldn't let you suffer a little injustice, especially in the matter of marriage, how important it was for a woman.
Looking at my cousin's ring, Shine Wong has been crying for some reason. But the husband had no idea of Shine Wong's mood at all, and said to Shine Wong in a ostentatious tone in public: "Fortunately, it is cheap to marry you, so don't spend so much money."
It is this sentence that makes Shine Wong unable to restrain his feelings any longer. She said directly to her husband, "Let's get a divorce."
The husband thought Shine Wong was joking, so he said angrily, "I think you are just jealous of your cousin!" " ! After two years of marriage, I look like a yellow-faced woman. I can't be born. You think you're your cousin? Look how beautiful she is. Do you deserve you? "
Shine Wong didn't speak. She just walked away. After the wedding, she went straight back to her parents' house. It was not until her husband received divorce proceedings that he was assassinated. He asked Shine Wong to return the original bride price and pay compensation for mental damages, otherwise he would not divorce. In the end, the husband got nothing, and he lost two thousand mental damage compensation to Shine Wong.
In fact, loving someone is never a unilateral effort. Two people who love each other will try their best to give each other the best, not to let each other suffer a little injustice, instead of using various calculations to seek the best interests for themselves. When you meet such a mother-in-law, people will only take your kindness for granted.
When talking about marriage, we should see each other's family environment and personality clearly. The most important thing is to see if he is good to you. Don't be carried away by love. When he doesn't want to pay for you because you don't want the bride price, you should wake up and leave early, which is a stop loss for yourself.
Women don't need a bride price. The bride price is to protect themselves when they can't see through people's hearts. Men should be kind to women who don't want bride price, and men's families should be grateful to their daughters-in-law for their concessions and sacrifices, and know how to cherish good women who don't want bride price. After all, such a good woman is rare.
In short, it is not necessarily happy to want a bride price, and it is not necessarily unhappy not to want a bride price. Choosing the right talent is the key.