Engagement, also called "Wen Ding", used to be called "Naji" and "Zheng Na". Although engagement is not as complicated as marriage, traditional customs still attach great importance to it. Both men and women need to prepare some gifts. The process is as follows:
The groom will finish the family sacrifice at home first, and then go to the woman's house by car with the matchmaker to get married. Get off the bus and enter the door, and the red envelope will not run away!
(1) Gong Guan: commonly known as "Mr. Boxer", responsible for the appointment of gift-giving companies. Tribute officials must control the number of people (even number), vehicles (six or twelve vehicles), engagement money (even number and properly wrapped in red paper) and six gifts.
(2) Family Sacrifice: Before leaving for the woman's home, the man will hold an ancestor worship ceremony at home. At this time, he will give his ancestors a "box cake" or a big cake for harvesting. He will go to a virgin's home to take a job and ask his ancestors to bless this marriage.
(3) Departure: After the family sacrifice, the tribute officer is responsible for loading all the bride price on the car, and the groom and the matchmaker go to the woman's house together.
(4) Red envelopes: Before departure, Gong Li Palace should not only take care of the number of people, cars and bride price, but also remind the groom to prepare more red envelopes. For example, the uncle who came to open the groom's car door, the "pressing table" and the six accompanying relatives all need to prepare the bride's ceremony, the bride's new friend who washed the water and the gift of the matchmaker.
How to hire after a lifetime?
"Eat rice and marry a good husband", there should be rice cakes in the six gifts.
Why prepare four-color sugar?
It symbolizes the sweetness of newlyweds and the meaning of growing old together.
The bride price represents not only the man's gratitude to the woman's parents, but also the man's face. Therefore, most of them are willing to get a glamorous and decent appearance, and each dowry also contains the symbolic meaning of seeking good luck and increasing perfection.
Bridal gifts are usually divided into six simple gifts or twelve exquisite gifts. The amount of bride price is arranged according to personal budget. At the same time, we might as well ask the matchmaker for the advice of the woman's parents to achieve the best of both worlds.
Marriage between men and women officially appeared.
Bang bang! Firecrackers sounded and the married man arrived! On that day, ancestors should be worshipped, tea should be served, and rings holding hands with each other should be worn until they are old.
How does the woman return the gift after giving it?
China people always pay attention to "reciprocity". After the man gives a big gift, the woman should also prepare a gift in return, but she can't let the man go home empty-handed.