1, the first is the emotional response, the essence of attraction. There must be something about you that attracts her, whether it's thoughtfulness, ambition or your sense of humor. But after a long time, you gradually get used to this mode of getting along, and then you lose some of your original characteristics.

So now, you have to show your attraction again and let the other person realize your change. So in the future chat, you need to gradually infiltrate each other with some changed information, plus some dynamic displays in your circle of friends, so that she can feel your difference.

For example, "I recently signed up for a fitness class, feeling that I can't sit at home all the time without exercise", and then update several fitness trends in my circle of friends to let her feel the changes in your living conditions; For example, "I tried to cook the dishes on the menu today, but I haven't cooked them for a long time, and I haven't missed them yet", and then I sent one or two pictures of the finished products. Through these actions, let the other person realize that you are gradually changing and get rid of the original unattractive state.

Secondly, your girlfriend can't feel it because you don't care, and she can't feel your love. Some boys just play with their mobile phones when they go out on a date, and their girlfriends say that he is just a "hmm" for a long time. Of course, after a long time, their girlfriends will feel that they are facing an idiot. So when chatting in the future, let your girlfriend feel that you are paying attention to her recent situation and talk about some details of your life, suggesting that you have never forgotten to pay attention to her.

It is easy to achieve this effect by adding some life details and previous memories to the chat: "Why did you eat so little today? Is it because you have stomach trouble again recently? I remember that your stomach can't eat anything too exciting. " "You used to like this dish best and have been thinking about making it for you. It's a bit like it now. You have a chance to try. " "I saw you go hiking in a circle of friends. Haven't you hurt your leg before? Be careful.

This little bit can make the other person feel that you are really distracted and realize that you are beginning to pay attention to her, rather than being concerned and considerate in form.