Preparing for a wedding, giving birth during pregnancy, and feeding and caring for a child before the age of three are very important steps in a woman's life. They are a process from youth to maturity, both psychologically and physically. It is also the most prone to friction and contradiction between husband and wife, and it is also a dangerous zone where the confrontation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law leads to conflict and hatred.
If you can't pass the first hurdle, even if you have been in love for nine years, you should say goodbye in that sensitive month. Mother-in-law's material commitment and cancellation to the couple, the couple's expectation of wedding venue expenses was forced to shrink in the face of unexpected events in her mother-in-law's family, or the bride's high expectation of preparing for the wedding exceeded her family's economic ability, or the fantasy of material life in one step could not agree with her mother-in-law's frugality, and various grievances demanded her to pay the bill when her mother-in-law was poor.
If the first hurdle is the infighting between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then the second hurdle is the beginning of the transition from tunnel warfare to plain warfare. After years of marriage, my daughter-in-law is not so thin-skinned and my mother-in-law is not so polite. Seeing the birth of the third generation, the volume of speech at home began to be casual. Accept it if you like it, or accept it if you don't like it.
Now everyone pays attention to prenatal and postnatal care. It is inevitable that pregnant women and lying-in women will have a bad mouth when eating this. Who will wait on you? A mother-in-law said, "We eat radish slices when we have children. When the child grows up, let me make it for you according to the recipe. Why are you so poor and so picky? " A mother-in-law said, "Let her mother-in-law wait on you. I am terrible and very thankless. " Some mothers-in-law know that their daughter-in-law has no mother, but they have to put oil on their feet. Who works is tired. My leg hurts these days, and the contradiction is coming. A considerate mother-in-law will cook you two delicious meals to increase your nutrition. When you meet a daughter-in-law who eats food, you have to find fault with her cooking. Heartless mother-in-law will let you have a big pot of rice with others, or ask you to have a baby that afternoon according to your energy, and still work in the fields at noon. If you have any objection, please ask my old man to leave. During this period, many kind-hearted mother-in-law tried their best to help their daughter-in-law tide over the difficulties. However, the differences in regional concepts and personalities will always make some happy daughters-in-law regard what her mother-in-law thinks is the best as dirt and a grass brought by her mother as delicious, so the balance of heaven is out of balance again. Contradictions and suspicions, complaints and accusations, expectations and disappointments, standards and gaps are all mixed together, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become a headless ball of wool.
The third level, the plain battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law turned into street fighting, which was quite tragic!
Who will look after these children? There was a struggle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so the three families joined forces, which led to the contradiction caused by the three standards. Grandma with children may be accused by her daughter-in-law of being unsanitary, not knowing how to feed scientifically, and her children are not served well; There seems to be less contradiction between the grandmother with children and the biological mother of the children, but the mother-in-law deliberately avoids leisure and has to be scolded by her daughter-in-law. My mother is so tired that she doesn't even want to help.
If the mother-in-law can't help with the children for various reasons, it seems that at this time, the mother-in-law has no reason not to rush. You can't say that you are in poor health, that's an excuse to escape; You can't say that you are looking after another son's child, that's your partiality; You can't say you haven't retired yet, so you can't retire early? You can't say that you want to enjoy the leisure after retirement. Don't you like your daughter-in-law
If grandma takes care of the children and the old man is noisy and tired while working, she can only make her daughter work hard to fulfill her filial piety with guilt; If grandma takes care of the children and the old man is noisy and tired while working, then the daughter-in-law can only fight with you. Grandma gave up taking care of the children halfway, and there was nothing the old man could do. Grandma gave up taking care of the children halfway, which is called cheating and wants to be lazy, so the contradiction can only be escalated. Coupled with the first two hurdles, as well as the hard work of taking care of children and the more agitated mood, war broke out at any time. That poor man can only sit in the crater every day, one is his wife and the other is his mother!
In just a few decades of life, these three hurdles are the most memorable for women. Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are women, and it is easy to stumble in these three hurdles, so there are emotional contradictions and entanglements between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, looking around, there is still a long way to go, and there are many beautiful things waiting for you to discover and enjoy. If you are more open-minded, more open-minded, and more careless, these three hurdles will pass as soon as you grind your teeth and close your eyes. Why bother to influence your mood of traveling and seeing the scenery for these trivial details?