Han Xin commented that Xiang Yu was, "Women are kind and men are brave." Originally at the hongmen banquet, xiang yu still had a chance to get rid of liu bang. However, due to his indecision, Liu Bang was able to escape and release the tiger. Finally defeated by Liu Bang. I lost my life and my country.
Think about it. If I had taken Fan Zeng's advice and killed Liu Bang, history would have been rewritten, and Wujiang would not have committed suicide.
In terms of talent and martial arts, Xiang Yu took a big step ahead of Liu Bang, but in terms of strength at that time, Xiang Yu completely controlled the situation. Tolerance and leniency towards Liu Bang is cruel self-cultivation.
In real life, some people don't know what they can do and push their luck. This kind of person can't stand it any longer and should be given a head-on blow.
When San Mao was studying in Spain, in order to win the favor of foreign students, she always rushed to clean the dormitory, fetch water and cook for others, and lend clothes to others casually, but all this did not win the recognition of others, and everything she did was taken for granted. Later, even her bed was "occupied" and was regarded as an ordinary entertainment place.
Moreover, she had to take the blame for others and was reprimanded by the management. Finally, she finally couldn't bear it, picked up the broom and drove all the people riding on her head out of the dormitory. Unexpectedly, people's attitude towards her took a 180 degree turn.
No one wears her clothes casually anymore, and her speech becomes soft.
Sanmao's struggle finally won her dignity as a human being.
Kindness and kindness are good qualities that a person should possess. Our ancestors also paid attention to benevolence and morality and warned us to be patient and modest. But there are limits to concessions, not bottomless patience. When we can't stand it, we must stand up. Don't let people take advantage of loopholes and let their legitimate rights and interests be damaged again and again.
Kindness is for people who are equally kind, not for those who are mercenary and shameless. Some people, with dark hearts, think for themselves everywhere and have no sympathy, comparable to Zhongshan Wolf. Such a person is not worth paying. If you push your luck, you should give a tooth for a tooth and an eye for an eye.
People with bad moral character often do things by hook or by crook. Such people should never work with them. To stay away from him is to stay away from trouble. Entanglement with such people will inevitably lead to great disaster and do bad things with good intentions.
If you give your kindness to the wrong place, you will bring shame on yourself. For example, if a person breaks the law, you are still soft-hearted, and even help him destroy the evidence and escape the punishment of the law. This is encouraging crime. On the surface, it is good to do good, but in fact it is bad to do bad things. The correct way is to persuade him to surrender and strive for leniency. This is true kindness.
People on earth are good at living. When we first came to this world, everything was beautiful. All we feel are beautiful smiling faces. Get good care and breastfeeding. Along the way, we have grown up and matured our thoughts. We also realize that the world is not as perfect as we thought. Not everyone cares about you as much as their parents do. Your kindness is not always reciprocated by kindness.
As the saying goes, "kindness is measured, and forbearance is measured." There must be compassion and kindness in your heart, so that you can be open-minded and unscrupulous when you walk in the world.
However, kindness should be measured, and you don't have to compromise yourself to please others, so that your interests will be damaged or even wronged.
In the face of right and wrong, we should have a sense of justice and dare to fight against evil behavior. You can't let evil atrocities do anything in front of yourself. Cowardice is not kindness, kindness is the embodiment of justice, and kindness is an insult, so we must argue according to reason and not show weakness.