On the bright side, they will become "Huang Zhong" and "Lian Po", and they still have the strength of World War I. ..

On the negative side, they will become elderly people who can't take care of themselves and can only rely on their children to make a living.

However, when the elderly can't take care of themselves, it is also a burden for their children.

Uncle Zhang, 68, was unfortunately seriously ill. He can only lie in bed all day, eating, drinking and sleeping.

His wife left early, and Uncle Zhang only has a pair of children, but ...

"Dad, I really don't have time to take care of you! Don't blame me, I still have a lot of things to deal with at home and in class, so I have to go first! "

After listening to his son's words, Uncle Zhang was very sad. This is raising a "baiwenhang"!

"Dad, you know I can't cook. My husband cooks at home. It's no use me staying here! "

Uncle Zhang and his wife have always loved their daughters, which has also caused their daughters to be unable to cook and do housework, let alone take care of the elderly, and even their own children can't take care of them well.

And even if children have filial piety, long-term care for the elderly will be very tired. After all, serving the elderly who can't take care of themselves is hard work, and it can't be done without patience and time.

The ancients often said, "There is no dutiful son before a long bed." It sounds cruel, but it's not nonsense.

So learn to make some plans for the future, so that the things you worry about now will not appear in the future.

What if people can't take care of themselves in their later years? Listen to the statements of four old people.

1.？ Ask the nanny to take care of herself.

Uncle Cheng, 7 1 year old this year, lives alone in a big house of 45 square meters, but lives happily alone.

My wife left early. In recent years, Uncle Cheng has little contact with children. He usually lives alone except for getting together during the New Year. He has nothing to do with boxing and chess in the community. How happy he is!

However, something unexpected happened. One day, when Uncle Cheng was boxing downstairs, he accidentally fell down and almost fell down.

Since then, Uncle Cheng has lost his legs and feet and can only move in a wheelchair. Cooking in the toilet every day has become a big problem.

"Dad, why don't you sell the house and move in with me, and Jia Jia and I will take care of you."

My son is very filial, but Grandpa Cheng doesn't want to give his children any trouble, so he takes out a passbook from under the bed, opens it carefully, and points to the huge sum above.

"I have also saved a lot of money in recent years. Besides, I have a monthly pension. You guys, just hire a nanny for me and let her cook for me and clean up the house. Come and see me when you have time, and I will be satisfied. "

It turns out that Uncle Cheng thought of "today" 0/0 years ago. He scrimped and saved a sum of money, so that when he couldn't take care of himself, he had a nanny to take care of the children.

It can be seen that if the elderly are financially capable, they can hire a nanny instead of their children to take care of themselves, so that they will not be too helpless in their later years.

Spend the rest of your life in a nursing home

Cao Dage, a 65-year-old couple, has only one daughter under his knee. The parents also understand the "water spilled by the married daughter". They are old and weak, and they are embarrassed to disturb their daughter's home.

Of course, Brother Cao seems to be complaining that he gave birth to a daughter, but it actually contains an understanding of his daughter.

So, a few years ago, Brother Cao and his wife started their exploration journey in their later years. They visited dozens of nursing homes in the province, and finally took a fancy to a nursing home in a neighboring city that was superior in all aspects and signed a contract decisively.

"Wife, we spent the rest of our lives here, and the lawn is green. What a nice environment. "

When the old couple Cao Dage returned to their hometown, they sold their house and settled down in a nursing home in the neighboring city.

For parents, the pension is enough for them to live in a nursing home. One-third of the money for selling the house is given to the children, and two-thirds is deposited in the bank for emergencies.

"The nursing home is a place for providing for the aged, with food and drink, and a group of like-minded old friends. We don't think about the future, live every day! In your later years, let nature take its course. "

3. Pass on the concept of gratitude to children.

Mr. Liu, 52 years old, is half an old man. To put it bluntly, his lower body has been buried.

The ancients said, "Stand at 30, don't be confused at 40, and know your destiny at 50."

When Mr. Liu reached the age of 50, he began to prepare for the rest of his life.

He thinks that the most difficult thing for people to give up is their feelings. When they are old, they can live in nursing homes, community pension institutions and other places, which can really solve the problem that they can't take care of themselves.

However, the feelings between relatives will also fade. What's the point of living like that?

Besides, when people get old, they will recall the past time more and more, and it is a bit too lonely without children around.

Therefore, Mr. Liu sets an example to educate children and convey their gratitude and filial piety.

At the same time, Mr. Liu also takes taking care of his father as an example to cultivate his children's ability to support the elderly.

"I also know that this is unfair to my children, who also have their own lives. However, I still hope that when my wife and I get old, the children can visit us regularly. If we can't take care of ourselves, come and help us, so that we can feel at ease when we leave. "

4. "Self-reliance and adequate food and clothing"

"I am old, but is this an excuse to rely on others? Don't blame yourself for fooling around when you were young? "

Uncle Zheng, 82, said with great energy:

"I have been paying attention to health since I was 40 years old. I have given up smoking and drinking, and my diet is very light. Especially in recent years, I have stopped eating meat. "

Uncle Zheng thinks there are many ways to provide for the aged in the world, but the best thing is to take care of yourself.

To this end, Uncle Zheng insists on exercising every day. He believes that the combination of exercise and diet will definitely strengthen the body and delay aging, and the effect is really obvious!

The 82-year-old grandfather Zheng is as healthy as the 40-year-old middle-aged man. He will only get sick a few times in three or four years, and a boil will survive.

"It is very important to keep a good mood. Old age is a lesson. I started studying at the age of 40, and there is still a lot of knowledge waiting for me. In fact, it is better to take care of yourself than anything else! "

Old people can't take care of themselves. What should the child do?

People often say, "raise children to prevent old age." Although these four words sound ugly, when the elderly can't take care of themselves, their children can't be "ruined."

1. "Filial piety is the first of all virtues"

Parents have the responsibility to support their children, and children also have the obligation to support the elderly. This is not a matter of mutual affection, but a matter of duty.

Although children have their own families, it is their most basic responsibility to take care of the elderly when they cannot take care of themselves.

At least, children can't leave the old man hungry, tired and lonely. This is the most basic filial piety.

2. Fill the void of the elderly

Nowadays, there are many empty nesters in society, and most of their children were born in the 1980s and 1990s, just in time for the family planning group.

We understand the pressure of children's life, but children should also understand the emptiness, loneliness and cold of the elderly, spend more time at home and help the elderly to hire a reliable nanny.