0 1. From the content of the story, the trip to Moscow is a spiritual journey for mother and son to break the barrier, and it is also an opportunity for Ivan to re-recognize the intimate relationship.
In the middle-aged crisis, Xu Yiwan repaired the desk lamp for his wife Zhang Lu when she left, only to know that she never liked it. Zhang Lu insisted on going to the United States to explore the market, and once again mentioned their divorce agreement. Xu Yiwan didn't want to divorce his wife, but tried to get to the United States to stop Zhang Lu's plan and save her marriage.
Because the driver's license was on his mother, Xu Yiwan mistakenly accompanied her on a train to Russia, and many stories of laughter and laughter happened on this train. At the beginning of the journey, Lu Xiaohua, the mother, was in control of her son's life at any time according to the previous mode of getting along. Unable to bear the oppression of his mother, Xu 10 thousand broke out and had a fierce quarrel with his mother.
In my opinion, mother Lu Xiaohua never realized the growth of her son Xu Ten Thousand, which is the root of the contradiction between them. Although Xu Yiwan is no longer a teenager, he is still a child in his mother's eyes. From the daily diet to the relationship between husband and wife, the mother stared at her step by step and asked her son to live according to her expected trajectory. This tight control caused Xu Yiwan's resistance and disgust, which led to a huge contradiction between mother and son.
In his son's resistance and accusation, Lu Xiaohua escaped alone. Worried about his mother, Xu Wanwan looked around and finally saw her lonely figure in the empty snow. He was accused by his son and told Xu the truth of that year. When Lu Xiaohua married Xu's father for love, she was hurt by her alcoholic husband. Just when she was disheartened, she was comforted by her son Xu 10 thousand's understanding, and since then she has regarded Xu 10 thousand as the sustenance of her life.
In his mother's heartbreak, Ivan realized that there was a deep maternal love and expectation behind his mother's control. The rigid relationship between mother and son was eased at this moment. Through this exchange, Xu Yiwan's heart has quietly changed. His mother's conversation gave him a deeper understanding of intimacy. Behind the unpleasant intimate relationship is not control, but silent love. This also paved the way for the reconciliation between Xu Yiwan and his wife Zhang Lu.
02. From the analysis of characters: In the face of the imprisonment and bondage of intimate relationship, different people choose different lives.
The film focuses on the two generations of Xu 10,000, focusing on three main characters, Xu 10,000, who suffered a midlife crisis, his mother Lu Xiaohua, who took care of everything, and his independent and self-reliant wife Zhang Lu. The three once cared about each other, but they drifted apart because of poor communication. My concern is that in the face of the bondage of intimate relationship, Ivan Xu and Zhang Lu chose different paths.
Xu Yiwan: Xu Yiwan, who dare not face up to his inner feelings, is the most contradictory character in the film. He is imprisoned in an intimate relationship and also plays the role of husband and son. On the one hand, he is the victim of his mother's desire for control, and on the other hand, he is the initiator of controlling his wife Zhang Lu.
He accused his mother, "You have an imaginary son in your heart. What should he like and hate? He should eat some pieces of braised pork. You have set everything up. " But he completely forgot that his wife Zhang Lu once said something similar to him, "You have an imaginary wife in your heart. What should she like? Hate what? How to speak? You are all ready. "
In my opinion, the reason why Xu Yiwan is deeply involved in the middle-aged crisis is precisely because of his contradictions. When a person reaches middle age, he is no longer a child. He has his own thoughts and life, trying to get rid of his mother's bondage. However, in front of his powerful mother, he dared not express his thoughts and could only choose to escape. He reflected his life on his wife Zhang Lu and became the initiator of another intimate relationship.
Zhang Lu: Dare to face up to get rid of the imprisonment and bondage of intimate relationship.
Director Xu zhēng once said in an interview that Yolanda was chosen to play Zhang Lu because she hoped that Zhang Lu could present an independent modern female state, and Zhang Lu should be a person who never looked back.
Unlike other embarrassed wives who will eventually forgive their husbands' happy ending, Zhang Lu, the wife of the movie Lost in Russia, finally left Xu Yiwan, casting a tragic color of regret on the film. But such an ending is just an unexpected and reasonable ending.
After measuring her life, Zhang Lu resolutely pulled away from this unhappy marriage. Similarly, in the face of the imprisonment and bondage in the name of love in intimate relationship, Zhang Lu chose to leave, instead of escaping like Xu Shiwan. Zhang Lu's choice made her start her life again. After getting rid of the imprisonment of intimate relationship, Zhang Lu lived her own life.
03. From the emotional expression analysis: The ordinary mother-child relationship is being staged in all ordinary families in China, which is a tearful farewell journey between parents and children.
Many funny scenes in the movie come from life. For example, a mother feeds her son tomatoes, walnuts and red dates, and a bottle of juice, coix seed water and homemade drinks are bombarded in turn ... much like the scene where every ordinary mother wants to give her children the best things. And Xu Yiwan's apparent acceptance of secret rejection is very similar to that of every ordinary child of ours.
There are many such details in the movie. For example, while expecting her son to eat braised pork, the mother strictly controls the quantity of braised pork, just like the mother of each of us. For the most common example, when you are bored at home, she blames you for not going out to get some air, and when you go out to play, she blames you for leaving home. Mom is always controlling you, afraid that you will break free and leave forever.
For parents, the growth of children is actually a process of constantly accepting parting, just like the mother Lu Xiaohua in the film. When I was a child, Xu Yiwan regarded her mother as the closest and most beloved object. He told her, "I will protect you when I grow up", which became the spiritual motivation to support Lu Xiaohua to live.
However, with Xu's gradual growth, he has a broader world, and he began to explore his own life, drifting away from his mother who lives alone. Lu Xiaohua couldn't accept Xu 10,000' s snub, so he drove away the nanny and even did some unreasonable things, all in order to keep his son Xu 10,000.
All kinds of scenes and pictures in the film, just like the scenes that all our ordinary families perform all the time, can easily impress the audience in front of the screen and remind them of their families and parents. Perhaps only when the light fades and the years pass can we truly understand parents' deep love and endless dependence on their children. In this tearful farewell journey, as children, we are likely to fail our parents who have been waiting for us.
Write at the end:
I don't deny that the film Lost in Russia didn't discuss intimate relationship in depth, but I think this trip to Moscow with laughter and warmth did show too many ways for families to get along with real life. In the sad atmosphere of the epidemic sweeping across the country, if you are lucky enough to stay at home safely and share this movie with your family with a cup of hot tea, it is not a kind of happiness.
In my opinion, if we only pay attention to the superficial plot, we can't fully understand the moving part of this film. So today, I combine the story content, characterization and emotional expression of the film to interpret the highlights of director Xu zhēng's latest series "Lost in Russia". At the same time, I also add my own ideas and opinions to the analysis.