There must be such a person around you. If you say anything casually, he can talk to you for a long time in Kan Kan. That doesn't sound like it.

Trouble:

You said that you find it difficult to make money, and you can't make ends meet. He immediately said that you should learn from the thinking of the rich, improve your financial quotient and learn to use Qian Shengqian. ....

You said that you have gained weight recently, and he said that you should shut up, spread your legs and pay attention to calories. Intake must not be greater than consumption. ...

Don't you think what they say is very reasonable? But what seems to be the problem?

Why do we know so much about their lives, but we still can't live our own lives? What is the essence of truth?

Luo Pang once mentioned why we know so many great truths, but we still can't live a good life. He quoted: from a certain point of view, truth is a simplified formula, not even tools;

That's true.

When solving problems in exams, we will recite many formulas, but we can't guarantee that we can solve every problem;

Everyone has read Wang Xizhi's calligraphy-Lanting Collection, but no matter how long you read it, you still can't write such good words.

Similarly, when we were writing, we read many good articles and analyzed many good articles, but it doesn't mean that we can also write good articles;

There is a lot of research on parent-child relationship, and I know I need unconditional love for my children. When Xiong Haizi couldn't hold back his homework for hours, it was still a photo.

Can a child repair a runny nose and a tearful one?

Knowing that "the man who can control his emotions is greater than the general who won the Ideal City", isn't it a collapse at the critical moment?

I also know that staying up late will make your skin worse and your temper worse, which will be more harmful in the long run. Isn't it the same to hold a mobile phone in the middle of the night?

Tell the truth: don't listen to what others say, but look at what others have done.

There is a big sister in the department, an ordinary employee. I am well-read and eloquent. I can talk to you about marriage, love, education, interpersonal relationship and health. I often point out the maze of office life after 90 s and 95 s, which breaks my heart; Talking about business and human feelings with manufacturers on the phone can be called guidance; The highlight of this big sister is that when telling the truth, the gas field is fully open and particularly infectious.

However, the work usually handled is full of loopholes, and the unfinished business has to be followed by others to clean up her mess, which often drags the whole team back and makes it miserable with colleagues.

Know a senior with a technical background, who often likes to forward some articles to us, such as Ren and Ma Yun's management views or entrepreneurial classics. He likes to tell us all kinds of truths and quote classics. There seems to be nothing he doesn't understand. I started a project company with my friend this year, and asked everyone to introduce some projects to him.

A while ago, a client was in urgent need, so I introduced this friend. After the two sides communicated in the group, my friend said that all problems could be solved. Just send him a sample, quote 4000 yuan, and promise to finish it in 7 days. Another friend in the group talked privately and said that it would take at least 1 10,000 to deal with this problem. I think it's really dark to accept 1 10,000.

Four days after the sample was received, this friend said that the interface was wrong, and the cost should be increased from the original 4000 to 1W instead of 1W, at least 8000. The customer was dissatisfied with his long reply, but he still wanted to raise the price. He explained the reasons for the price increase in the group and talked a lot about why he quoted such a cheap price for long-term cooperation. Also said that if you don't accept it, find someone else.

I explained to the client that my friend's skills were fine and he was very nice. He didn't communicate clearly at that time. Besides, he was in a hurry and his speech was blunt. The customer said that I can see it, but this kind of communication is really not very good. Finally, I gave him money for an emergency project, but at the same time I introduced them to another solution company.

After this matter subsided, I said that this friend should not talk to customers like this. He said you knew something. I slapped him first and then gave him a sweet date. This is my promise to customers. I promised the original seven days. It's almost three days now, and the prototype is still being debugged.

He still forwarded the articles about Ma Yun, Ren Zheng Fei and Lei Jun's management views or entrepreneurial experience to us, but I was afraid to introduce customers to him again.

Don't believe in truth, learn to solve practical problems.

Truth is like a straight line to the destination, and solving problems is a curve. In fact, there are more than N different understandings between truth and solving practical problems. After n times of trial and error and n times of repeated summarization, the problem will be solved. The same problem and the same treatment process may have different effects on different bodies.

Be reasonable, copy market principles and arm yourself, but don't want to think independently, or just try a little, but most of them are warm-hearted and kind, so they can be good teachers. We can listen to them, but we must learn to think independently and put them into action to solve problems.

How to solve the problem? How to become a problem-solving expert?

You can refer to the method in the paid course "How to Become a Master of Problem Solving". Author Qu Kai graduated from Duke University, worked as a management consultant, worked as a product in BAT, and also worked as a venture capital. Now she has started her own business.

Solving this problem can be divided into the following four steps:

The first step is to clarify and understand the problem.

Encounter a problem, first, what is the essence of this problem?

For example, an existing problem is obesity, that is, weight and body fat are beyond the normal range, which affects beauty and health. What is the essence of obesity? The essence is that the metabolic problem has gone wrong;

Second, what is the goal of this question?

The goal is to improve metabolism.

The second step is the problem of splitting and positioning.

What factors affect metabolism? Sleep, diet, drinking water, exercise;

Current weight base and body fat: the current weight is 65kg, the body fat is 36.8%, the target weight is 55kg, and the monthly weight loss is 2.5kg, which needs to be adhered to 120 days;

Sleep: How long sleep is normal? What is the sleep time now? Seven hours is normal. I sleep for five hours at present.

Food intake: What are the main ingredients of food every day? Staple food, starch, estimated calories are 7000-8000 calories;

Drink water: How much do you drink every day at present? About 4 cups

Exercise: There is no exercise at present. What kind of exercise can burn calories quickly and effectively? Screen out eligible sports.

Step 3: Propose a solution

Sleep: 5 hours to 7 hours, 23: 00-6: 30, leaving a buffer for half an hour;

Food intake: reduce fat intake, increase protein intake, change the staple food from rice to corn/sweet potato/yam, increase lean meat and eggs, and do not eat fried food;

Drinking water: from 4 cups to 8 cups

Exercise: Skip rope for 30 minutes or 65,438+0,000 times a day (skipping rope can keep the heart rate within the basic range of achieving fat-reducing conditions).

Step 4: Summarize the problem.

What is the premise of solving the problem?

Adequate sleep is the premise of getting up early to exercise, and at the same time, you can plan with a happy mood, so ensuring adequate sleep is the premise of continuing to lose weight;

What is the most difficult thing to achieve?

It's a matter of persistence. 1. Punch in the circle of friends and let them supervise; 2. Stick to it for 30 days and buy yourself a dress.

What do you need to add?

It is not convenient to calculate accurate calories and change patterns, so you can directly refer to the fitness menu in the kitchen.