I was puzzled for a long time.

The baby's father is a doctor and I am a master. The baby was born at my best reproductive age.

After three months of pregnancy, I am pregnant at home, and I am responsible for three meals a day. I don't lack all kinds of nutrients. I haven't even eaten a meal outside. I was only responsible for watching TV and walking in the sun, and I spent the whole pregnancy perfectly.

I think I have taken eugenics to the extreme.

After ten months of pregnancy, my son is beautiful and healthy. My husband and I think this child must be very clever.

But the reality is always unsatisfactory. Although we hate to admit it, the fact is that our son's academic performance is not good.

As a poor mother, I always sit silently in the corner at every parent-teacher meeting, afraid to wear bright clothes for fear of attracting attention.

In order to improve my son's grades and for the parents' meeting, I can hold my head high and feel confident. I enrolled him in many remedial classes and even hired a tutor. I didn't save any money.

Not only that, I also "study synchronously" with my son, studying in front of videos and tutorials at home during the day and tutoring my son at night.

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I never analyzed the text as carefully as I did at that time, and even the mathematical theorems that I didn't use as a child were clear and appropriate for the college entrance examination.

But even if both mother and son bear the burden of study that we shouldn't bear at this age, as a result, our son's grades still can't go up, and because he often stays up late, lacks exercise, his immunity drops, he often gets sick, and he is nearsighted in the fifth grade.

I finally accepted the fact that my children are really talented.

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I don't blame him. He is actually very obedient and studies hard.

On a holiday, I enrolled him in math and English remedial classes, but my son actually took the initiative to enroll in another Chinese class for fear of falling behind in school. ...

I suddenly feel very distressed. My son is obedient and works hard, but his grades are not good, but it's not his fault.

I finally understand that some people are born to learn, while others are not.

Just like some people are born with the sound of angels kissing, some people can draw and write poems without teachers ... I have to believe this.

I have seen a survey: in fact, school dregs spend more time on their studies.

I didn't think so before, but now I finally believe it, especially when my children are in junior high school and high school. Every child wants to learn well, but it often backfires.

Now it seems that my husband and I, two former high flyers, really gave birth to a "scum".

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I began to put down the comparison with other children, re-examine my son and rethink the meaning of learning.

What's the point of letting our children study hard?

It is nothing more than enabling him to support himself and realize his life value and social value in the future.

But my son is hard-working, kind and sensible. He will do an ordinary job and live a down-to-earth life in the future. Why are you worried about not having food?

Although he doesn't study well, he likes to tinker with the kitchen and can already cook according to the recipe. He is naturally kind, and when he enters the door, he will hold the door for the people behind him with his small hands; He knows filial piety and the hardships of his parents.

That night, I had a headache all the time. My son said:

"Mom, go to sleep. I can finish my homework by myself. "

After I fell asleep, I vaguely remember my son quietly coming to me and covering me with a quilt.

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I saw many parents in the WeChat group, talked for a whole day and showed different levels of anxiety.

As soon as the parents of the top bullfrog students appeared, here was a "wow" sound:

"Wow, mother xx is really blessed!"

"Wow, such a child is coming to repay the kindness."

I used to agree with that. Every time I see my son who doesn't study well, I will think of this sentence: the top students come to repay the kindness, and the scum come to revenge.

But now, I have completely changed this idea.

At the beginning of this semester, my son was running for cadres in the class, and the head teacher said to me:

"Go home and praise your son. Today, he took the stage to run for the sports committee. Forty children in the class chose him, and the others who lost the election were top students. "

The teacher in charge also said:

"I didn't expect this vote. I asked my classmates why they chose him. Some people say that he is cheerful and lively, others say that he is helpful, and others say that he is handout spirit ... "

In an instant, I was moved and proud.

Although he is not excellent in his studies, he can be content to be himself, love himself, love others, respect others with self-esteem, and treat people around him with an inclusive and cheerful heart. Isn't this a more valuable asset than academic performance?

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Everyone is eager for success and fame, but unfortunately, most people finally return to the ordinary.

A common reality is that parents are always used to measuring their children's quality by learning.

This is not right.

Every child is a blooming flower, how can we judge it so singly?

We should accept the ordinary.

Be content with the ordinary, do a job you like, be healthy and happy, do not violate the conscience and principles of being a man, and live this life in a down-to-earth manner. ...

I think this is also a successful life.

After school that day, my son ran towards me with his schoolbag on his back and smiled. He handed me a biscuit and said it was from school. It was delicious, so he left me one.

I was suddenly moved. I think he will stand on his own feet in the future, no matter what he does.

After work, he returned to a warm home to be a considerate husband and a responsible father. He comes back to see us from time to time. ...

This is probably the future that parents most expect their children to have.

No matter "top student" or "school scum", every child is unique in the world. Parents don't have to worry about one thing. From another angle, you will find a different side of the child.